atlous Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 Actually I am still 26. My birthday is on Saturday the 20th. I can't believe I have a CPR recert that day oh well. What are we doing for my birthday guys? Link to post Share on other sites
WantanS4 Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 Well, if you made a trip down to the D.C. area, I would give you the loving of your life Link to post Share on other sites
atlous Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 Get out! I will have to think about that offer! LMAO Link to post Share on other sites
WantanS4 Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 mmmmmm....... check your PM Link to post Share on other sites
Urban Rubble01 Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 Hey atlous, what did you mean by "I skate twice a week" ? I'm assuming you mean rollerskate, but if you meant skateboard you will be receiving a marriage proposal from me soon. Anyway, I'm going to hang out with Rochelle sometime this week, anyone have any original ideas for something 2 22 year olds in Seattle could do ? I'd like to do something with her other than what we always do, eat, smoke joints and watch a movie. I wanted to take her to the zoo, but the chances of good weather up here are slim. By the way, anyone know anything about dogs ? I might be getting a Boston Terrier puppy. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 I got dibs (hehe;)) on atlous. She has to keep it Canadian. Link to post Share on other sites
WantanS4 Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 NO WAY MAN!!! I was here first!!! Link to post Share on other sites
MissingHerBad Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 Head/Heels has the right idea. Take it from me my girlfriend would have done anything for me. One morning she texts messages me saying good morning....by 7 PM it was over. The girl I had fallen for had simply walked away like that after a year and a half. She blames me for all of it and for the past monthy and a half I have been dreaming thinking that it was gonna work out. DONT LET WHAT USED TO BE YOUR BEST COMPANION SCREW YOU UP. I have had a number of breakdowns, one of the worst being last night. Unfortuanately they dont care, they might feel bad but its over. You should block them from your msn forget there number and keep telling yourself it is over because it is and by talking to her your only making it worse. I know that people dont want to walk away especially when there are feelings there but eventually your gonna have no choice and you know in the back of your head that that is the situation that is reality. You truly dont know people, you dont know what there thinking and the only one thing that people do know forsure is themselves and living life the way you know. Im sorry to everyone if this sounds a bit harsh. But I am walking away from someone I truly love and want to spend the rest of my life with. Does she care? Probably not...People have so many sides and masks to them that you never know what will happen. Thanks for everyone who helped me out and replied to all my posts. You seem to all be a good group of struggling people. We will find other fish in the sea, no doubt! Link to post Share on other sites
crazydawg Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 i feel for you missing. I feel my body and mind letting go. Even tho i still remember and want her. I dont need her. I dont need anyone. I ****ed up but if this is supposed to be then so be it. Change for the better. Make sure who you choose to be yuour next girl make sure she's the real thing. Don't fall for any nonsense. Learn from this and you'll come out better. I feel more of a man now than ever. Even tho my ex said i wasn't a real man. Keep your head up man i promise you get through this. Atlous, i'm 22 maybe just maybe you could keep up with a young guy like me. Better start shapin up to keep up with this.. Link to post Share on other sites
atlous Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 I meant I am on the ice twice a week silly. I would love to play on a rec team in University but I can't because I do not have the time. I am losing my mind this week I have two papers due for monday and three case studies how the **** am I going to do this. I need a massage mr D.C. I am seriously losing my mind. I saw my ex driving his new girlfriends car I am having surges of anger today. I don't want to be angry anymore I want to say good riddens I hate feeling like I have unanswered questions but if I phone him it will be me again initiating contact and we will probably fight and never ever reconcile. I am having a bad day today I feel ugly on the inside and that is not who I am? I need to be cheered up but there is no time. Link to post Share on other sites
MissingHerBad Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 CrazyDawg, That sounds like the exact same problem I had. She taking cheap shots at me because Im a DJ and she thinks Im the scum of ther earth. Went out for like 2 years couldnt have been that bad. I to am 22. I have loved before and I will love again. This time I may have ****ed up but it takes two to tango and it takes two make a thing go right. The only person you can ever seriously count on in the clutch is yourself...I lost sight...I lost sight of happiness and now its even worse but before things get better they always get worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 Wish I could cheer atlous up. crazydawg, only prob is you can get with someone new and think they are the "real deal" but they may go the same way the ex did meaning they go wiggy and psycho and run away. I came to the conclusion that if I ever get invovled with someone else I am gonna start a fight early on (say after a few months) to mke things rocky between us and see how she handles it. You can only judge a person by how they handle adversity. Anyone will seem like they are perfect when things are going well. In dec of last eyar I started to make a questionaire that I would sorta use with any new prospect so that way I could judge them right awya if they would be good or not. I only got about 1/3rd of it done. Ideally I would want to also contact the girl's last ex to get some info on her. I mean you go for a job and you give references so why not use past dudes as reference in a relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
WantanS4 Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 Weird, Me and you are one of a kind............... I'd make her apply for 'Sexurity Clearence'! Seriously... people say you have no right to know their sexual past, if at all anythign about their past.... but you get into something like that YOUR SACRIFICING A LOT OF YOURSELF......... i think that a relationship is the EPTIOME of PERSONAL VULNERABILITY! Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 12, 2004 Share Posted November 12, 2004 you can sure as hell bet if I was interested in a girl and she was interested in me I would find out her sexual past as well as other stuff. If she refused then I'd tell her to go get an STD test. If she refused that then I'd know something was wrong and would tell her to go fly a kite. I would have no probs if a girl wanted to know every piece of info about me that she could think of. Sexurity Clearance. hahaha awesome Link to post Share on other sites
djones Posted November 13, 2004 Share Posted November 13, 2004 Hey Guys, How are you all doing? I am going out with the new girl tonight, for drinks....Guys I dont know what I feel for this girl she is nice and attactive in all, but I just have strong feelings for my ex, I dont know I guess I am not ready to date anyone else right now....anyone one of you all are going through this?....I know that my ex has someone, and we do talk/e-mail regular basis as friends which is fine....I just dont know about my self, right now I am getting my business on line, it looks good right now so that would keep my mind off of my heart for awhile, maybe to heal I dont know....I dont know what to think...yeah you can just go out and have fun with this new girl, you dont have to date etc....I dont know I guess I am old fashioned, I think just confused of what to do...I still think about my ex, it not at all consuming like the begining, even if she does not get back with me, I just dont feel ready yet to date anyone....I dont know...I needed to rant guys Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 13, 2004 Share Posted November 13, 2004 hello boys and girls!!! I am back from HAITI and wow what a trip! Me, Doc, and Doc's son in law were the only three to go and it was great being in a small group... The people that i met and took care of were in dire need of care... we saw 500 patients in 5 working days and did about 30 surgeries and gave about 60 ampicillen shots! We made 2 house calls out in the sticks and resusitated 1 lady after she had an allergic rxn to the amp. shot! She was also very dehydrated and was not eating bc people were calling her fat...she was in her 40s or early 50s and had 7 kids....so she was very sick...she ended up being pregnant....number 8!.... We IVed her with fluids and gave her 10mg dextrose IV and she was looking like a healthy woamn with (unusual in hatians) blue eyes! We brought down $500,000 in medicines and almost all was gone.....when we left! We also hired a 2-day nurse to man the clinic while we were gone...we are going to try to send someone every 3 months instead of every six!! We always need help from nurses and medical doctors so if interested contact me on PM... and i will give info about next trip...also we are going to bring more people to help on a big building project...so if anyone interested in this, i will be more than happy to help with info... The first two days i was kinda down bc i was so far from what i had thought to be the norm....but after 1 day of helping these people, who would line up at 6 am everyday even though we started at 8 am everyday!! So the rest of the days i didnt think about the ex!!!Really!!!....It was pretty amazing....it also helps that i met an amazing young haitian woman named Nirva (like nirvana and based solely on her looks, she is the epitome of the word). I met about 4 women who told me they loved me and wanted to come home with me....which really caught me off guard since i thought that my invitation to write me (as a penpal) was only for friendship. But Father Clarett told me that the dream of the haitian people is to come to the u.s. with the white people....So of the 3 women who i chatted up, 2 asked to go to the US, 2 wore pink for our last meeting and, 2 brought gifts for me so that i would never forget them...Naturally I fell for the one who didnt request to come to the U.S. , wear pink (color of love in haiti), or bring me gifts, or ask to send her stuff! She only requested that i write her ampele (alot in creole). She was mesmerizing and i feel silly thinking about her every day since....i feel real crazy and weird and havent told anyone how much i think about her...well i told my mom...she said i was crazy....so i imagine everyone else will too...i think it is the "fixer" in me wanting to help out someone in need so that i can fulfill my role as a provider ---didnt end up working in last relationship as she flew off once she saw all that i could provide... anyway i met some great haitians, and am writing to about 3 or 4 of them and trying to come up with some fund raisers to send 70 kids to school (about 3,500 a year total or 5$ a month per kid) and send a friend i met down there to law school for $200 dollars a year.... he only makes 10$ per month! Avg income is 250$ year and most dont work.... I make more in 1 hour than my friend makes in a month! So i am putting money back each month to send him and help him and some of the other out!...it is so little that it is silly for me not to send some... anyhow, my friend, out of the blue, bet me that i would kiss a haitian girl when i went down there.....and i said no way, i wont even be able to talk to them,....well i learned a lot of creole and i talked to everyone and spent nights late speaking with Nirva, and my friend Erick (who knows some english). By the end of the trip i prollly knew 500 -1000 words and could converse with the creole people (mainly about how theyfeel and where it hurts ) but i could get my point across when i talked to Nirva, Father Clarett (who speaks English fluenty) and Erick....So i have bought some creole english dictionarys and english learning and creolelearning books for me and to send to Nirva....hopefully she and i will start a friendship and when i visit Plaine du Nord again, we will be able to better speak to each other. So to finish this paragraph, i owe my friend 5$ and o kiss someone in Haiti for the first time is very very important (i didnt know when i first tried-denied!) but i perservered and used the ole, kiss me on the cheek-then turn real quick and steal a smooch trick....she laughed at that one and smacked me playfully and then gave me a real kiss! That is a great trick! Finally, i have about 200 digi pics i can put online or send if anyone wants to see the people , the surgeries, the sites, and for the guys, Nirva! well, if i left anything out (i am sure i did)...oh they have no electrcity ,no running water/plumbing, ....The church we stayed at did have all three but no hot water....we ate well and slept great....the temps were at 90-100 and around 50-60 at night..it was very nice! oh and the day before we left i saw a street person laying in front of the clinic....the people told me she was crazy and had lived on the street for 5 years....she was a mess..her white dress was black and her skin was ashen from sitting on the concrete all day every day...she weighed about 70 lbs and was looking to be around 40 or 50 .....she had flies all around her like pigpen on the peanuts... so i brought her soda and some crackers and she mauled them like she was an animal...Her name is JENNI....She couldnt walk so i carried her (she smelled worse than anything i have every smelled) into see Doc and he said she was healthy just really dirty and out of it.....she was malnurished but wasnt dehydrated so i carried her to the shower at father claretts house and washed her for 1.5 hours and she was finally clean....we found a lime green dress for her and she endedup looking about 20-25 years old!!! it was so great to clean her up and get all the dirt and skin cells off of her!!!!! I have great b and a pics of her! keep your chin up.....i dont want my ex now, and i realize she is the one who lost out..not me! i assume this is the case in each of our cases judging by which i have learned from each of you.....you were the catch and the only way to see this ......is to succeed at being a great person and making yourself a better person in the end! then they will kick themselves... Doc-go out and have fun ...no other expectations from her or the date... atlous- keep up in school and go and ask out a random guy...just see how it cheers you up! bigacesteve- dont wait for police to start in a coulplamonths to feel better...start now! Nick- dont look back...keep being you and improve on you...she will hear about how successful you are one day and how great a husband or boyfreind everyone says you are and she will think ( what if? ) and kick herself. Weird and Wantan- i dont know how often you talk to your exes but please tell me ....i think you do weird but you dont wantan... MJ- dont call him or even give him the time of day... Anyone i missed....chin up and smile at everyone you meet....and try to do at least one thing for someone you dont know (or do) 1 time a day! Link to post Share on other sites
LexiB Posted November 13, 2004 Share Posted November 13, 2004 Great post head/heels +welcome back! Wow...wish I coulda gone btw--where u gonna post the pics? Link to post Share on other sites
atlous Posted November 13, 2004 Share Posted November 13, 2004 Welcome back Head/heels I am so happy when I read your posts. I seriously think that is the reason I am in the medical field is to give back. It sounds like an amazing experience. We have an option of going to Africa or India in our fourth year. I am so excited it is only for a few months but we are graded on our clinical performance. May be I will meet my future husband out there? LOL that is the last thing on my mind! That story was awesome! I can't wait for another year and then I will be registered. Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 13, 2004 Share Posted November 13, 2004 it was really great! if you are going into medicine (or even if you are not) this would be a great vacation as it really made me feel silly for being upset over a silly girl... it really made me see that i am worthy of what i sow and it is up to me to make my life as happy as possible since i am in a position to have anything i need and that i am very fortunate to live where i live... it was really cool to see people smiling and putting their faith in god (95% are catholic) and making the best of it! they really were just happy to be. It would be great if any of you would want to go for a week for a vacation....it was the best vacation i have ever had and i was working for 8-10 hours a day! it was real rewarding and made me appreciate the knowledge i gained in school and allowed me to use my people skills to comfort and talk to people...i just bought creole-english books online and am sending them to my friends down there along with some stuff that they might need... well, i am happy to be back although i miss it too... i could really get used to living down there.....i played volleyball down there with some of the best players in the neighborhood and I wowed them out there (father clarett told me later what the other guys said about me..) that made me feel great!... and i will always remember Nirva in her volleyball shorts (if you could call them that)....too bad i forgot to run in and get my camera! Sorry guys....I never thought i would be attracted or find someone as hot and classically beautiful as my ex....i guess i was wrong...she like my ex, is unforgetable.... if only she didnt live 1000 miles + away! and no phone, email .....only snail mail.....well there is a phone but it is at the church and is only available from 9-12 each day... Please realize everyone that we cannot give in and call bc it has to be on their terms and when they want to (if they ever do) come back...just make sure they know that the lines of communication are open and then go on with your life.... if they come back, then you have to say- do i want someone who left me to see about someone else and when that failed they came running back to me? I know i wouldnt....my ex, as beautiful as she is and what we had was unbelivable in my mind, i am 100% sure that we will never be... i wouldnt take her back.... if your ex didnt leave to find out about someone else (which is few and far between on this thread) then by all means take her back if you love er and she loves you.... but dont push and go calling when you have a hard time...just write on here instead and dont think that some real smooth letter or something will work...it wont...only when she/he is ready will that work to bring them back...they have to decide on their own! Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 13, 2004 Share Posted November 13, 2004 i have a CD with all the pics on it but i dont know how to send the pics to one site for viewing...i can send individually but i hear that woudl take forever.. any suggestions.. i dont have any website or knowledge of how to do one... i need Nick! Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 14, 2004 Share Posted November 14, 2004 head/heels, cool man can't wait to peep the pics. Yeah I talk to my ex. How often depends on when she comes online and if I am there to talk to her. Lately it hasn't been all that often. No biggie because she doesnt have much sueful stuff to say. She is taking me out to dinner next week for my bday. Gonna prolly be so boring but whatever, it is a nice free meal. Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 14, 2004 Share Posted November 14, 2004 let it be boring Weird....even if you dont want her back....show her what she is missing! i.e. (have a close gf give you a call and tell her (in front of your ex) that once you get done with dinner you would love to meet her for a drink at her house and ask if you could bring the drinks...then ask what she likes....) when your ex thinks you are blowing her off for another girl she will definitely be jealous and know that you dont spend your days seeking her anymore and that she might have lost you as a lover (not a friend , but do you really want just that?)... I dont know if this is sound advice, but i know that you havent spoken in a while 1.5 years and now she is getting mad whenever you dont answer her IMs even though you are not online....she sounds like she is not sure if she wants you or not... this is one way to edge her feelings towards you or at least see if she has any fight in there for you left.... but dont let it be boring....no no no.....and dont let there be talk of you two... only that you are great and therefore she lost you and your phonecall will help her see you arent lying... may be childish but then again what have you to lose....all is fair in love and war.... anyone else think he should mix it up and throw her a curveball? Link to post Share on other sites
head/heels Posted November 14, 2004 Share Posted November 14, 2004 let it be boring Weird....even if you dont want her back....show her what she is missing! i.e. (have a close gf give you a call and tell her (in front of your ex) that once you get done with dinner you would love to meet her for a drink at her house and ask if you could bring the drinks...then ask what she likes....) when your ex thinks you are blowing her off for another girl she will definitely be jealous and know that you dont spend your days seeking her anymore and that she might have lost you as a lover (not a friend , but do you really want just that?)... I dont know if this is sound advice, but i know that you havent spoken in a while 1.5 years and now she is getting mad whenever you dont answer her IMs even though you are not online....she sounds like she is not sure if she wants you or not... this is one way to edge her feelings towards you or at least see if she has any fight in there for you left.... but dont let it be boring....no no no.....and dont let there be talk of you two... only that you are great and therefore she lost you and your phonecall will help her see you arent lying... may be childish but then again what have you to lose....all is fair in love and war.... anyone else think he should mix it up and throw her a curveball? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mj108 Posted November 14, 2004 Author Share Posted November 14, 2004 Looks like I have a lot of reading to do. lol I'll have to go back & see how everyone is doing. I hope everyone is doing great! Sorry I haven't posted in awhile. I've been busy at work & working on my house. Also, I've been hanging out with friends being the 3rd or 5th wheel. lol I've been very busy but it has kept my mind off my ex. I do have news about my ex. I'll have to explain things later when I have time but my ex asked his brother about me & said he was going to call tomorrow or Tuesday. So we'll see. Just pray I'm strong & the old feelings for him doesn't come back. Hey atlous---what are your plans for your b-day? I'm building/burning a bon-fire in my backyard (I'm on a lake It should be cool. That is if it's not too cold. ha Anyway, I'm going to have the fire going with a brew in BOTH hands. lol I hope you have a good one girl! Well, everyone---I will get back to you later. I have to read all your post. It's going take awhile. I hope everyone is doing good. Take care! MJ Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 14, 2004 Share Posted November 14, 2004 head/heels, Thanks for the advice but I am not going to do that. The thing is, I really don't care that much about what goes on with my ex so I do not want to spend time trying to make her feel jealous or whatever. When you don't talk to someone for close to 1.5 years you sorta realize that you don't need them in your life and the way I see it, if my ex wants to continue being emotionally immature she can go ahead and do it. She hasn't changed since before and I am way past the stage of dealing with that. Also, I refuse to put forth more effort into getting us closer because I have initiated EVERYTHING since the day we first met. It gets tiring to always be the person initiating things so if she truly wants us to be closer she can make the effort for it to happen. Almost every friend who knows about this stuff says they have no idea how I keep putting up with her because they'd have got fed up by now with her weirdness...I just shrug my shoudlers to it and get a laugh out of it. I also am 99% certain she won't find a guy who can deal with her issues like I can/could and that is good piece of mind. Again, thanks for the advice but I am just going to eat the steak and reply to her talking about herself since that is all she can do these days. Link to post Share on other sites
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