lk2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 This is my first time here. I didn't even know this existed. I haven't read through a lot of posts, but it seems like the right place to post my question. I am married and had an affair for 6 months with a married man. It was fun, casual at first, but then it got very intense and we both said we loved each other. It felt great, all the highs of passion, love, can't keep our hands off each other. But, then things got better with his wife and so he ended it with me. That was about 5 or 6 weeks ago. He said "let's be friends!" but I said no. I didn't want to talk to him again because if he was going to get things right with his wife, he should do that and not talk to me. I've been looking on Ashley Madison for a new affair partner (where I met him originally). Today, I was on there reading messages when I got one from a couple looking for a threesome. I was a little intrigued, I've never had a threesome or been propositioned for one. I messaged them (well, her, it was the wife messaging) and the couple sent me photos. It was my ex-AP!!! I couldn't believe it. His wife was messaging me for a threesome!!! What are the odds?! I shared my photos with her and she showed them to him. He almost died and texted me right away. Then he called me. He told me he missed me. I have missed him so much. I told him he shouldn't have called. He hinted that he'd like to see me again... with or without his wife. So my question is... should I do it? The angel on my shoulder says "NO WAY! Of course not! Especially not with his wife!" I can see all sorts of bad in it. The devil on my shoulder says "Just do it! You really want him still!" I realize that if he manages a threesome with me and his wife... he might be the luckiest man alive. I'll make sure he knows that. Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 are you in an open marriage or have a similar arrangement with your husband? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lk2013 Posted August 8, 2013 Author Share Posted August 8, 2013 are you in an open marriage or have a similar arrangement with your husband? No, I'm not. He's not in an open marriage either. They had a threesome many years ago with a friend. A couple of times. When we were seeing each other, his wife didn't know. She never found out. Now, she's the one who brought up the idea of having a threesome and he suggested AM to find a partner. She just happened to message me. Link to post Share on other sites
JustAReformedGirl Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 If you were single, I would say go for it-if you could avoid any emotional windfall from your xMM. But as you, yourself, are married, I'm not so sure. Even if you were single, both you and xMM might find yourself dealing with the emotional rollercoaster all over again-and the fact that he suggested seeing you even without his wife is kind of a red flag, here. Link to post Share on other sites
Lillyfree Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 No, I'm not. He's not in an open marriage either. They had a threesome many years ago with a friend. A couple of times. When we were seeing each other, his wife didn't know. She never found out. Now, she's the one who brought up the idea of having a threesome and he suggested AM to find a partner. She just happened to message me. the reason i asked is because i believe anything's fair between consenting adults. however 1 person out of 4 hasn't got an idea what's going on. 2 possibly if you decide to resume your affair without his wife being in on it. hope you're using protection and getting checked often. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 The angel on my shoulder says "NO WAY! :o:o:o Are you kidding? What is stopping you. Get rid of the stupid angel.:laugh: 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 I can see all sorts of bad in it. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Kinda answered your own question, don't cha think? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 No, I'm not. He's not in an open marriage either. They had a threesome many years ago with a friend. A couple of times. When we were seeing each other, his wife didn't know. She never found out. Now, she's the one who brought up the idea of having a threesome and he suggested AM to find a partner. She just happened to message me. So your H has no idea that you are on A.M looking for affairs or that you've had one? Never seen a situation like this on here before but since you've already had an A with him and it's over, I say do not open that door. It'll just be weird and awkward, having to lie to her and pretend you two do not know each other. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LimeBlue Posted August 8, 2013 Share Posted August 8, 2013 I've been looking on Ashley Madison for a new affair partner (where I met him originally). Today, I was on there reading messages when I got one from a couple looking for a threesome. I was a little intrigued, I've never had a threesome or been propositioned for one. I messaged them (well, her, it was the wife messaging) and the couple sent me photos. It was my ex-AP!!! I couldn't believe it. His wife was messaging me for a threesome!!! What are the odds?! I got to the part in bold and had to stop and reread your post from the beginning. And I thought I had problems. Personally I would not do it. Link to post Share on other sites
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