In dating, in life: how to be affectionate/ warm

[ANewBeginning]

I think I need some help. After a few years of bad breakups and discovering sites about self improvement etc, I've become a 'cold' person. I still make friends easily and have a large social circle but showing affection and putting in the effort to text and maintain ties has become a chore; to the point of it being absent.

 

This has severely impacted on my dating life. I don't compliment as I used to, I'm not as affectionate and I don't 'push' the agenda that I actually like a girl hence friends it always stays. I almost find it hard to even let someone in. I may chase a girl for a bit but once I get to the part of actually dating, I just go silent and absent until she moves on.

 

Maybe I've given up on my love life and even my social circle. Everything else is going great for me. Girls use to love me for my fun laid back personality and charming and playful persistence (as some pointed out) but thats gone. I've just lost the spark I guess...

[Philosoraptor]

Why let something someone else did change who you are? Why are they so important that their actions can change who you used to be happy being? Are you happier being this way, than being the person you used to be?

 

Don't worry so much about what someone else does or what they think, it doesn't matter. Just be the person that makes you the happiest and you will attract the most compatible people to your life.