How Long For Nc Until The Ex Knows They Have Messed Up!

[bigacesteve]

drjones good to see you on here again mate.

 

I'm a little drunk but I've had a great night. Just glad I didn't bump into the ex; it was in the back of my mind at the start of the night but I thought what the hell if I see her just be nice and go ASAP. I don't have a clue what she's doing and let's keep it that way. I don't want to know, ignorance is bliss.

 

I bumped into a girl I asked out years ago and she is sweet. She turned me down and went out with a lad I was mates with at the time; she told me this tonight. She called me over tonight and we chatted for ages. She's with a fella so I didn't do anything or push anything, we just talked. She told me that she wished she'd picked me over the other guy years ago and said there could be a future for us. We talked for over an hour then politely I left her, she was hugging me for ages and wouldn't let go. I just don't want to put her fella through my worst nightmare so I went. It was great chatting with her but that's it if she's seeing someone.

 

A friend of mine has recently split with his missus, they were together for about 3 years; he was devastated. With my size and the Martial Arts I've done over the years my friends tend to behave themselves. He was getting really aggitated the other night because he'd been out and seen his ex. "Why was she out last night with such a low cut dress?" "Why was she wearing a thong sticking out of her jeans?" He was about to start on someone, anyone, bouncing about, maybe even start on me? I told him we were in the same boat and asked him what he could do right there and then? and it took the wind out of his sails. I then asked how he felt in himself? Do you feel happier in yourself? Do you find you talk to people now and actually listen to them? Are you a more socialable person now? He asked how I knew this.

 

Since I split with my ex I look after myself, I'm fitter, my mind is sharper and I listen to what people say to me now, I get on with my family and friends and I enjoy doing anything. Do any of you lot notice this? My friend did when I told him and he's gobsmacked because he thought it was just him.

[Weird]

I am finding it more and more boring to talk to my ex these days. She never has anything good to say and I just started to think how I went from hero to almost zero without doing anything to deserve it and it is bugging me. When I say zero I mean it is like I know she isn't as open with me as she is with her other friends and it just bugs me how she can ahve me going from #1 where she told me so much to way down that list where it seems like we are just meeting for first tiem ratehr than knowing each other for like 7 years now.

 

Also sucks that all she seems to talk about is work. It's like sheesh, go marry your job then woman.

 

Sometimes I think she has blocked out our relationship simply by how she interacts with me. I often wonder if she even realizes all the stuff that we did/said in our relationship and how serious things were. It is quite retarded, IMO...especially retarded when I start to think about how things went bad because she went weird not because I did anything wrong.

[djones]

Hey Kids,

 

HOws it going? Well I went out today and meet up with the new chick for coffee....I had a good time she's really cool and we had a good time talking...she asked me to go out with her next weekend to a restaurant that she likes, she asked me its now big deal if I dont want to I told her that its would be great to go. She is very attacticve , she however very thin, man I think she is a size 0 or 1 so very thin even for me and I am very skinny...but thats ok i think....I dont know how I feel about her shes great and fun to be with, but I still keep on thinking about my ex...so i dont know what I am feeling right now...I did not have that star stuck feeling with the new girl when I met her like my ex...so I dont know if its b/c i still liek my ex or what, I dont know...but for the most part it was a good time getting out.....well guys take care and talk later

[dugs]

Hey Guys.

 

Havn't been here for awhile...and I guess thats a good thing...But I unfortunatly have some bad news. MJ108, Dr. Jones, kodiak, and everyone else, I hope you all are doing well and being productive with yourselves these days, you guys hopefully all remember my situ when it semed as if me and the EX were getting back together. Well we did, kinda for like a month and a half, but then all the sudden she went back to her old ways of being "confused" again for no reason in the world that I could see.

 

Anyways, I just want to tell everyone here if your trying to win the ex back, be careful cause it might not be what it seems if it really happens. At first your totally excited because its like "wow, this is what I have been dreamin about!" and you feel totally alive again. But then BAM as quickly as it happens it will most likly be over again before you even realize it. You have sex a few times and its like they lose interest all over again.

 

Maybe I made it too easy for her to come back...I don't know why see is being cold again...but I did everything right this time and I know that its not my fault...guess I just have to NC again.

 

Guys take care, my advice is just move on and do not try to get back...it feels like we have broken up all over again

 

hello bitter pain, how I did not miss you at all.

[djones]

Hey Guys,

 

How are you all today, whats the news on your side? .....I am still confuesed and I am just going to see where things go right now in my life.....if its the new girl or the ex only time will tell....today I am hurting I think I am getting sick and my leg is just killing me...I think I just have a little poor circulation today ...oh well thems the breaks.

 

DUGS-- I man I am sorry how things worked out I thought it would......if you need to vent please come back....I dont know what to say...but aleast you know in your heart that you gave it a second chance and now you know you can move on, b/c you know that there is nothing left to be said with your ex and you can have a free consciene for the next person you meet.....

 

Well guys take can talk you all later

[Urban Rubble01]

drjones

 

Good to hear things went well. Don't worry whether or not you're "star struck", just look at it as something you're doing to heal yourself, not as the possible start of a new love. That's cool she's interested in doing something next weekend. How was the conversation ? Good ? Does she know you're kind of freshly out of a relationship ?

 

dugs

 

Hey man, sorry to hear that. All I can say is, if she did that to you once I could understand, but the fact that she did it twice shows her callousness. I know this doesn't help and it's cliche as all hell, but you deserve better (god, that really DID sound cliche). Try and forget her, she's only going to bring you pain. Like drjones said, you gave it a second chance and now you are free of any obligation. Go live life !

 

 

Myself, I called the girl that I saw on Halloween (the one from high school I hadn't seen in years) last night. She didn't pick up so I left a message telling her she should come to a party with us, but then when she called back I wasn't near the phone and missed her. So I called her today and we might go see a movie or something. I'm not in any way looking at her as someone to replace my ex with, but I figure if this really IS just a break and I don't use it to see what else is out there, I'm an idiot. On my end, that's what this break is about, making sure I get everything out because if we get back together I want that to be IT, so I've got to have no regrets.

 

Anyway, I'm probably going to go see her when I'm up there this week. It might not be the best idea, but screw it, I'm weak, I need to see her, I need to feel her skin and I need to hear her tell me she misses me. But after Thanksgiving I'm going all the way until Christmas without seeing her, I've got to be strong !

 

It was odd, when we talked the other day she was kidding around making fun of me "I thought you weren't going to call me for awhile tough guy", just joking around like normal and I told her "well, I woke up thinking about you so I gave in and called" and she told me "Well good, don't be stubborn". Now, when she says things like that, am I wrong to assume that she does want to talk to me ? She tells me that kind of thing all the time when I go awhile without talking to her. I think that she wants to talk to me but she doesn't want to call (she knows how I analyze things and she knows that I'd take that as a sign). I guess what I'm saying is, am I wrong to play this game ? Should I be stubborn and not call (keep in mind, I WANT to call) ?

[LexiB]

Wow Dugs,

 

I am so, so, sorry to hear about that. On almost all the threads on the "Second Chances" forum, the stories are all about re-breakups. Its so sad all the people get back together only to breakup again a few months later. I began to wonder if it ever worked out the second time around--for ppl of the loveshack community anyway

 

When I read abt your good news I was really hoping that there would be at least one, lasting reconciliation here...

 

Its so unfair that you have to go thru this pain--again--when all you did was open your heart.

 

Stay strong sweetie, you got thru it once, youll get thru it this time too. And like DRJ said, you definately have everyone here to let of steam to. Hopefully this time itll be a little easier to cope since you can clearly see (i think) the truth about her and this particualr relationship----

 

Despite intelligence, sweetness, charm and even age, some people just arent mature enough yet for a REAL relationship ( as I had to learn the hard way as well )

 

I'm not gonna give up on fairytale endings , though. Everyone deserves one and I know that they really do happen--even if the story doesnt end the way you expected.

 

[djones]

Hey Guys,

 

UR01-- yeah the conversations was good we were not at loss for words, i think both of us has the gift for the gab....I had mentioned it to her that i was fresh out of a relationship when we chatted in the begining on MSN...I will take your advice and just kind of view it as ahealing thing....I still am torn right now and I am not sure what to do....I will go out with her next week and just play it by ear....

 

Lexib---me too i still think of the fairy tale endings, it seems hard to believe them in this day in age though, I think they were more prevalant in our parents day. just b/c back then people are willing to work things out...today people just wnat to cut bait and run......

[Weird]

My ex is *****ed in the head now. I am sure of it.

 

She IMs me tonight asking if things are cool with me (translation: asking if I am mad at her) and then goes on to say that I don't say much lately via AOL IM and one sided convos aren't fun implying she is just the chat machine and I sit there and ignore her. I tell her that isn't the case and usually I am away form my comp when she is there at hers (hence my fuggin away messages I slap up) and when I get back she has signed off for bed so I can't reply to the few messages she leaves. Then she puts up an away message so I decide to leave a bunch of messages telling her what I see.

 

I say how all she ever talks about is her work, how all she ever asks me is how i am doing or what i'm up to and i always tell her how I am or what I am up to but since those are such basic questions she gets basic answers because I dont know how to stretch "I'm good" into a 500 word reply. I say she mentions stuff to me that I have no idea about (she mentioned something Friday night that I had no clue about what she was talking about but she did it in a way like she told me about ti before which she didn't) and I said that she must have me mixed up with her real friends that she shares info with. I said how she only seems to share stuff with me when she sees me on my monthly hang-out night (we last hung out 3 weeks ago) and said she prolly does that so she has something to occupy the time when we hang out rather than share this stuff with me every time she signs on whihc you know, would actually lead to us chatting.

 

She comes back after an hour or so and leaves this message

 

"fair enough"

 

I wait for a minute thinking maybe she was typing out a more meaningful reply but nothing. I then tell her that is a familiar answer from her (you know, not actually talking about stuff and trying to just ignore it) and one I love. She says she doesnt know what to say to me anymore and says I obviously feel she isn't communicating enough with me on here and that I have an issue with it while she feels fine with it......

 

HELLO!!!!!!!!!!! Woman YOU are the one who asked if things were cool and YOU were the one implying you want more communication on here and now YOU are saying you are fine with it and implying it is only me who has the problem?!?!? This chick is nuts. Honestly. She then gave a bunch of other BS comments and accuses me of being stubborn by saying I think I am the only friend she doesn't talk to much. Riiiight. I KNOW she tells more to her other friends but hey, heaven forbid if I mention that and say I get treated like a 2nd class friend. She told me not to compare myself to her other friends. Of course not...they aren't your ex boyfriend who did sooooooooooooo much for you and NEVER did anything to deserve you jerking him around. Naturally I can't compare myself to her friends since you know, I actually gave her all my love for 2 years and still care for her more than anything and again, did NOTHING wrong to deserve how things have ended up. She has even ADMITTED to the fact I didn't do anything wrong to cause things to end.

 

The best is when she said she is very busy these days and doesnt spend much time at her comp when I know that is BS because she has proven that she is on the comp a fair amount and if she isn't, she is usally in her room right by her comp and keeps the monitor on so she can see when I am back from my away state and when she thinks I am back at my comp (usually I am not but the program tries to say I am) she messages me. She ADMITTED TO DOING THIS and now she is trying to say she doesn't or that it was "sheer coincidence" for the what, 3 times a night this would happen.

 

Just amazes me how people can be so *****ed up...and it amazes me how people WHO KNOW BETTER can try and act like I am some moron and will believe their crap. I am starting to think this chick got her memory wiped and totally forgets our relationship and forgets how intelligent I am. She seems to think I am one of her moron friends who prolly would believe any BS told to them.

 

I have no idea why i waste my time trying to stay friendly with this chick. It is obvious she is trying to put our communication problem on me when it is her not making ANY effort to get closer to me because she knows that if she does she will start to think more about me and won't know what to do. She is basically preventing herself from possibly getting more invovled with me (ie become good friends again) and she is trying to say it is me who is at fault.

 

If anyone wants to see this chat transcript fele free to pm me and I'll fire it off. So bloody funny.

 

I can't wait for when she grows up and is ready for a relationship with a guy and fully realizes just how friggin great a guy I am for her but because she has acted like a tool, she won't have me there. Funny...and all she has to do to avoid that from happening is be more open with me and treat me like a real friend. Hilarious.

[Weird]

Oh and if you wish to get a copy of the transcript then please leave an email addy in the PM so I can email it to you. Thanks

 

Man she is messed up. How did she get this messed up. She used to be soooooooo well rounded and close to perfect as far as I am concerned. Now she is just all ****y.

[Soulfully]

Hey Weird, been following your story a little, along with the rest of the guys here. Obviously I dont know every single detail of what is going on between you and your ex. I think its pretty cool that you and your ex are able to be on friendly terms after a whole year of NC. So, with that in mind, I think you should take it easy. Step back a little, I sense that she is starting or still affecting you too much, at least on an emotional level. So sit back and relax man. After all, you're just friends right now right? Just keep it nice and relaxed, and dont let each other's insecurities, pride etc... get in the way of what could be a sweet friendship, if that's what you want obviously. And about she being messed up and all that jazz. Yes, maybe some people are pretty messed up and stuff, but it really depends on the eyes through which you look at the person/situation. All our exes could be thinking that we ourselves are pretty messed up too. Obviously, we think the opposite is true, yet as I say, its all very relative, and time plays an important role here on how perceptions change over time. So remain calm, non-chalant, and positive about everything in life, including your relationship with your ex. Dont let all these small messenger details get at you... they could be simple miscommunications, which happens a lot in online chatting. Dont think about things too much...take things lightly, and especially dont let it get to you too much on an emotional level. Relax, enjoy, and stay positive. Be the bigger mature person here. Dont even judge her on how messed up she is, and if you do, just think hey... she's a normal human being, with confusion, with growing to do etc... same as you, same as me, same as everybody.

 

Dont know whether Im talking out of context or whether you see what i mean. If it reads like nonsense, just ignore it hehehe.

Its been over 4 months since I last saw my ex. I sometimes wish we could speak on friendly terms again, cos I miss her as a person, as a friend, but I dont think its going to happen anytime soon. Oh well... life goes on, stay positive, relaxed and care-free. Many problems if not most are created in our minds, and by ourselves. What is really important and what is not?

 

Peace.

[Weird]

thanks for the advice, I appreciate it and really, feel the same way as you have said.

 

I realize it may seem that stuff with her is getting to me and stressing me out but it isn't. If this was going on a year ago then yes it would be stressing me out and fuggin my mind up but it isn't now. I honestly don't care what happens with her and if it ends up we stop talking to each other then no biggie. She is not the center of my life, I do not lose sleep over this crap nor do I stop myself from having fun.

 

The whole situation makes me laugh more than get me upset/angry contrary to how I may present myself on here regarding it. I am just amazed someone who was so well rounded and normal can be so crazy now.

[Weird]

on of her gems happened in early October. We had a discussion on here where she asked if I was cool if she took a few weeks off from talking to me so she could focus on toher stuff or something. I said go right ahead. 2 DAYS later she messages me and it was if she didn't just say she was not going to talk to me for a few weeks. Then we hung out a week after that and it was cool but do you think she has made an effort to hang out since then? Nah. Can only have one hangout night a month because hey, that is how she has it all planned in her head or something.

 

To me she seems like a confused girl who is having a battle in her mind of what to do with me with one side wanting to be close to me and be like how we were (not together but just being open and cool with one another) and the other side keeping me out of the loop and intentionally not sharing info with me simply because by doing that it'd mean we would get closer and that side also not wanting to talk to me. It'd be nice if she would figure out what she truly wants and act on it but again, it isn't like this is stressing me out. Just makes me shake my head and laugh. If anything it has assured me that I could never be with her unless she changed big time.

[bigacesteve]

Weird,

 

sounds like she just wants you to sit on the back boiler, just simmering until she needs you for some ego enhancement. My ex ex ex from years ago used to do just that to me. She used to tell me that I was her perfect bloke and she didn't want anyone else; didn't stop her from dating, shagging anything with a pulse and trousers though. They are such liars and think we are stupid. It would go wrong for her with the new fella and then I'd get the call... "I miss you so much." It's how they rebuild their own confidence, you think you're getting somewhere and next thing you're binned and they're with someone else. "Oh if you'd rang a week earlier then we could have tried again but I met someone else last week." I got this a good 2-3 times. That's pretty evil and *****ed up I reckon?

 

I really don't feel as though I ever knew my ex now, I still can't believe the way she has treated me. I spent a year literaly living with this person, took her on holiday which was magic, we were perfect companions, we talked about 'our' future and then suddenley BOOOOM! "nah, changed my mind, don't even want to speak or see you again." Moves into her own place with her friend and no invite for me. WTF is that about!? I was used and spat out, that's what.

 

Need to really move on. Come on 31st Jan 2005, start in the police and a new life begins.

[Weird]

yeah man, people sure go weird out of nowhere.

 

I do honestly believe my ex wants me in her life in whatever way (good friend, back as her dude down the line, or whatever) but she has no idea how to go about it and is really waging a war in her head on how to go about it. She seems to lack the ability on how to handle things. I honestly feel a little sorry for her because if the day comes where she gets hooked up with another guy and she hasn't change then boy, it will go down in flames. She prolly thinks it is just me when in reality any guy would be less patient than I have been with her. It's too and because she has such great potential to be amazing but hey, not my prob if she never lives up to it.

[bigacesteve]

Weird,

 

That is exactly how I feel about my current ex. I know that she is going through a rough time but she seems to let things bottle up and then she explodes, blames everyone else and runs away. Her parents have happily sat with me and told me that she just cannot handle things (life) in an adult way; she's just too immature. I sat with her a number of times and helped sort her problems out, listed what she needed to do. I didn't patronise her I sat with her and worked things out with her and at the end of it she was like "it's not all that bad then really." She was figuring out the answers by herself really, I was just nudging her.

 

She won't find another guy willing to put up with her sh*t and she'll be ringing me in a month or 2 asking if I'm seeing someone. She'll get burnt because she just isn't strong enough. I think she's going through the grasses greener phase. I've got to really think about whether I want this hassle or not? Is she really worth it? I know it's coming, I've been through it before and it's what Dugs is going through right now. You always think that she is different to everyone elses ex but reading this site I've learnt one thing and that's once they leave you there's about a 50% chance of something happening again and maybe an overall 2% that work things out and live happily ever after with their ex. I reckon the majority here find a better person, realise all the pain was for nothing (only learning) and become better people.

[Weird]

exactly.

 

I know with my ex even if tomrorow she was like "I want to try things out again" I would say no because she has not changed in ways i need her to change. She is not emotionally mature yet and being with her the way she is now would just be a huge waste of my time. The funny thing is I am sure she thinks my goal is us to get back together ASAP and it is sorta influencing how she is acting towards me but it is silly because I have sorts told her I don't want to get back together.

 

I am totally with you in that reading this site has shown me my ex/situation is not as rare as I thought it was. I love this place because it has put so much into perspective and I enjoy reading stories from people who are in the same position as me.

 

My ex I think tries to avoid life by having her job be the focal point of her life and basing everything on it. Sure, I realize being career driven is OK but she has implied she doesn't hang with her friends that much now and all this other jazz. I think she is using her job to avoid the other stuff of life and she is in for some hurt when she finally wants to be with someone because really, I don'tthink she will change her ways of handling stuff any time soon.

 

Anyone here an only-child? My ex is and I swear, there is an only-child syndrome because EVERY only-child I have known throughout my life acts the same way which is they are self-centered, expect everyone to revolve their life around them and are super stubborn and don't know how to handle not getting things their way and are spoiled. If any of you are an only-child and aren't like that then please tell me because really, every only-child I have known or do know acts this exact same way and my ex is the poster girl for this "syndrome" I believe in.

[Cade]

Weird..

 

Man, you hit the nail right on the head, describes my ex perfectly. She was raised by rich Grand-parents with no rules and alot of spending money.. You are soooooooo right man!!!

 

Cade

[WantanS4]

All,

 

Now we're finally getting somewhere........ AGREED... these people are too emotionally immature. My ex did the 'lock down and shut up' thing every single time I happen to say/do the wrong thing... and I would plead with her to let me know what I did and how that made her felt so taht I WOULDN"T TRIP ON THE SAME STONE... but NOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!..... not her.... all she did was colllect the stones so that 6 months ago she could throw at me all at once and blame me for the problems in the relationship. Dumb B!tch........ But it's true, she couldn't handle a DISCUSSION without adding the emotion to push it to a FIGHT. It was like pulling teeth with her. I too think she's going through the GRASS IS GREENER phase, and that in the end, she'll find someone else... she will.. but he won't be honest/dedicated to her... he'll sleep around...... she wasn't that good in bed........

 

She also was a SINGLE child..... and in some respects still is.......... because now that's she's 'planned' her life, she's literally sitting at home doing nothing........ from what I understand, she doesn't have a job... she doesn't do s***...... she just spends her parents money..... and more than likely....... spends her days FyCKING god knows who................ which is sad..... for both of us.

Hey... but what can I do? Nothing....... that's her choice....... and she sure as FyCK better be willing to eat s*** if she ever expects me to even consider speaking to her again. I wasted 6 years of my life on her, and passed up the oppourunity to date at least 10 other girls.......... what a shame..... and she says everything had to be my way.... everything was done on my time........ WHAT BULLs***!!!!

[Weird]

sweet! Another messed up only-child. I really do believe in the only-child syndrome!

 

Yeah I love how they can't take any discussion and turn it into some argument. Take the latest incident I had with my ex that I mentioned Sunday night....all I did was give her an answer to her inquiry and she flips it on me and gets all defensive and acts like I was complaining that she doesn't spend enough time talking to me or that I want her to put me ahead of everything which wasn't even CLOSE to what I said. If she actually read what I wrote rather than get on the defensive (it is like as soon as I say anything that isn't positive she uses it to flip on her pissy switch) she would have seen that. What a damn suck she can be and I just love how she has this image in her head of me that is way off reality. Guess it is easier for her to try and paint me as a stubborn a**h*** rather than a good guy who supports her but at the same time wants a little respect shown his way. Funny

 

I expect her to not come online for a week or she will come on soon and tell me she wants a few months of not talking. To that I will say "whatever, I don't care" which she will then proceed to chew me out on and I will be forced to tell her to quit acting like she is 8. Now if she doesnt chew me out and we end the convo peacefully she will then just come online 3 days later (after saying she didn't want to talk for a couple months) and act like she never said she didnt want to talk to me for a while. She did this in early october!!!! Told me she didnt want to talk for 3-4 weeks and then bam, comes online 2 days later and starts chatting with me.

 

I do enjoy the comic relief she gives me:)

[WantanS4]

Weird,

 

Really... she goes back and forth on her decision? My ex doesn't do that.. because she's too proud too. When she ended it, she literally said "it is my decision, and I have to live with it"..... to which all i could say is "??????... wow..." She's pig headed.. and her mother pushed her to the edge of thinking that I wasn't meant for her. How do I know, because the night after she gave me the initial "it's over"..... i went over to her house and her mother stopped me and said "You wouldn't marry someone you dont' love right? I think what you need to do is work for a while and let things work themselves out..." EXCUSE ME... last time I remember I was dating your daughter.... not you... and in fact, I think at the ripe age of 24, your daughter should be making her OWN decisions... which include what career and who the hell she's going to marry.... but I didnt' say that... I just nodded.... I was in her house and the last thing I was going to do was disrespect that and pull myself to a level on par with her. If you met her mother... you'd all want to throw up. I tried tried tried soo hard to like/love her.... but the lady made it down right impossible. take for instance the first time I ever met her....... she says to me "You know... i want my daughter to date as many guys as possible...... not only one......" ........... what the hell do you say to that....... and on top of that..... she screwed over my trust for my ex from there on out.......... THANKS Mrs. Ex!!!

 

Seriously..... what a headache........ I guess...... I've been liberated....... I don't know......

[bigacesteve]

Be gone evil demons... I am not going to ring her! Feeling weak again today, arrgggghhhh!

 

Went out last night with my brother, I decided to drive because beer just makes me miss her even more. It's a pattern I've noticed; get drunk, feel good for a few hours, spend the next day feeling gutted and depressed wanting to ring her.

 

I'd be fine but a bouncer I know told me he'd seen my ex last week. He told me that he asked her how I was and she lowered her head and quietly said that we weren't seeing each other anymore. Start of the night and he tells me this, thanks bouncer Chris, cheers, really thought that through. Felt gutted.

 

I did finally get over it and I enjoyed myself but now I've got the thought in my head that she may speak to me. I just wanted to clear the air between us because it didn't end on a good note last time we spoke. Life is too short and I don't want her of all people thinking that I hate her. She has treated me badly but I could never hate her like she seems to want me to. Why do they want us to hate them? Does it make it easier for them? Do they think it makes it easier for us? Honesty and the truth will only help me and I've had none of that.

 

*****ing hell WantanS4, her mother sounds a complete fruitcake. At least with my ex's parents they sat with me and supported me but they didn't answer questions for their daughter; that is for my ex to do they told me (she hasn't though).

 

I'll go the gym tonight and then football later, watch loads of telly with housemates and then early night. Got to remember that there is nothing I can do or say, she made her choice, let her deal with it in her own crazy way. In the meantime I get stronger and become that happy person again, I can see the differences already in myself and it's all good.

 

Bumped into my good friend Bethan today. She's just come back from Chile. She helped me out with a previous ex girlfriend years ago. She doesn't hold back, she says it as it is. Going for dinner on Sunday with her; she'll pull my head from up my arse.

 

Going Nottingham at the weekend for housemates birthday. Should be good because I know I'm a long way from my ex and it's a city full of beautiful women. I used to live there years ago and I love the place.

 

Feeling better now, venting is good. Thanks for listening, you've been a wonderful audience. Good night

[Weird]

hahaha her mom sounds like a crazy bitch. Wants her daughter to date as many guys as possible? yeah that sounds like a plan....maybe your little girl can get a few STDs while she is at it.

 

WTF is wrong with people? Man

 

Your ex is 24? Mine is 23. Crazy early 20s only-child chicks. They are nuts:)

 

Yeah, my ex has gone back on what she has decided to do but dude, she is HELLA PRIDEFUL and STUBBORN. If I even mentioned it by saying "I thought you didnt want to talk for 3 weeks. What are you messaging me for since it has only been 2 days?" she'd go gay and bitch at me and get all defensive. I swear, she wants to argue with me just for the sake of arguing. Friggin so stubborn.

[WantanS4]

And this was six years ago... when we started dating... that was like the first thing she ever said to me. All in all, i think that work, her mother and her 30 year old single females friends *****ED everything up between us. And I lost my patience with her one day and let it all pour out... beacuse I had had enough of dealing with an 8 year old...... i told told her she needed to 'grow the ***** up!'....... make her own decisions.... forget what people thought/said about her.......... and two days later she sent me on my way.... maybe it was my fault......... but in the end.. when i look back...... she pushed me to that point.... she forced our relationship over the edge........

[Weird]

yeah sure sounds like she pushed you to do that and she does need to grow the ***** up.

 

Her and my ex should get together. They could have little kiddie parties to satisfy their 8 year old maturity levels.