djones Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Hey guys HOws it going? I posted a message here this morning but I dont know why its not here....take care Link to post Share on other sites
djones Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 hey Atlous, What part of Canada are you from? I am from Toronto!! Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Atlous, Cool, you're a Canuck and your bday is only a few days after mine. Wantan, go for it son. Ideally I would want to date a girl older than me (I'm 26 this month) but damn, I have a thing for girls younger than me. Doh. Logically though I have the mindset a girl around 30 would be better than one 23 or so because statistically she should have her **** better together. I am tired of dealing with people (both male and female) who are young and immature. Sad that I am saying that being only 25 and all. I have a co-worker who is 22...she bugs the crap out of me and it is mainly because she acts too immature for my liking. Link to post Share on other sites
atlous Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 I am from Saskatchewan very boring territory you know. Nothing exciting ever happens here. What do the people from the US think about your election? How is everyone? I feel tired and bored and don't feel like working out but I think I should I ate way to many Halloween treats and I can't fit my jeans right! LOL Link to post Share on other sites
atlous Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Just out of curiosity what are your horoscope signs COOL WIERD is a scorpio isn' t it lovely! mmmmmm Link to post Share on other sites
Author mj108 Posted November 4, 2004 Author Share Posted November 4, 2004 Hey atlous! My Birthday is on November 19th. lol I turn 34...dammit! I'm pretty sure you and I are going to get ripped that weekend. lol My b-day is onFriday & yours is on a Saturday. Party on! Weird---when is your b-day? What day? WantanS4---about dating an older woman. Really age doesn't matter. I mean, I have a bestfriend who is 24 and she acts a lot older! Then I have a friend that is 34 & she's wild as heck & inmature. I believe it's according on what the person has been through & through it if they grew up or not. I'm 33 and most the guys I've went out with are a lot younger than me. I guess, it's my inmaturity. ha I act like I'm 26 & look like I'm 26. I've dated a guy 7 years younger than me. You are 25 & atlous is fixing to be 27? Actually---that's perfect! Atlous--I know what you mean about the Halloween candy. I don't feel like exercising tonight (I haven't been feeling well...probably cause I ate too much candy!)...but I'm going. Well---I haven't seen him since Sept. 21. The last time I talked to him was Sept. 22. Yesterday, I go over to my friends house (his friends too) & we started walking toward her car & guess what? He drove by SLOWLY like he was going to stop. I looked at her & said "Get in the car & drive! I can't see him!" I'm trying to avoid him. Thank God I couldn't see him (his windows are tinted). He could see me & I'm glad because I was decked out in my mini-dress & I've got my hair all blonde now. Looking mighty hot. Thank God he saw me at my best. Anyway, he drove past my house a couple hours ago...real slow. Guess he wanted to catch a glimpse of the good-girl-hottie that he *****ed up and lost. He's a cheater & a liar! 2 things I don't tolerate! I guess him and ole psycho girl are having problems now! I'm trying to stay strong & trying not to call him. NC since Sept. 22. When he drove past my house I did have the urge to call him & say "WTF you doing?" I stayed strong thanks to all of you. Well, got to go to my class! You all take care....this old lady is out of here. MJ Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 mj, my bday is two days before yours:) Hmm, so you two fine ladies being scorpios sure makes a lot of sense. No wonder you two are rational and cool babes;) Link to post Share on other sites
atlous Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Does anyone have messanger @ home. I just signed on as Atlous if anyone is interested in talking but I have to fly right away so leave me a mess I will be back later. We should all party together for our Bdays what do you all think of that. Meet somewhere in the middle sounds kind of fun lets party I have the money! WHO'S IN ? Link to post Share on other sites
Nick14 Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Well what kind of messenger do you have and whats your screename on that messenger? Link to post Share on other sites
atlous Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Nick you can be my first contact It is msn messanger my Screen name is Atlous Hope to talk to all of you. Although I don't have time to chat. I have met cool people on here and would like to keep you all as online friends and I am sure we will all have our down days that we can chat with eachother to get through the night instead of bugging our friends with it. THey have heard it to often anyways. Link to post Share on other sites
Nick14 Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 ok your screename is Atlous,lol but it says enter the buddy's email addy to add to your list. So I would need your email addy. Link to post Share on other sites
atlous Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Is windows messanger the same as msn? LMAO Talk about computer challenged! I have windows messanger. Is it the same? OMG I need to take a class! Link to post Share on other sites
Nick14 Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Yes it is the same, we just need your hotmail address. Link to post Share on other sites
djones Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Hey Guys, Good to hear that all of you are alive and well....I have been out of the loop for a bit Ihad another med exam yesterday, its was a hard one, oh well we shall see what happens.... Holy crap with all the birthdays I did not know there were somany scorps out there!!...Hey atlous Sask is a little far away from me .... WantanS4---good to hear from you and I am glad to hear you are 85% better.....good work Man It seems like the dating waters are being tested by a few of us, MJ and Wantan, Kodiak, and me anyone else I missed?...... Update from me--- the new girl that I am talking to she wants to meet me this saturday, which I am going to do, I am little nervous, I still love my ex, but she is with someone and I have to look out for me now.....well first we talked about coffee and now today she asked me to think up of some ideas that we can do this saturday....I was a little taken back, Ihave not meet this girl before and I thought cooffee would be nice to do for a first meeting, now it seems like Ihave to think of something else to do...I dont know what....I guess my plan is to say to her lets have lunch and play it from there...ie go to a bar and have a drink....it just sounds like a date, date now...I guess I am just wanted to take little steps and now it seems like bigger steps....I will let you guys know what happens this weekend..... Any of the rest of you guys how are you feeling about meeting someone new? anyone feels guilty or nervous, not quite there yet, but are willing to take the plunge?...... Link to post Share on other sites
Nick14 Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 I say Movie and coffee afterwards sounds good Jonesy! Day or Night. Just relax, enjoy it and be yourself. I for one is struggling with the dating scene. No one really seems intresting and theres no one really that i am intrested in at the moment, ex or not thats just how it is here, everyone wants to party. Link to post Share on other sites
Urban Rubble01 Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Yeah Jones, just take her for something casual like a movie. I guess you could try to be more creative, women seem to like that. Maybe take her to the zoo ? Wait, it's winter, I don't know man, haven't been on a date where I had to think like that in a long time ! I need some advice. So I ran into her today. Like I've mentioned, I live back in our homtown and she's up in Seattle at school. So, I was a little ways from my house and she was in her car coming the other way. She stopped, jumped out to talk. She said she was going to call me and let me know she was in town, I kind of jokingly said "Riiight" (but I really don't know if she would have called or not). She was just in town to pick something up from her house. I didn't get out of the car, but she did make a visible effort to reach in and hug me. So here's my question. I'm going to be up near her house tonight, should I call her and go eat with her or something ? She's made it clear that if I'm up in town to call her and she'd love to go hang out. The thing is, I was going to kind of go without contact for awhile, not because we're on bad terms or because she seems like she doesn't want to see me, but just because I thought it would be a good idea. I wasn't going to call her when I got up there just because I hadn't seen her since the 12th and I thought I'd go a whole month. But now I've seen her so that's down the drain anyway. I don't know, after seeing her for a minute I feel like hanging out with her. I know she's fine with it, but do you guys think I should call her and stop by for a little bit ? I'm aware that I'm just rationalizing an excuse to see her, but does anyone have a good reason why I shouldn't call her ? Link to post Share on other sites
djones Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 UR01, If you feel like that you want to do NC then do that....reember jsut b/c you are in her town, she does not have to know that, if you happen to rn into her, jsut say you were going to drop by her place to say hi....I know you want to see her...but if you think NC is going to help you in the long run stick with it.... Link to post Share on other sites
Urban Rubble01 Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 Well, like I mentioned in a different post, I'm not really trying to do full NC. She wants to hang out and all that so I'm just limiting contact. I was going to wait until she comes back for Thanksgiving to see her (she mentioned that she wants to spend some time with me) but I'm not trying to really make any definite rules. Last time we talked I mentioned that I had been inthe city a few times and she said that if I'm up here she'd like to see me for awhile. Anyway, didn't go see her. I've got to be in the city next week to meet with some lawyers and I'll probably stop by and see her then. I just miss her you know ? And when we see each other, we're fine, everything goes great. Usually I feel better after talking to her. I think I have a problem with getting pessimistic because when we talk she says all these great things and I feel good. And then when I don't talk to her for awhile I start to gradually get more negative. Then, I talk to her and feel reassured and it starts over. But I know I've got to limit the amount I see her, even if we are on such good terms. I know she definitely didn't expect me to give her so much space and she's definitely missing me. I was also pissed because when I saw her I hadn't shaved in 2 weeks and had on grimy clothes to skate in. When I see her I try to look my best and she caught me off guard, so I didn't want her to have that image of me in her head for the next 3 weeks until I see her =) Link to post Share on other sites
theone44 Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 Originally posted by Nick14 Well in my experience, I had 2 ex's in the past before my most recent one. Its funny, I didn't have any deep feelings for my past 2 ex's, but like months later they would call back and what not. Usually I would shut the door on them because, nothing was there and thats that. Now my current ex, I loved her deeply, wanted to be with her. I was her first love, etc.. she dumps me and I bugged for the month of september on and off(not the wise thing to do, but thats what happens when your crying emotions get the best of you). This led to pushing me away and probably resentment on her part and also since she's already seeing someone else a month after the breakup. Now its the 1st week of november, its been 2 months and a week since the breakup. 4 weeks of NC. Took my personal site down last week. So basically everything to know about what i am doing is not existable now. Do I think she will realize she will mess up now? No, because obviously she's happy and not contacting me. Since Day 1, she has never initiated contact first and never return my phone calls or reply to my emails. Ya, pretty sad after a great 2.5 year relationship. I have no urge to contact her since the 2nd week of october. More or less, because, she's not intrested, she doesn't care and probably because I bugged like hell in september. Maybe she does need to go thru this and realize how it feels what I went thru. Would I take her back? Thats something I am not thinking about right now, I am not saying yes and I am not saying no. Its just better to put it to rest and not stress out about it. Sooner or later she will contact u. They alway's do when they starting to miss us,but just keep doing the no contact thing,cause it really work..... Link to post Share on other sites
djones Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 UR01, I am sorry forgot that you did not want to close off total NC....Your situation sounds like mine, I still talk to my ex, she calls/emails me...Iknow that feeling you get when you see her or talk to her, everything is awesome, that does fade away after a couple of days and the yearning to see her comeback....If you still think you have a shot, take the roll as the firend....just make sure you guard your heart, just in case she wants to see someone else or what ever......she still has feeling for you and her wanting you to "hang out with her is a way I think for her to have her cake and eat it too...you know what I mean....just make sure you look out for your self, I know you want to be with her, I feel the same about my ex, but if they dont want to be with you now, you have to just see how things play out.....but I think you are doing good... hey guys how are the rest of you all? update on me the new girl chatted with me last night we exchanged phone numbers and we are meeting each other on Sat lunch time...we said we iwll do coffee and after we could decide what to do after ie go to a bar and have a drink....this is all new terrriory for me right now, still have feelings for my ex and this girl is very cool...so I dont know what will happen, but I am going to play the cards I was delt with..... take care all..... Link to post Share on other sites
kodiak Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 Hey Everybody- I guess this is the new " If its meant to be they will come back", but under a different title,lol.... Hows everyone doing these days. Im hanging in there. I was telling drjones in a post that I met a new girl. she was totally cool and seemed that she was very much into me. calling alot, texting, etc... Anyways she just stopped out of teh blu, kinda werd. She is taking her test for teaching coming up soo so maybe she is busy, i dont know. I think that i might be getting over my ex more though. This girl really took my mind of her for the time being but now that shes not calling, im kinda feeling low again and missing my ex. Oh well, thats the breaks. I feel that Im heading in teh right direction though. Its been a longtime since i have heard from my ex. Im still going to send her a bday card and the letter. I need the closure on this for sure. I know thats what i have to do. Im sure that my ex will not expect a card from me, but i think that it will be a nice gesture on my part. So hows everyone else. I have been so busy lately I cant catch up on all thats going on. So if somebody has got the time get me up to date or atleast tell me the good news if there is any. Drjones, mj,wanton,werid, urbanrubble,nick14,atlous,etc..... im glad we are all back on a new site. Drjones you had a bitchin thread, now mj, you have to beat 850+ or whatever it was,,lol.. kepp in touch everyone and take care.....................Kodiak Link to post Share on other sites
Urban Rubble01 Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 drjones Yeah, I'm definitely still trying to guard my heart. It's hard, but I know I have to because if this ends up not working out and I was set on it working out, it's going to be some major pain all over. I think my situation is fairly optimistic. I feel naive when I say "we've always been an exceptional couple" but I really do feel like that. And actually, when we talked last week she said the same thing. She told she thinks it will work out because we've always been different. So that made me feel great. It's hard to be guarded when she tells me things like that ! But I'll maintain. I actually think I'm doing alot better than I ever thought I could in this situation, she said the same. I honestly never thought I'd be able to live through this. But hey man, it sounds optimistic with this girl. Don't over analyze it, just try to go out and have fun with a girl that isn't your ex. Try not to feel bad, it's just coffee. I got this girl's number that I hadn't seen since high scool (5 years) on Saturday night and I might call her. The thing is, I'm not wanting to call her because I'm looking to start something up, I just need the companionship of a female for a while. I keep having dreams about my ex and it makes me want to have a girl around SOOOO bad ! The thing is, I don't want any other girl around, I want her. So I'm not sure if calling another girl is going to be good for me. Edit: Hey Kodiak ! This teacher girl sounds optimisitc. Don't worry about her not calling though, just go about your business. I know what you mean about missing your ex though, I feel it everyday. Link to post Share on other sites
djones Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 UR01, I think you are doing great just keep up with what you are doing...and I am glad you are keeping the guard up and you are aware so that you dont fall into a world of pain again...that is not were you want to be again...it sucks @$$.....thanks for the advice I will try not over analyse the situation....I still ove my ex and I want to be with her...but only time will tell , just like you i have hopes to get back with my ex and Ihave to see how this new girl plays out...I dont know maybe she is my "one" who knows KODIAK!! good to hear from you buddy!!! man I was thinking about you the other day, I wanted to know how you are doing and this new chicky you got....Dont worry or think too much why she has not called you, she must be busy with her exam...how long since she contacted with you?......what you may want to do is just give her a text message and say hey I was just chekin how you are doing and if everything is fine......keep us posted on what happens....I guess you read about my situation, I am going to have coffee with this new girl that i met on a internet dating site....we lots in common and she digs me...so she wanted to meet up this sat which I am going....I still love my ex, but she still is saying that she is with someone...so I dont know...all the guys here have said i should met this new girl, I should not waste an oportunity to meet someone so i thought yeah they are right I have to look out for me now....she has someone I dont...so we shall see what happens good to hear from you Kodiak let us know what happens with the new girl.... Link to post Share on other sites
bigacesteve Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 Hi all. I tried to start up a new thread when they binned drjones 2nd mega thread. Looks as though this is the new thread for us to unite again. Missing her like crazy tonight, reached for the phone and then I thought NOOOOO what am I doing? She won't answer and if she does I'll just get abuse, put the f'ing phone down. Funny I feel really lonely tonight and empty and suddenley my mates are ringing me and asking what I'm doing tonight. Working there plans around me; friends are always there for you aren't they. ***** it I'm going out, a very good mate is out tonight; he always brings the best out in me. Put some good dance tunes on now loud, starting to feel better, I think it's with writing my feelings down on this site. Thank you LoveShack, this place has been so helpful, I can vent and get sound advice from such brilliant people. I'll probably be on later telling you all how tonight went, I've got a strange feeling about tonight; one of those I'm not to fussed to go out but they always turn into a top night, night. I'll have a proper read of this thread later also, need to catch up with what you're all doing. At a glance you all seem to be at the dating stage? Laters Link to post Share on other sites
djones Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 Hey big steve, glad you found us too, I had sent a post before and it did not go through so I thought they were not letting me post for whatever reason...I think its a good idea that your "mates" are taking you out, you need to have some fun and make sure your mates dont get into troubble....having a firend like you that can kick a guys @$$ in 2 seconds is handy in roudy bars!!! ...take care Link to post Share on other sites
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