BJ Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 Hello everyone. Let me first give you some background. My girlfriend of 4 1/2 years recently told me that she needed space. We met in college and spent a good 1 1/2 years near each other. We had some ups and downs but for the most part things were great. After college I moved away for nine months little did I know at the time how much this hurt her. She came and visited me a couple of times and things were OK. So I come back and we patch things up. More time goes by and then I leave again for work overseas for two months for a job she did no want me to take. Finally this year I stayed here even though we live 2 hours apart and only see each other now and then. it is especially hard during the summer. So finaly two months ago she says enough is enough and she needs space. I have always loved this girl I just had a lot of growing up to do. During these last couple of months I did some thinking and searching. I realized I had turned into a selfish non affectionate person. well I finaly got back to the old me, the person she fell in love with years ago. I realize how many mistakes I have made and am trying my hardest to make things right and to become the good person I once was. She gave me so many chances and now I am not sure if she will ever give me another one. Her family is all on my side but said she really does just need space. She says she loves me but does not know if she is still in love with me. What can i do to show her that for once i am changing and taking action to make things better for myself and us. I love this woman more that anything else in the world. I just need one more chance and I know I will never let her down again. I asked her if she wants to get rid of me and she says she is not sure. I asked her if she really wants to start all over with someone else and she says she is not sure. I know that she has a lot going on right now a job her parents divorce and a father who hates her. Please help me get back the woman I love. I was so stupid and made a lot of mistakes please help me get this amazing girl back. I know I messed up bad, but does the fact that I realized the mistakes and I am now taking actions to change things mean anything to her. I asked her to meet up with me for dinner or drinks one day when she had a chance. I told her that I want to just have a good time and not talk about us. She said OK either this weeknd or next. I then told her to take her time and space and that I am here not going anywhere. what shoud I make of all of this? Link to post Share on other sites
lostNconfusedx10 Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 asking her to do something vauge during a vague time span doesnt usually work to well. There's too many outs for her to not meet up with you. The best way i've found to get her to go out is to call her, talk for a few minutes (10-15) and when the conversation starts to get good THEN ask her. If she's having a good time talking to you on the phone then she'll be more likley to say yes when you give her a specific time and place. Specific time and place is the key. If you leave it up to her then she may never choose. Try and show her you changed, actions speak louder than words Link to post Share on other sites
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