fortyninethousand322 Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 So we're talking about dateless losers vs cheating players? Well I'm not attracted to either one. I like nice men. /endthread Notice who started this thread. He isn't a player nor a "nice man". So, here we are. Also, the OP states that the phenomenon of "no good men left" is a product of women who got burned by players and thus make this complaint. I disagree in part with him. I think there are genuinely few good men who are single, and that number declines with every year... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Southern Cal Dude Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 I realize you're just saying this to be argumentative, but if you were stating it in a normal context, why shouldn't I believe it? Every person has their preference. I realize you can't refute anything I said, so you'll just use an ad-hominem attack and call me argumentative. Link to post Share on other sites
Janesays Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 I've never dated a player. Or TRIED to date a player. Or, now that I think about it, even MET a player. Methinks a lot of the people in this thread watch too many movies. Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 I don't think women can be blamed for avoiding "dateless losers". They're bad at sex, horrible at relationships, and generally lacking in something which is why they're perpetually single in the first place. A tiger doesn't change his stripes just by getting a few more dates or relationships. Giving them a shot is not a good idea. Best if they are avoided... Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 It is very true that many women choose men who exude sexual energy versus the less extroverted, more restrained and less sexual man. But not all, there are some who don't. Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Real life experience > anonymous poster on the Internet. Bottom line is being a player does work. Being surrounded by women does work. I suggest looking up the term "preselection". It's all subconscious. Just like I'm subconsciously attracted to big boobs and curves. It shows fertility. Dude - I'm 34 and maybe it's just the circles I run in, but to be a "player" is seen as pretty pathetic. Most of my girlfriends are attractive and married to NICE MEN who treat them well. I'm dating a NICE GUY who is sweet to me. Have I dated jerks in the past? Sure, but come on - live and learn. It really irks me that there is this prevalent attitude on LS that most women only like jerks and players, and that there's no middle ground because the rest are dateless losers. So dumb. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Southern Cal Dude Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 why most? if that's you in your avatar your standards are too low. Water seeks its own level, no? Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 why most? if that's you in your avatar your standards are too low. why is dating guys who are nice and smart but inexperienced a low standard? Link to post Share on other sites
GoodOnPaper Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Don't any of you men take into account that there have been SEVERAL women chime in on this thread and say they prefer nice men? Or are we ALL the exception and not the rule? I think the early theme in this thread is that sexual attraction comes before niceness. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 OK, so there is no way to know. Why would we say we like nice guys if we don't? I know I do because I'm dating one. Now, I can't know if it's going to last, if not, I'll post a bitter thread on LS when we break up:p We're apparently supposed to be breaking nails and pulling hair, fighting over the hottest guys evah. We have no brains, and no hearts, just hormones and dollar signs in our eyes. Why do they want to go out with us again? Because I wouldn't want to date that. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 We're apparently supposed to be breaking nails and pulling hair, fighting over the hottest guys evah. We have no brains, and no hearts, just hormones and dollar signs in our eyes. Why do they want to go out with us again? Because I wouldn't want to date that. LOL Yes, indeed Link to post Share on other sites
Southern Cal Dude Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Dude - I'm 34 and maybe it's just the circles I run in, but to be a "player" is seen as pretty pathetic. Most of my girlfriends are attractive and married to NICE MEN who treat them well. I'm dating a NICE GUY who is sweet to me. Have I dated jerks in the past? Sure, but come on - live and learn. It really irks me that there is this prevalent attitude on LS that most women only like jerks and players, and that there's no middle ground because the rest are dateless losers. So dumb. Players don't become the way they are if they're seen as pathetic. Just because you think someone is nice doesn't mean they are. Attraction often does that. Just like when a woman likes you and laughs at your corny jokes. Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 We're apparently supposed to be breaking nails and pulling hair, fighting over the hottest guys evah. We have no brains, and no hearts, just hormones and dollar signs in our eyes. Why do they want to go out with us again? Because I wouldn't want to date that. Simple. You have a vagina. And for that there is no substitute. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 don't be so dramatic. stretching things quite a bit aren't we? COME ON - there are so many generalizations about women in this thread. Pot. Kettle. Black. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Southern Cal Dude Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 pipe down. pipe down. doesn't she at least deserve the benefit of the doubt? No she doesn't. I would never give the benefit of the doubt to someone who hasn't proven himself/herself. That's a recipe for disaster. Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Simple. You have a vagina. And for that there is no substitute. Women also smell good. And have nice voices... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 except a fleshlight, a hand, a narrow pipe, etc. Well, have fun with that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 most people look down on inexperienced guys especially in the 35 and above age range. you may be an exception. it was never a conscious "choice" to date inexperienced guys, it's just been a coincidence that the men who pursued me had no prior experience. Yes, dating an inexperienced guy has its issues, I had to be very patient with them as they learned how to even be in a relationship. As difficult as that is, it's still preferable to dating a "player". An inexperienced guy will make dumb mistakes every now and then but he won't stomp all over me like a player would. Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 The predictability of this thread is fantastic . 4 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 it was never a conscious "choice" to date inexperienced guys, it's just been a coincidence that the men who pursued me had no prior experience. Yes, dating an inexperienced guy has its issues, I had to be very patient with them as they learned how to even be in a relationship. As difficult as that is, it's still preferable to dating a "player". An inexperienced guy will make dumb mistakes every now and then but he won't stomp all over me like a player would. Someone like you should really be shooting higher than that. I know I'm just a stranger on the internet but still. You seem like a lovely lady. Surely you can get a decent guy who's not a player and not inexperienced. Don't sell yourself short... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 The predictability of this thread is fantastic . 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 Someone like you should really be shooting higher than that. I know I'm just a stranger on the internet but still. You seem like a lovely lady. Surely you can get a decent guy who's not a player and not inexperienced. Don't sell yourself short... Thanks I'll never be the type to turn down an inexperienced man if he truly appears to be a good guy, it may be more hard work, but it might end up being very worth it. Experienced or not, I'm sure there's a good match for me nearby. Just gotta meet him! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 surprised you're still single. small town or big city? small town. also lived in a big city for a few years before returning to small town. I suppose I'm one of many LS resident enigmas. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 A woman who is single wants to be single. nahhh Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted August 5, 2013 Share Posted August 5, 2013 the irony here is the women posting a lot here aren't the reason the thread is here. drseussgrrl, blueyel, phoe and some others treat guys fairly. but a lot of women don't though hence the thread. we're here to hopefully make ourselves known to the guys in this thread who refuse to believe we exist. I don't know why we bother though, they'll never change their minds. Link to post Share on other sites
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