How Long For Nc Until The Ex Knows They Have Messed Up!

[Charlane]

Originally posted by mj108

 

Charlane---Thanks for your advice. I need to think about myself for a change & take my turn too. Thank you for your advice...I need to read up on the other post to catch up but had to vent, you know?

 

I think I will go on a date Friday & see what happens. If I think of him...so be it...I'll just think of him at home or whereever I'm at, right? I mean, might as well think of him while I have eye candy to look at. lol JK

 

The guy you are with now is he younger? I know you said your ex is younger. All the guys calling me are younger. I know you say he's a hottie & has a killer bod? LOL You go girl!

 

PS Wonder who is going to break in the 300th post? Ha.

 

 

 

MJ, he's 32 and I'm 43. This isn't the first time that I have been with a person this age. The last one lasted for four months and I stopped seeing him in favor of my ex! Well, it was that and the fact that he was a loaded cannon and it was a matter of time before something happened.

 

The best of holidays to everyone .

[crazydawg]

Hey MJ, Your ranting truly got to me, I'd really like to be there and hold you. Funny i've been looking for a girl like you... My ex left me for a druggie and i'm the total opposite.. funny how things work.

 

BTW i know for a fact he will remember how good you were to him, maybe not now but sooner or later he will.

 

My mistake:

I left the girl that did everything for me, wrote me love letters, bought me gifts, made me dinner, picked me up everywhere. For this girl that never appreciated anything i did. A very selfish girl. She in turn dumped me to get back with her druggie boyfriend. Broke my heart. Even though i did everything for her.

 

My Lesson:

I really see what my first ex was to me. Its too late now, and i've apologized 100's of times for ever ruining what we had, for garbage. . . The next relationship i'm in i'm going to appreciate the little things, but never get to ahead of myself. People are very selfish, they want what they think is good at the moment. In the long run, we all want that someone who cares.

 

Mj your boyfriend won't forget you, if you were a good girlfriend. I promise you..

[WantanS4]

mj108,

 

Betting on me gettin laid by january 1st would be like asking to hit the lottery 9348750349 times in a row....... it would never happen, well... at least not in a good sense. I'm sure there's plenty of meat out there.... but I can't help but wonder whose been where..... and the thought of getting sick or getting someone pregnant.... yugh!

 

I don't know.......... i'm one of those who would consider it but probably not go through with it because of my conscience.......

[Charlane]

Originally posted by crazydawg

My mistake:

I left the girl that did everything for me, wrote me love letters, bought me gifts, made me dinner, picked me up everywhere. For this girl that never appreciated anything i did. A very selfish girl. She in turn dumped me to get back with her druggie boyfriend. Broke my heart. Even though i did everything for her.

 

My Lesson:

I really see what my first ex was to me. Its too late now, and i've apologized 100's of times for ever ruining what we had, for garbage. . . The next relationship i'm in i'm going to appreciate the little things, but never get to ahead of myself. People are very selfish, they want what they think is good at the moment. In the long run, we all want that someone who cares.

 

Mj your boyfriend won't forget you, if you were a good girlfriend. I promise you..

 

Wow crazydawg, these are all of the things that I did for me ex. I'm just like that and can't change either. I won't because I actually like to be nice.

 

How long was it after that that you tried to see your first ex again? Maybe you should keep an open dialogue with her. You never know. My fingers are crossed for you.

[Charlane]

I'm not sure what's going on, but this seems insane. This weekend alone I received over 60 emails and winks for online dating. I've never received so much of this in my life and it doesn't stop here. It's still coming. I feel like a Russian immigrant bride. What is going on? I mean I look ok, but this???? Last year when I was on, I got maybe one or two date emails a week. This is wierd.

 

The really wierd thing was that last year I couldn't get a date with a guy close to my age if he fell into my lap or he was really less than perfect in someway because I was NEVER desparate. It was always the guys that were 10+ years younger than me and really thought I was just da bomb.

 

I don't think I look all that to get this kind of response. Why are these guys not finding women? Is it an economical thing? It's either a study or a conspiracy.

[Weird]

Now I'm asking myself...Why did he leave me for someone that treats him terrible? My love wasn't good enough? My candlelight dinners wasn't good enough? My massages wasn't good enough? My blanket under the stars...with a picnic at night...wasn't good enough? Writing him love poems wasn't good enough? My passion wasn't good enough? My heart/body/soul wasn't good enough? I'm wondering & keep wondering why he left. I was so good to him but yet...he wanted her...someone who would mistreat him

 

Because humans are *****ed in the head. Seriously, people are going more insane every passing day. Boggles my mind. There is no reason for that guy to give up that awesome treatment for someone who is a bitch simply because he is insane. For some odd reason there are people who just turn their back at good things and being treated well. Why? I don't know.

 

I know you already know this but I'll say it anyway....you are better than this guy and he isn't good enough for you. Me thinks in due time you'll feel much better because it is still pretty early and the emotional part of your brain is dominating the rest of your brain. I felt that way for months after my ex and I broke up and it pissed me off because I knew I was a good guy for/to her and it was her loss but I still felt like crap and I screwed something up. Once the emotional part of my brain was 'defeated' I flt a lot better. I say in a little while you'll feel better and I think going out on some dates would probably do you good.

 

I have a pretty nice home theatre at my shanty and I wish I could have you peeps over to watch some movies, drink some beer and eat some popcorn. I think it'd be fun and would be a good diversion to thinking about the stupidheads out there that gave up good relationships.

[mj108]

Yep---after all the crying the other night over him & then me venting on here PO at him....I woke up this morning with a note on my front door. I didn't even know the note was out there until one of my friends told me that he stopped by their house & told them he left a note on my door & didn't knock on my door because he figured I was in bed. The only thing the note says is: " From your one & only---Just thought I'd stop by to check on you. Take care..." WTF?

 

Thanks to my online family here for giving me the strength & the advice I need to hear! Yeah---he doesn't deserve me! Why the hell should I pick up the phone & tell him "Oh..I got your note...." ***** it! He hasn't wasted his time for the last couple months to finish our conversation...why should I even waste my time? To be honest though...I do still love him. I mean, I shared 2 1/2 years with him...it's going to take more than 2 months to get over it. I just have to be strong & thank you all so much for helping me remain strong. I don't know what I would had done if I wouldn't had found this site & drjones/kodiaks post.

 

Weird---you better believe if I lived in Canada I would come over & eat some popcorn & chug some beer. Thanks for your advice.

You are right....it seems everyone is insane out there. ha

 

Charlane---what online dating site are you on? Hmm...maybe I should get on there. ha Oh---about younger guys flocking to you---I have the same thing happen to me all the time! It seems I'm never going to end up with anyone my own age or older. It's going to be with someone younger---always will be that way. Guess, because I look 25 than 34. lol

 

Crazydawg---thanks for the advice. I'm not going to change. I'm trying not too...I'm trying to stay the sweet-good girl MJ. I've been hurt so many times that sometimes I feel like my heart is getting cold & turning into stone---but I try not to let it. I don't want to be one of the crazy B's out there that is mean as hell because they have been hurt so much, you know?

 

WantanS4---I hear you buddy! Too many things out there. It's scary what is out there now.

[crazydawg]

Charlene, me and my ex ex always had a somewhat friendly relationship. We haven't really spoke unutill after i broke up with my current relationship, I love my old ex as a person, we both love each other in that way.. she's with a guy that treated her like **** before. I'm not a person to get involved into that. I think about her and think back why did i do what i did. I hope i meet someone who is appreciated of what i do and stands by me thick and thin.

[Weird]

Thanks to my online family here for giving me the strength & the advice I need to hear! Yeah---he doesn't deserve me! Why the hell should I pick up the phone & tell him "Oh..I got your note...." ***** it! He hasn't wasted his time for the last couple months to finish our conversation...why should I even waste my time? To be honest though...I do still love him. I mean, I shared 2 1/2 years with him...it's going to take more than 2 months to get over it. I just have to be strong & thank you all so much for helping me remain strong. I don't know what I would had done if I wouldn't had found this site & drjones/kodiaks post.

 

Hell ya sister. Don't call him to say you got the note or anything. WTF leaves a lame ass note like that on the door anyway?

 

I understand still loving the guy but you may find out in time that you love the guy you were with not the guy he is now. Take me...I love my ex how she used to be but don't love the person she is now.

 

Whhhhhhhhhy do people change for the worse? I am pretty much the same Rob as I always have been except I have been slightly upgraded in the maturity department and have improved in some other areas but the core Me is still the same and will stay the same even if I somehow became the outcast of this planet's 6.3 billion population. I refuse to change in a negative way.

 

It is good to hear babe that you aren't going to change despite the fact you have been jerked around by a bunch of pricks. The world needs more people (especially females) like you.

 

 

Question of the day for this thread....

 

Why do decent people wo seem normal go silly?

[Sukotto]

I'm using the Scott 2.0 kernel, with a few patches on the personal fitness department thats it. I know that I'm in love with the memory of my ex but not the current person, when I speak to her she just asks completely differently and thats been making it easier for me. I just need to convince the mind that things wont happen with us because we've changed as people and if I met her tomorrow for the first time then I dont think any sort of relationship would occur.

 

Thats a lame ass note, where's the roses and sweet sentimental letter? To be honest i'd just return the letter to him, go stick it on his door!

[djones]

Hey Guys,

 

I am pi$$ed, from reading MJ's post, this guy is a peice of work, I cant believe thats all he wrote or for that matter did not contact you MJ in person, what kind of crap is "oh I thought you may be sleeping"...WTF kind of crap is that??....you gave him every opportunity to reach out and this is all he can do, is leave a lame a$$ note......I am sorry MJ you deserve way better than that.....Just move on, dont give him the satifaction of replying to his letter....I know you love this guy, but this guy should have stepped up and showed that he does care for you....I hate these *****ing relationship game ie the chase and all that crap....I know some people do that to see if they love you....***** I just tired of it.....why cant people just grow the ***** up....we are not in grade school!!....

MJ you better than that and you deserve a guy to treat you right.....all the people here posting on this site deserves way the ***** better....I just dont know why when you treat someone good that they have to leave us.....what the ***** do they think? that we will be mean to them later???? I just dont know why this is the case for most if not all of the break ups here that i have read.....I tired of this s***.....and now with the holydays comming it just makes it worse...today i went shopping and all the stores are playing Chrismas songs...it just makes me depressed b/c I am alone, You all know that I am starting to date...but my heart is still empty you know what i mean its not the same when you are in love.....and this "happy" time of the year just blows chuncks!!

Well guys I had to vent and rant right now, it was just brewing in me and I think MJ's note from the Ex was the straw that broke the cammel's back......nothing new on my end I hope all of you are doing well, I know that some of you my american cousins is your Thanksgiving....I just want say have a good one and enjoy it with your family....

Guys I just hope our luck will change soon...not just dateing...but actually finding that "one"...if he/she exists...I am still tring to find that answer!!!....take care

[Charlane]

Originally posted by mj108

Yep---after all the crying the other night over him & then me venting on here PO at him....I woke up this morning with a note on my front door. I didn't even know the note was out there until one of my friends told me that he stopped by their house & told them he left a note on my door & didn't knock on my door because he figured I was in bed. The only thing the note says is: " From your one & only---Just thought I'd stop by to check on you. Take care..." WTF?

 

Charlane---what online dating site are you on? Hmm...maybe I should get on there. ha Oh---about younger guys flocking to you---I have the same thing happen to me all the time! It seems I'm never going to end up with anyone my own age or older. It's going to be with someone younger---always will be that way. Guess, because I look 25 than 34. lol

 

 

 

Ohmigod, does that guy ever have a phat ego. BTW, he is NOT your one and only. What a ****.

 

Match.com! I'm CharlaneinTX if you want to look at my dating profile so you can get an idea of how to go about it. I bought 3 months for $45 bills but it pays for itself in dates. I have a friends profile too and I'm trying to get a grrrl posse together to critique clubs. You know how it is. It's a tough job but someone has to do it.

 

My cousin is coming from Austin so I believe that she, my other cousins and friends are going to go out and be the divas.

 

ACCEPT NO SUBSTITUTES!

 

Happy Holidays! Don't call the ego whatever you do!

[kodiak]

Hey Everybody-

 

Thanks for the replies to my last post. I am feeling better today I guess but i know tomorrow is going to kinda suck. I have to be at work all day and night. Im sure i will miss her but oh well. I will post more later.

 

head/heels- so you dont think i should send the card now. I see hwat you are saying but i dont think my ex still loves me. I mean she hasnt called in two months now as were she was calling every three weeks before. Sure she still loved me when we broke up but teh distance, etc got to her. However that was six months ago. I dont know what to do now...

[bigacesteve]

MJ,

What an arrogant tosser your ex is!!!

"From your one & only---Just thought I'd stop by to check on you. Take care..."

He wants to check up on you by sending you a crappy letter??? Talk about no effort, he's hoping you'll do everything now. He's 'fishing', he's just sitting back and waiting for you to bite, then he'll reel you in. He's landed a whale, he now wants the prize Marlin. You're way too good for this chump; what a lazy, selfish thing to do. I'm sorry MJ, I hope he hasn't stirred things up inside you again. You don't need this s***. I'd do nothing about it, ignore it and carry on doing what you've been doing. Maybe one day he will put in some effort and write more than 1 lame sentence. Over 2 months of pain and hard work on your part cannot be wiped out by 1 pants, self-centred, w4nky sentence! Keep strutting your funky stuff darling.

 

Charlane,

I've just sent you a wink on Match.com; I can see why you get a lot of attention, foxy chick! I'm StevieC_1976 by the way.

 

DrJones,

I know what you mean about seeing someone else and the ex keeps popping into your head. She's there waving "yoo hoo! why are you with her? you should still only love me". If you think this new girl is worth a shot then give her a chance. It's difficult but you need to stop comparing. Your ex already has an advantage over every woman you will meet after her, she has already won your heart. The new ones have got to prove themselves to you. Thinking about it... your ex would have to probably prove it again to you; if you ever did get back together?? I don't think I could trust my ex with my feelings again to be honest; she'd have to do something pretty *****ing incredible stuff!!!

 

Weird,

I feel as though I never really knew my ex. We used to talk and talk, we did everything together and we talked about our future together. She used to tell me she loved me all the time, even a few days before we split she stressed just how much she loved me. Amazing how she could do that. If I don't love someone I really can't say it and I can't pretend; there's a mental block that stops me.

I think I'd be in your boat if I did finally get on speaking terms with her. She'd be chinwagging about how busy she is, how much coursework she's not been doing, how she can't afford her lodgings, how she doesn't speak to her father, blah blah blah. My ex ex from years did this everytime we saw each other after the split. She'd gas about everything she was doing and never ask about how I was, nothing; it was just me me me. You end up sitting there nodding at someone who looks like your ex but somehow... it's just not her and you want to go home.

 

 

Had my police medical today and I've been told that I'm an awesome specimen!! Her words. The doc was gob smacked with my fitness, hearing, eye sight, lung function, etc. For all you doctors on here, I had Acromegally (gigantism), that's why I'm 6ft 7. I had it all sorted out in 1998 and now I'm amazingly healthy, I'm a lucky man. The doctor today was gobsmacked at how lucky I have been with it. I'm all in proportion, my heart is healthy and I take no medication. It felt good to have a group of people stand there and say wow. So that's it, I've passed and I start my police training 31st Jan, can't wait!!! Come on New Year!!!

 

I thought should I tell my ex... NAAAHH, she doesn't want anything to do with me so sod her.

 

I called around my mothers today after the medical and she told me that she had seen my ex yesterday. My ex didn't see her. My mother wanted so much to go over to her and tell her what she thought of her but she managed to control herself (wow). Glad she did; my mum is not usually a think first person, she just goes 'straight for the throat'. "WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO MY LOVELY BOY!!!".

 

Anyway I can now think about handing in my notice to my pillock of a boss. He's going to be knackered when I leave. I'm written loads of software for the local councils and only I know how it all works and only I can make any changes, ha ha ha! He asked me the other day when I would be leaving. I told him I didn't know. He looked really worried because he keeps telling the councils that we can do the work and he gets the contracts. I won't be here to do the work though. I did warn him and I told him to get someone trained up so they could replace me... has he done it? Has he *****.

 

Don't worry about feeling lonely over the holidays dudes, you're only as lonely as you allow yourselves to be. Get your gladrags on and get partying. I felt like s***e again tonight so I went boxing and it was mega.

 

You only live once, just make the most of it. Be happy everyone, that's an order.

[Weird]

Steve,

 

I hear you on the MJ thing. I think I glossed over the "from your one and only" line when I first read it this morning. HOW THE ***** does he get the nerve to post some lame **** like that? I want to go slap the taste out of his mouth and slap it back in a few times but me thinks LIFE is doing it for me.

 

I also agree about sitting across from the girl and thinking "wtf is this person in my ex's body?" and well, on Friday night I wanted to cut off my nuts with the steak knife so I'd have had a reason to get the hell out of there.

 

Congrats on the medical! Man, you are going to be one scary officer. I'd be frightened if I did a crime and saw your gigantic ass coming after me.

 

haha, I like your order officer Steve.

 

I too hope all my yank friends here will be ok during their holiday. Even though it isnt our T-day here in Canuckland I am taking the day off to watch the Colts kill the Lions.

 

On an unrelated note, I scratched the inside of my throat while eating lunch today. Hurts like a banshee.

[Urban Rubble01]

Well, I won't repeat what others said about MJ's situation. But yeah, that's lame.

 

Steve, your mom sounds like mine. My mom wanted to call my ex up and talk to her afterwards ! I had to calm her down. I mean, I wasn't even mad at the girl, she went about it all as best she could, but mommy wasn't hearing. =) Good to hear you're doing well.

 

I'm doing SO much better these last 2 weeks. Hanging out with this girl and generally just forcing myself not to worry too much about it is working wonders. I've stopped counting the days since I've last talked to my ex, so that's a good sign. I still think about her a miss her alot, but like I said before, that physical pain seems to be weakening.

 

This new girl isn't anything serious, but she really is cool and I am loving hanging out with her, and that scares the hell out of me. Like I said, I'm really amazed and slightly guilty that I'm at all interested in her. It sucks because, even if things with my ex weren't ever going to work out, I still couldn't let myself get into a relationship with anyone anytime soon. I'd like this girl to be there to hang out with and all that without leading her on and making her think I'm going to be her boyfriend (at least anytime soon). Am I being unrealistic ?

[Sukotto]

All relationships start with a friendship, as long as your just hanging out then there is no reason for her to believe that your going to be her boyfriend. I hang out with plenty of females all the time and I doubt they're thinking about me as a boyfriend. Your not commited to anyone so don't feel guilty, associating negative emotions with this new girl would be detremental to any potential relationship.

 

If she brings up a relationship thing then just explain to her that your still healing from the wounds that were caused by your ex and aren't ready for a relationship at this moment in time. I'm sure she'll be understanding.

 

I have this girls number that I got at the weekend at a friends party and we talked for ages, according to her friend she likes me but was too shy to ask me out and unfortunately i'm shy too. I get really nervous when talking to people that I don't know. I hope I can get the bottle to phone her tomorrow!

[mj108]

Yep...everyone. You know---I'm keeping busy. Just like everyone else...trying to keep busy so I won't think about the ex! Doing my kickboxing---fixing up my new house---doing the scrap-booking thing...THEN BAM---CONTACT!

 

You know I told you all about the note. Well, I'm very proud of myself...I DIDN'T CALL HIM! I go to one of my friends house (he hasn't talk to in 2 months also)...guess who calls? Anyway, my friend hands me the phone. I think it's my friend Sara...so I say "Hey girl...what's up?" Silence. "HELLO?" There was my ex on the other end....crying... We talked for about an hour. He told me he has not been in the right state of mind (he's been drinking). He said that when he was at his friends lastnight....he realized who has been here for him....me, his mom, dad, his bro & his wife, his friend. Blah..blah...I mean, I could go on Forever on this post. He did tell me he was sorry (what I needed to hear!). Of course, he rambled on about how much he missed talking to me...how much he cared & will always be here for me. I never flinched. I mean, I'm proud of myself tonight. I held things in that have been held in for a long time. I was strong...calm...stern...& my blunt self. Inside---I wanted to scream...Why did you leave me? Why did you ***** up the loyalty & devotion (that means a great deal to me)? I wanted to tell him..."WE HAD SOMETHING SOOOO GOOD...BUT YOU *****ED IT UP BECAUSE YOU CHEATED ON ME & THE TRUST, LOYALTY, & DEVOTION IS GONE! I didn't though. If anyone of you on the post ever asked what I wanted from a guy...that's it...honesty, trust, loyalty, devotion. That's all I've ever wanted. I guess, I need to post that up when I go on match.com with bigacesteve & charlane. lol

 

Anyway....My heart was tugging with him crying...I was there for him. I told him that Him and I would always bump into eachother...we're connected in that way...I told him that if that means that I have to be his friend & nothing more for the rest of my life....SO BE IT. I still do care for him, you know? His response to that? "Nothing more? I didn't mean to hurt you (crying still)...You've helped me so much & don't say Never" Yep...he's messing with my head! Thank God I have you all....to help me be strong. Then he told me "If it wasn't for the kids..." & he left me hanging! Anyway, I told him I did miss the kids (I'm honest). He told me that they mention me all the time in front of psycho biatch. He said that he distant himself away from everyone that cared for him...that he was sorry. I accepted his apology. I needed to hear that to move on, you know?

 

God, Why do I love someone that mistreated me? MY heart ached when he was crying but I remained strong & stubborn. I wasn't mean to him or rude. He ranted about psycho & I told him that he needed to take things day by day....like I've always told everyone on here...God knows our destiny---our future...leave it in his hands. Sometimes it's hard to quote those words since I'm the most impatient person! I need to stop rambling on about my ex----I mean...this is going to be a long post. lol I have cooking to do for turkey day for tomorrow. Just wanted to let my online family know...what's going on.

 

I do want to respond to everyones post...I'll be back on in a minute. Thanks so much to everyone...you all made me stronger.

 

MJ

[atlous]

I am so proud of you! seriously you showed him that he hurt you bad and that nothing can change that and you never lost perspective. Those are classic signs in a woman that is intelligent and knows that she can't be treated that way EVER, and will never settle for less than she is worth. The intelligent woman is you! congrats, I can imagine how hard it was but he needs to feel the pain, you did, why should it be easy for him to go cheat and then want your attention again? You did good and if things were meant to be they will. Time heals all wounds! I will always be here for you babe because I went through and am going through the EXACT same thing.

 

Your bud Atlous

[Weird]

MJ,

 

Congrats and I am happy that you stayed strong and didn't cave in to him in his emotional state.

 

I know you love the guy and all that but I think he needs a good hard kick in the junk. Maybe that'd get him to see the light of how a person should treat someone who tries to give them the world.

 

Bugs me so much the guy cheated on you. It never ceases to amaze me how clueless my fellow man can be when it comes to screwing things up with good women. My goodness.

[mj108]

Atlous---Thank God for you girl! I just got back on here---& was waiting on a response...wondering if I did the right thing. You know---we still care for them...but we have to think about our own well-being. It was soooo hard---SO hard for me to not say "I love you so much....I love you deeply & want you to be with me right now." I mean, it was hard. I almost caved...but then I thought about how he treated me & how he chose psycho girl over me--- the good-girl that treated him so well (some guys would kiss the ground if they had me lol). I'm just the good-ole-girl---that treat others with respect the way I want to be treated. Just like you atlous...we do deserve better! The ringing in my head tonight was "MJ you deserve better but don't cuss him out." LOL But MY HEART is still with him...& it shouldn't be because I know...I KNOW---he doesn't deserve it but yet...my heart will not let him go... !!! Sometimes I get angry with myself about it. I mean...I'm a very stubborn person & this stubborn person WANTS to move on but my heart want let me!

 

So enough about this...how are you?

[mj108]

Weird---Thanks for everything. Just got your post too. God, if I was only in Canada I would eat me some popcorn & chug a few beers right now. I need some popcorn & beer. lol Anyway, it's kind of ironic....my bestfriend said the same thing..."I want to slap the taste out of his mouth!" lol Thanks for taking up for me...I'd do the same for you.

 

Kodiak---Look at me...my drinking partner. ha I hadn't heard from my ex since Sept. 22...& here he is. It's like when I started focusing on myself...the kickboxing...fixing up my house...etc...he came back...BAM! It seems they come back when you are doing great & moving on with your life. That's just my experience, you know?

 

BigAceSteve---How bout you buddy? I wish I would had heard your advice before I got on the phone with my ex. I admit it...I was strong but I think I would had been stronger if I would had read your advice beforehand... You would had pepped me on up, you know? I didn't break a tear. So that's a good thing for this stubborn a** woman. lol

PS--Congrats...on passing the medical----New Years isn't far away!! Woohoo! New Start for everyone on here----I can feel it. 2005 Here we come & we will survive all this mess! TWO THOUSAND & FIVE----WE WILL SURVIVE!

BTW---Don't tell your ex crap. Just tell us---the online family here. Also, your mums is like mine. My mom will fight for her little girl. Yes...I'm the younger child here, but I do have siblings that use to tortue me. lol

 

UrbanRubble01---You know...I've been staying sooo busy too. It's like when you are busy with your life the exes always seem to come back. What is your take on this? One guy called me...wants to hang out over the weekend but I'm really not interested in him, you know? Should I let him come hang out with me? I mean, I know I would have fun hanging out but he's the type of guy that would want SEX...(being honest here). He's a Friend to me...he would be the last person I would ever think about or dream about having sex with. Then again...I'm getting lonely. I'm the good girl here...I don't want to turn bad.....Keep me in line UrbanRubble01...need your input. You know I talked to my ex tonight....maybe I'm trying to like see everyguy right now because I'm trying to FORGET the ex & move on to the next. I don't know! I just know it's Thanksgiving & I'm *****in lonely! Sorry to vent on ya UR01.

 

Happy Turkey Day everyone! I'm out of here! Thanks for listening to me biatch, raise H***, whine & complain, & cry! I know I can be too much sometimes. ha

[bigacesteve]

You did well MJ, you were the strong one. After all this time apart, even though it hurts and you want to tell him how much you love him, you know deep down inside that you are destined for something better. I think that is why you kept control and just talked to him. Spot on girl, proud of you.

 

UR01,

Sounds like this new girl you have befriended is really helping you along. Don't be afraid of your feelings, just take it easy, remain cool, if it clicks between you both it clicks; that's a good thing. Even if you stay as close friends, a good female friend can help you move on. My close friend Bethan really helped me to get over my ex ex a few years ago. We used to go out all the time and have a brilliant laugh together. I realised that she was more fun than my ex ex and I could talk to her without any tantrums, etc. She's a really bubbly, loud character. I started to fancy her and everyone thought we were a couple. I knew inside that she wasn't quite what I was looking for and if we started seeing each other it wouldn't last long and the friendship would be over. We got drunk one night and we were getting a little 'friendly', we stopped and talked about things and we both decided to stay as friends, nothing else and it has worked well.

 

After being dumped the thing I miss the most is female companionship, or just a woman to talk to. I'd love to just sit and chat with my ex again, no strings attached but I can't see it happening, she's pretty much wrecked that. I think it would just go like Weirds situation where I'd be 'listening' for a few hours and then when I could finally get a word in, she'd yawn and go home.

 

I'm surrounded by blokes at work, at home, at boxing, at kickboxing, at the gym and I just miss the female perspective on life and things. There is a serious lack of women here in Stoke-on-Trent, England. I go out at the weekend and the bars are full of blokes, must be something in the water. Nevermind I'll soon be working in a different area not far from Manchester; plenty of women there.

 

UR01, wish I was in your shoes, you've got a woman interested in you and the potential is there. You take it easy and do what you feel is best dude.

 

I've met 2 women now that I'm interested in and they've both got boyfriends. They both seem really interested in me; 1 came over to me the other night and said she would be up for seeing me. I'd asked her out years ago and she said she'd kicked herself since because she went out with someone else instead. I'm not into the cheating behind their back game, I couldn't do that to another guy, it's my own worst nightmare. Like I said Stoke is full of blokes and all women seem to be taken so I'll just look after myself and enjoy being single, which I am starting to do again.

[LexiB]

Happy Thanksgiving Guys!! Stuff yourselves, watch TV, take a nap and then do it all over again! (at least that's my plan )

 

Unfortunately, Im up now making lasagna But its the least I can do--aside from Hot Pockets, this is the only edible thing I know how to make so once it's done, Im free!!

 

Contemplated sending the ex a message saying Happy Thanksgiving. Been ignoring his calls the last few days so I dont know if he'll be insulted by getting a text...you know what, Ill prob. not send him anything. Right now I dont feel he's worth the 10cents and this is a Holiday, I dont need any extra drama.

 

Plenty of that when my family gets here

 

 

Have a good one guys!!

[Weird]

MJ just got the world record for most smilies in a single post EVER. I like the cut of that jig sister. Anyway, once again I am glad you didn't cave to that guy because like you, me, everyone else here knows, he does not deserve a good person like you. Oh and thanks for saying you'd stick up for me. Appreciate it.

 

 

It's like when I started focusing on myself...the kickboxing...fixing up my house...etc...he came back...BAM! It seems they come back when you are doing great & moving on with your life. That's just my experience, you know?

 

This is exactly what happens from my observations.

 

I want someone to explain to me how people can sense when the other person reaches this point and decides to contact them. It boggles my mind.

 

Happy Thanksgiving to all you yanks on here. Hope you guys have a great holiday.

 

A friend of mine wished happy T-day to his ex of 4.5 years and she didn't even say thanks or seemed to care. Talk about being cold. He did nothing wrong to that girl, she decided she wanted to see if the grass was greener so she ended the relationship and now trashes him. All he was doing with the T-Day greetings was being nice and civil to someone he has known for so long and she basically just spat in his face. How can people be like that?

 

Then again, I shouldn't be surprised because my ex was like that after we broke up early last year.