60 Days NC Challenge

[Talulah]

This will be a great idea for those who are really hurting. Just to help you find yourself.

 

Here are the rules, I hope that you take the challenge. Post here instead of calling/texting/messaging your ex.

 

I am on Day 26. Good luck.

 

Here are the rules:

 

1. When you accept this challenge, post here and your time/date stamp will be recorded for accuracy.

 

2. No Contact will be initiated for ONE MONTH from the date that you post. This mean NO CONTACT WHATSOEVER...and I mean NONE. (Including going to picture sites and myspace/or like sites)

 

3. If you work with your ex, you can still accept the challenge. You cannot do ANYTHING to contact your ex UNLESS it is work related ONLY.

 

4. If you accept this challange, I would like a post everyday on how you are feeling and what you are doing to pass the time. I am hoping by doing this, others will read and try to help themselves is they have a moment of weakness.

 

 

**Remember**

 

No Contact is for you

 

 

5. If you have contact with your ex BY YOUR DOING..YOU MUST POST WHY YOU DID IT AND HOW YOU FEEL RIGHT AFTER. No exceptions.

 

6.After the month of No Contact has past, you must reread all of your daily threads and write a conclusion based on what you felt when you started and how you feel 30 days later.

 

7. When you post daily, please put what day number you are on of the 30 day challenge so that other members can see how you are doing.

[Knoxpwns]

I'm currently on day 14. I haven't spoken to my ex in 14 days, and it was merely a small text convo about dealing with an electric bill.

 

I have somehow mustered the courage to seek absolutely nothing from her this entire time. I have not looked at her facebook since about 2 days before she broke up with me, so like 22 days ago.

 

I always was really down on myself, and she took advantage of me hard. but I'm beginning to feel a lot better. It's crazy how serene I feel at the moment, giving our relationship was my first, and 6 years long. after everything is said and done, she helped me in 2 ways; Removing a toxic person from my life (herself, via cheating but that's a different story) and showing me how strong I actually am.

 

I care about her (in some way I probably always will) but my love for her died. She is no longer the girl I remember, and the sweet girl I fell in love with was gone many years ago.

 

It's incredible to me that after a short 2 weeks, I can actually say I had an ok day. Maybe there is something to this NC after all.

 

Either way, great things are headed my way. things are starting to look up. Heres to hoping the sadness doesn't swing back on me hard.

Edited August 8, 2013 by Knoxpwns

[Talulah]

Sorry to hear that Knoxpwns. But yes, NC is amazing. I'm on day 26 from the last time we spoke. I blocked him on Skype and there has been no emailing back (although he is busy with a course).

 

The best thing about NC is that I can sit alone in my room and watch my favorite shows without having to think about him.

[Hoaks]

I went 4 weeks straight and then tried to reach out. Got nothing back and it hurt again, badly.

 

So I am starting again, currently on day 6 again. I don't have her on Facebook or any other social media, do not have her mobile number. I only have her house phone, which I tried calling 6 days ago, I think it is redirected to her dads phone, so won't be doing that again lol.

 

So now I am basically starting again. I hate the mornings so much, that is when it hurts most for me.

[jenn78]

I had a lengthy chat with my ex today but... I'm starting NC again. Here we go. Day 1. Its going to be hard as hell but i'm going to try. The longest i've lasted without contacting him is 11 days so far. As long as I dont have to see him in public situations I can stay pretty strong. But i saw him the other day with a girl a bar (who was his friend but besides the point) he was cold and insensitive to me but we kinda reconciled after that and i told him he made me feel terrible and he felt bad. anyways no contact! All the power to everyone partaking

[Talulah]

I had a lengthy chat with my ex today but... I'm starting NC again. Here we go. Day 1. Its going to be hard as hell but i'm going to try. The longest i've lasted without contacting him is 11 days so far. As long as I dont have to see him in public situations I can stay pretty strong. But i saw him the other day with a girl a bar (who was his friend but besides the point) he was cold and insensitive to me but we kinda reconciled after that and i told him he made me feel terrible and he felt bad. anyways no contact! All the power to everyone partaking

 

Try to shoot for 12 days

[Emma1234]

This is a good idea basically we haven't spoken for nearly a month but I have been checking social media which I know needs to stop. Ok starting from now! I have no desire to talk to him but I just can't stop checking up on what he may be doing!

[Knoxpwns]

This is a good idea basically we haven't spoken for nearly a month but I have been checking social media which I know needs to stop. Ok starting from now! I have no desire to talk to him but I just can't stop checking up on what he may be doing!

 

Block his social media accounts, and ask mutual friends to try to avoid telling you about his activities. I haven't looked at my ex's facebook since before we broke up, and honestly it is incredibly liberating!

 

you shared everything with them for so long, it's natural to want to know everything they do still. Finally sever that tie, and it's an immense weight off your shoulders

[Legatus]

For me it's 29th day, last time she texted me when I was on holiday "I really expected a message from you today". Wanted do answer but I never did. She contacted me regarding some stuff this week but I ignored it, of course I got a txt about how immature I am and how she thought I got over it and stopped playing games.

 

Well I wanted to respond and tell her what a hypocrite she is but then I though that would only be what she wants. I got my dignity back the day she came to pick her stuff up, showing new bf etc. I am not gonna give it away so easily

 

life has become too good lately to lose it for some meaningless conversations. Nc is for us, so remember ladies and gents don't give in to basic urge of contacting them back, whatever they do!

[Talulah]

For me it's 29th day, last time she texted me when I was on holiday "I really expected a message from you today". Wanted do answer but I never did. She contacted me regarding some stuff this week but I ignored it, of course I got a txt about how immature I am and how she thought I got over it and stopped playing games.

 

Well I wanted to respond and tell her what a hypocrite she is but then I though that would only be what she wants. I got my dignity back the day she came to pick her stuff up, showing new bf etc. I am not gonna give it away so easily

 

life has become too good lately to lose it for some meaningless conversations. Nc is for us, so remember ladies and gents don't give in to basic urge of contacting them back, whatever they do!

 

LOL...of course you got that!

[Legatus]

Not responding must have really bothered her, but well I guess I am immature by her books hah. Only mature people engage in pointless arguments 3 months after person wanted to argue left

[Still Searching]

I'm on day 7 of NC, after the narcissistic, spoiled child in a woman's body that I dated told me coldly to ,"Get the f--- out. I don't care if I never see or hear from you again." Funny, because she is the one who left the relationship 4 times previous, and always came back to me after I went NC. I'm the fool who always took her back, yes, so I don't expect much pity. There are a hundred reasons I shouldn't love her, and I know I deserve better, but the truth is, I still do, and a small part of me always will. The reality is that she isn't who I thought she was, my needs weren't being met, and she was unwilling to even truly try to meet them. Don't get me wrong, towards the end my patience was wore thin, and I certainly wasn't pleasant to be with, as I had no more trust in her and harbored a lot of resentment.

 

I have to think she feels bad or ashamed of how she ended it this time, but maybe not. Regardless, it doesn't matter. There are plenty of things I would like to say to her, and a lot of questions I wish I had answers to, but I've accepted that I won't get those answers, and am not going to attempt to talk to her. Part of me is almost expecting to hear from her, because that's obviously been the pattern. It's that small hope that makes it tougher for me to just move on, but with each passing day, I expect it less and less, and tell myself to just look forward.

 

Ugh...gotta love it.

[soifnaegvbaoeaiegoaobgaiou]

I'm on day 5 of NC. Last time I saw her was Friday when I dropped off her things and haven't said a word to her since. I've been checking her social media though because I had made it so easy and quick. Yesterday I removed all that so I'd have to make a conscious effort to do that now. I'm just scared of her inevitable breadcrumbs. They always get me.

[goodnightrebecca]

okay so its day three

 

I still haven't actually deleted my ex from facebook yet, but I hid all of her and all of her friends post, and I've unfollowed her from twitter.

 

However even seeing that little thumbnail of her face still gives me a sinking feeling, I don't know if I should delete her or not.

 

I hate seeing her out driving with that guy. Hopefully this stuff gets easier

[Tashii90]

Hello, This challenge sounds like exactly what i need to do. My ex walked out on my and our then 6 month old son and ever since then ( 2 and a half months ago) i have sent him so many texts everyday begging him to come back. I will do anything to have him back but its got to the point now where he just ignores me.

I do have a question though? Due to us having a son together, and he does still want to come round and see him, how would i work the challenge with having this issue? Any advice would be appricated. Thanks

[Anietjuh]

This would be day 46 thanks to this website

 

 

Ex Boyfriend Ignoring You? 4 Big Reasons He Doesn't Want You Back

[jenn78]

Today is my first full day of no contact for the millionth time... we broke up about 1.5 months ago.

 

I'm starting to really except that we are over over. He dumped me because he said i was to quiet/introverted around his friends/family and him at times. He lacked the inquisitive piece in our conversations and felt he had to do all the talking. I am working on being less shy but he didn't say how much it bothered him. I wish he had because it is totally something I can work on. However, I did have underlying trust issues with him.. which who knows if those will ever go away.

 

A small part of my brain does think we could work through things and maybe in a few months he will miss me and come back because we did have a great relationship. But i keep telling myself that the future is uncertain. He went to counsellor and really evaluated if he wanted to be with me... he decided i wasn't right for him. But he is pretty sure he did what is best for him rather than going through a cycle of us breaking up and getting back together. Which is true... but i'm stubborn and I think people can work through anything. I had the unfortunate experience of running into him at a pub where I thought he was already with another girl.. who apparently was just a friend. I am in no way ready to see him with another girl. I asked him if he was ready to see me with another guy and he said probably not.. but i would never put him in the position to see me with another guy because i think it would hurt him. ANYWAYS... almost done with day 1 of NC. Going strong-ish...

[LME]

I'm almost at 3 weeks NC i think.

 

I think about him here and there when i see things that remind me of him, but nothing major! I dont have any temptation to text him, i just miss his friendship.

 

 

It should have been 8 weeks NC but i was stupid and texted him and we got lunch. I did get more closure but ehh idk it was kind of a waste of time. I just like to pretend that did not happen

[Talulah]

Yesterday and today I got to the point of not really caring that much and I feel like he probably felt when he broke up with me. I got really angry for some reason, I feel so mad at him. He sucks.

[Still Searching]

Today begins day 8 NC. I felt good about things last night, finally accepting the break-up and reasons why I should be thankful it's over. However, she still haunts my dreams. Dreams of us together, or the intimacy, which to date, was the best I've ever experienced. I wake up sad most mornings, stumble through the day, and try to keep myself busy. We had such a routine, were together all of the time, and I considered her truly my best friend. It's just hard to walk away from that, to pretend this person no longer exists.

 

Also, the thoughts of, "Does she even think about me, or miss me?" run through my head. I realize it doesn't matter, but for some reason I feel like it'd be just a bit comforting to know she's hurting, too. The way she ended things, though, tell me that she might be very happy I'm gone. She yelled, swore, and told me she was fine with never seeing or talking to me again. Things I did that she always was thankful for and appreciated, suddenly were things that upset her. Just blew my mind, like I was staring at someone I didn't even know, as I'd never seen her like that. Oh well...I guess I slog on. It can't get much worse, so it's only got to get better.

[reddragon588]

Joining this, I need to. I've gone 7 days with no traditional contact (she texted me and I replied last Friday), but I continue to check her social media and today I accidently clicked like on one of her really old pictures, which I believe will send her a notification even though I unliked it. I'm going to join this wholeheartedly and continue to not only not contact her, but stop checking her social media. Here goes Day 1.

[Legatus]

Today is 30th day for me. I had to check the calendar as I even stopped counting! Half way there

[B1989]

Today is 2 and half weeks since the break up and no contact. I sent her keys back last Friday and today is 3 days of no social media stalking. It's funny tho her sister and friend just both recently "unfollowed" me. The feeling sucks, but by being a social stalker you're still holding on. I'm telling myself if she wants it she will reach out. Do you. Keep positive!

[Still Searching]

Ok, so I'll be the first to admit to breaking NC. We used to email each other throughout the day, and after 8 days of NC, and the way things ended, I caved, on an impulse, and sent a short and to the point email, letting her know I was sorry for how things ended, that I didn't hate her, and valued my time with her. She called me, we talked for a bit, and I got all of my thoughts and feelings out that I've been fighting for the past week.

 

This was during lunch, and so once we both went back to work, she emailed a few more times, saying it was hard, but she was letting go. That was the closure I needed, I suppose. Do I regret it? Part of me does, but at least I got things off my chest, know that this breakup is for the better, and can hopefully move on with no more guilt, and her the same.

 

So I guess I'm back to day one, huh? Ugh...

[GlassesSeventy]

I'm on day three of NC.

 

We knew each other around a month, but were both overwhelmed with just how strong the feelings were... it was an amazingly deep connection. Then we slept together, and she immediately pulled away and started acting distant. Told me we could be friends, and my reply was, no - I can't do that. We'd reached a certain point, and to strip that back and act all platonic was not what I wanted to do. She asked for space, and after four days of giving her the space, I messaged her to see how she was...apparently that wasn't enough space for her. Left it another few days, and messaged her that I missed her and wanted to try again....just a vague reply was all I got.

 

Fair enough, a few days may not have been enough space, but...hey. I committed no crime. I don't see why women always have to hold all the cards.

 

Anyway - her last message to me indicated that she MIGHT come back, but I want to move on. Waiting around will drive me mad so...here we are, NC. Day 3.

 

It's going to be hard, because I truly saw a future with this woman - I haven't had a lot of luck in the past with women, and this seemed hopeful. I can't stop thinking of our connection, and whether she still remembers it or not. This is why I have to move on - this isn't healthy.

 

I've deleted her number, and I've even deleted WhatsApp as it just tempts me to contact her - I know her number off by heart.

 

This thread looks to be very helpful, and I thank God for this site otherwise I'd be in a room somewhere, rocking back and forth