247BThuggin Posted November 3, 2004 Share Posted November 3, 2004 I need advice and help. about 9 months ago my ex-girlfriend broke up with me I must admit that I took it pretty hard and was depressed for a while. While we were together, I wanted to spend every waking moment with her, basically a bugaboo. She told me and also she felt that their was a lack of communication. We tried to be friends and progress back into the realtionship, because in the beginning we did not take the necessary time to get to know each other and build a friendship first. I basically rushed her into a relationship that she was not ready for. Throughout the relationship we had our ups and downs, but she still wanted to get to know me as a friend not with the title, because it seemed that it was basically rushed. So the separation was supposed to be time to get to know each other and grow into a relationship that we would both be happy with. Unfortunately I was unable to be just a friend to her, because I felt emotions and feelings of love that she shared with me. Plus she is everything a wife type in my eyes should be. She is caring, thinks of others before herself, God fearing, kind. etc. She gave me chance after chance to let her grow into the relationship, because she wanted to be with me but she is old-fashion and likes to take her time. One day after she cried on the phone asking me what do I want, I said I just want to love you. She said you know you and I will never be together and you are not the man for me. She stopped taking my calls and my e-mails.Okay if more background is needed I will be glad to give information, but this is where I need help. I would like to get back with her, but I do not know how to go about it. I realize that I was immature and rushed things way too fast for her and realize my mistakes after the fact. I sent her an email the other day, and she responded back, which I am suprised at. I am not going to add to what she said, because I have a tendency to look for clues when there may be none. I am looking to get back with her and show her that I have changed. How do I go about this. Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly10340 Posted November 3, 2004 Share Posted November 3, 2004 No, no more information is needed. I have all I need to give advice. You say she's caring and thinks of others before she thinks about herself. But not calling you or returning your emails is neither kind, considerate, or selfless. Not wanting a relationship cannot be translated into anything else but: not wanting a relationship. You can try to dress it up into being old fashioned or wanting to take things slow but it all comes down to one thing: not wanting a relationship. OMG, give me anyday of the week a man who loves and adores me so much that he wants to spend all his time with me and make me the center of his universe. If you really want to go back out with her, don't settle for scraps of her time. Don't make excuses for why she doesn't want to spend time with you. If she doesn't want the same things from a relationship as you, then go out and find someone who does. She's out there, I promise. You deserve everything you want from a relationship. Don't settle for anything less then the best! Link to post Share on other sites
chulero Posted November 3, 2004 Share Posted November 3, 2004 Just be yourself, and be the man you know you can be. If she really loves you and cares about you, then she will let you know or will give you obvious signs. Link to post Share on other sites
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