How to be less boring.

[shadow15]

I do believe the topic title explains it all, any who im trying to get back in the dating scene and just wanting to meet some new people; i took some a year off to find myself. Anyways i guess being out so long made me forget how to go out and meet and talk to strangers. When i do talk to them, i feel like im just talking to talk and im not coming off interested but just friendly. I guess you could say i forgot how to flirt, which is weird because flirt use to be my nickname. When i do talk, the only thing i really talk about is hey whats up or something about school and then nothing else really develops. Does anybody have any tips where to take conversations with strangers and try to keep them interested.

 

Plus theres the talking in txt, I used to love talking through text because i can get my sarcasm going really well in txt, but lately i just dont have the motivation too. Like i said i dont know where to take the conversations with strangers and try to get to know them better. Another reason i get concerned about txting is if they will not understand the sarcasm and then be turned off.

[amaysngrace]

I usually just open up my brain and say random things. It works ok.

 

Or there is always the weather :/

[czen]

I used to have this problem when I was a teenager, I always thought I was a boring guy in conversation. And actually, I really was, to be honest.

But when I actually got my life going, I actually had stuf to talk about. I'm sure you have experienced and are experiencing enough fun and interesting stuff you can just blurt out. I often just tell stories of my friends (and me) which are hilarious/interesting. I've probably told them dozens of times, but it's the first time my date would hear it, so it's all good.

 

Also, sarcasm via text is a tricky thing. I always decide that I'm just gonna be sarcastic, and if they don't get it, then we probably wouldn't like each other that much in real life either, since I'm a real sarcastic guy. So if they don't like it, then I know enough.

I do often try to text with enough smiley's when I'm being sarcastic, but in a way I always feel like a young kid when I'm doing that, so I'm trying to dial it down. But I think smileys help a lot with transferring sarcasm.

[Col1]

Be your true self. Live your life. Go for it!

[ZX4]

Here are the steps I took to become more interesting:

 

1) Talk to interesting people. If you meet someone that has cool job, or traveled the world for 3 years, sit and talk with them. About whatever.

 

2) When in conversation, say whatever comes to your mind, no matter how crude or off-topic.

 

3) After you have spent lots of time having fun, interesting conversations with people, refine your method of getting to know people in conversation. Use different kind of humor, ask specific question, notice how people react to then, and make changes to your approach if you're not getting a desired outcome.

 

Do that, and you will never be boring again.

Edited August 8, 2013 by ZX4