I call the shots - LC to NC

[Wambo]

I never expected to go full NC so soon. I always wanted to give LC a chance and with my depression I didn't want to do rash decisions. However who would of thought in two weeks a chapter in my life is finally closed.

 

Day 1

 

I quickly went into work for a few bits and bobs. My former friend came over for a chat and she was different. She wanted to know how I was doing and asked about my week off. The conversation was brief because she was called to be else where.

 

 

Day 2

 

It was my offical day back at work and I had a bad depression episode. However we both went into the canteen roughly at the sametime and kept our distance.

 

Day 3

 

I went to speak to my former friend and see how she was doing. However things went sour. She brought up the canteen from Day 2 and claimed she didn't see me. She also flirted with me and wanted to speak to me on day 4.

 

 

Day 4

 

She started her break when I was finishing mine. We both said hello to each other. We bumped into each other later and I question her over her behaviour on Day 1, Day 2 and Day 3. I asked if she was feeling ok. Instead I got a mouthful and she claimed it was me who wanted to talk to her.

 

 

 

The baby

 

The other night I dreamt we had a baby girl together. I was so happy to see my baby daughter asleep along side her mother.

 

My dream may of been wounderful however it brought me back into reality. Sooner or later her much older boyfriend will get her pregnaunt and will have greater control over her. I don't want to be around when this happens, it will break my heart even further and knowing full well this child should/could of been mine. LC can't continue and needs to end.

 

 

 

Day 5

 

 

I had no intention causing a scene and I also didn't want to give my former friend the impression I'm threatening her. Afterall we had a very good friendship and I may of fallen in love with her. I also wanted to show I'm superior to her boyfriend when it comes to treating women.

 

I'd spoken to her about Day 1 and I firmly stood my ground. I told my former friend it was her who came up to me and wanted to chat.

 

"I wasn't talking to you. You were talking to me!"

 

However she didn't see the big deal so I brought up Day 4 and what she said to me. She had enough and she walked off.

 

 

 

So it's finally over and I will do my very best to aviod her. It may not sound much but I gave her the chance to redeem herself and instead she tried to control me. If she make any contact then I will bring up her twitter account. I will expose her many lies in her face and the way she was leading me on.

[JustAReformedGirl]

Kudos to you!

 

You're probably far from out of the woods, but if you stay strong now, you'll feel so much better about yourself later on down the road.

 

Whenever you feel yourself slipping up-if you ever feel that way-remember all the reasons why NC has to continue, and the many ways it will benefit you in the long run.

 

Best wishes, and keep us informed.

[Lillyfree]

'you talked first' - 'no, you' - 'i hate you' - 'i hate you more and you smell' etc, etc...

 

dude, this all seems so childish and pointless. look at this as a form of 'closure'... this person brings nothing good to your life. you're lucky to have been able to see that.

 

all the best, and onto better things

[Wambo]

'you talked first' - 'no, you' - 'i hate you' - 'i hate you more and you smell' etc, etc...

 

dude, this all seems so childish and pointless. look at this as a form of 'closure'... this person brings nothing good to your life. you're lucky to have been able to see that.

 

all the best, and onto better things

 

Yes it was and why it annoyed me enough to abandon LC. End of the day I stood my ground and put her straight. I was firm enough with her to make my point valid but not to the extent she feel threatened. So yes she most be annoyed and good for her. She can run back to her boyfriend or lead someone else on.

 

However I need to disagree with 'this person brings nothing good to your life.' We were good friends and my situation isn't original. I had seen several topics with 'I want my friend back.' Sadly our friendship crossed the line and its beyond saving.

[Lillyfree]

Yes it was and why it annoyed me enough to abandon LC. End of the day I stood my ground and put her straight. I was firm enough with her to make my point valid but not to the extent she feel threatened. So yes she most be annoyed and good for her. She can run back to her boyfriend or lead someone else on.

 

However I need to disagree with 'this person brings nothing good to your life.' We were good friends and my situation isn't original. I had seen several topics with 'I want my friend back.' Sadly our friendship crossed the line and its beyond saving.

 

i was talking about this point in time, not the friendship prior to the A.

 

would you say that her friendship at the moment would be a positive or negative influence on your life?

[Wambo]

i was talking about this point in time, not the friendship prior to the A.

 

would you say that her friendship at the moment would be a positive or negative influence on your life?

 

You're a bit late asking that.

 

We had a falling out and I went back into NC. In the end it's up to her how she proceed with the next step. I am NOT going to start a conversation with her or place myself into a position to create one.

 

However to answer your question yes she is a negative influence in my life. The fact she started the emotional affair again and moved in with her boyfriend shows the reality of my situation. She is focus on her primary relationship but she wants me around. She may feel there is nothing wrong and I'm surprised how she keeping our fall out quiet at work.

 

Also my shifts had changed and one of my breaks will clash with her. It will be interesting to see how she will behave.