Sister Works Goes Out But Can't Find Own Place?

[napy666]

My friend tell's me her 36 year old boyfriend lives at home with his mom who collect a retirement check for $800 bucks a month and his sister who makes $20 an hour roughly $3,000 a month or so.

 

But yet the sister needs her brother to pay the rent or pitch in for the rent or other things around the house not letting him move out and be a man and start his own life with his girlfriend.

 

If his sister makes 20 bucks an hour and the mom makes 800 a month they can easily find another apartment to live. The sister is always going out every night buying food or buying clothes or having sex with her own husband of her daughter who isn't even living with them.

 

But yet my friend's boyfriend is dealing with this. Is his sister being selfish or what?

[CherryT]

I find it weird that she's staying over and yet she has her own husband and daughter. Are you sure it's not the BF who's not helping out? Maybe she goes home and stays with her family and comes over after work to visit. If her husband and daughter have their own place, I'm sure she's paying into that.

 

Only reason I ask is because I've had family members move into their parents home to take care of the elderly... even though there was another sibling in the house, living there almost rent free but didn't bother to help. They didn't do anything for the parents and so the other siblings (even those with kids) had to come and help.

 

I find it both weird... a 36 year old man cannot blame his sister for not being able to move out. Surely his mother was working 12 years ago? If he went to college, it would be right around the time he would've graduated. He could've, in the last 10+ years saved to move?

 

A lot of things don't really add up on this one.

Edited August 8, 2013 by CherryT

[New User]

My friend tell's me her 36 year old boyfriend lives at home with his mom who collect a retirement check for $800 bucks a month and his sister who makes $20 an hour roughly $3,000 a month or so.

 

But yet the sister needs her brother to pay the rent or pitch in for the rent or other things around the house not letting him move out and be a man and start his own life with his girlfriend.

 

If his sister makes 20 bucks an hour and the mom makes 800 a month they can easily find another apartment to live. The sister is always going out every night buying food or buying clothes or having sex with her own husband of her daughter who isn't even living with them.

 

But yet my friend's boyfriend is dealing with this. Is his sister being selfish or what?

 

Whatever the problem may be, I don't think that you can blame the sister. He doesn't need her permission to move out- his mom's either. If he wants to move out, he can move out. The story just doesn't make sense. Whatever is keeping him there is his own doing, unless the lease is in his name. In which case whatever is keeping his mom and sister there is his own doing. I wouldn't be so quick to jump on his sister- he's 36. He's a grown ass man.

 

Unless there is another factor involved- like he's staying there to take care of his mom- I can only conclude that the dude is seriously immature.

[Keenly]

I don't think you are in any position to speculate on who should or should not be living at home.