smile Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 Ok so my ex and I are on speaking terms. And all was well and good. Great actually. Tuesday he asked me to go to the gym with him Wed night and I said sure I would. But then he got home way late wed night so I got ready for bed. He called and said it was too late for the gym and then I agreed and said I had hoped he would understand that I wasnt going either. It was too late. He seemed kinda bummed that I said that and the conversation sorta ended there. The next day he called my cell phone and asked if I would go with him to the gym that night. Well I was really busy so I called him back and left the list of my evening's activities on his machine and said I was sorry I couldnt fit it in THAT night but definitely an other night. Since then he has been weird. Abrupt on the phone and like weird about his plans. He was supposed to come over on Friday and pay his half of the cell phone bill but "something came up" . Then we agreed he would come on monday. He calls today and said he was at work and wouldnt be home until late but I will get my money tonight. Like rude kinda. He had a show on Halloween and I didnt go. I havent gone to any shows and he asked the other night if there was a reason I was purposely avoiding them. I said yes I was and I think sometime I can go but not just yet. Not ready to see him hit on other girls or feel like I am impeding that process. But do you think he is mad because I couldn't hang out with him? He sounded kinda pouty. I think that is silly if he is.. but do guys do that? Feel like they made an effort (when its only half a**ed) and then pout because they dont get their way when they want it? Or am I reading too much into this? Ack I dont care but I do ya know? I was happy with the way things were going and I wasnt pushing or expecting or anything. But now it feels like.. here come the games again. Honestly. How frusutrating... *sigh* any comments? Link to post Share on other sites
lostNconfusedx10 Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 yea...i think he was sad about not seeing you those two times he asked you to. It may have been half a**ed attempt but guys ask like that for a reason. They know that (or think that) if they only put themselves out there a little bit then they could always come back and say "well i didnt mean it like that" (when truly they did). He most likely got a bad signal from you when you couldnt go 2 nights in a row. If you really want him, ask him to do something. Not something small like the gym but maybe to lunch or dinner. Guys (me included) suck at trying to read into what girls are saying or not saying. Give him something solid. Let him know where you stand Link to post Share on other sites
DJ_Dork Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 Yeah, I tend to act pouty and would get ready to hang up the phone within a minute after asking a girl out and she says no. If she offers another day then it's okay - if she doesn't. I call the next week. Not like that guy who called the NEXT day. I got other b1tches to work my game with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author smile Posted November 2, 2004 Author Share Posted November 2, 2004 so i should feel flattered that I got called the next day? he even said "you should call me back" oh yeh and after a few times that he called me he said "you know you can call me" ... what did THAT mean? He is going away for a week .. on tour .. and I did have a sketchbook and pens I was supposed to give him LAST time he left (when he left as my bf and came back as my exbf) so i am giving it to him tonight along with a book i found that he would soooooo love.. in it is a bookmark too that is like something about "i chip away at the rock that isnt (insert famous statue name here so i dont write his name) " so i think at least thats nice right? If he was thinking ANYTHING at least he will be thinking about me on tour now ... truly I was concerned because last time he went on tour he had a nervous breakdown so I was thinking of giving him stuff to occupy his time. So, if he has ME to think about whilst he is occupying his time ... all the better Link to post Share on other sites
lostNconfusedx10 Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 "you know you can call me" pretty much just sounds like he knows that if he calls you its great and everything but from a guys perspective, it really means alot and can even make your whole day when the girl calls you. Ya chasing is fun to a point but the satisfaction of having her call you first is great. You could give him a rock from your backyard to take on tour and he'd love it, so the thought put into your little gift should mean alot to him (even if he doesnt show it) Link to post Share on other sites
Author smile Posted November 2, 2004 Author Share Posted November 2, 2004 he came by and we talked about the propositions and voting. Before he came by he called and we talked on the phone for the 15 minutes it took him to get into town. Then he came by. I gave him the gift and he just kept saying "that was so thoughtful of you". He kept saying it over and over again. He said he would definitely use the sketchbook and he was going to read the book I gave him this week while he was on tour. He was so touched. Not jumpy excited or anything but he seemed generally touched. He kept saying how thoughtful I am. We hugged goodbye and I told him to be careful. I feel happy because it meant so much to him. I can fall asleep smiling tonight. I did good Link to post Share on other sites
UnicornGirl Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 yay! you DID do good. little gestures can go a long way. now give that guy some space and let him wonder. Link to post Share on other sites
Sukotto Posted November 2, 2004 Share Posted November 2, 2004 yeah, let him reflect on the gift. Though guys do suck bad at reading in to what a woman is thinking or trying to imply. So you might need to give it a few days then just come out and tell him. Link to post Share on other sites
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