The ego boost of the younger Hot OW(M) ?

[findingnemo]

I'm turning 40 in March. I love being 40. When I was young I thought 40 was ancient!

 

Rs are not just about hot bodies and sex. You need to be able to hold a conversation, to contribute positively to your SO's life, to solve your own problems and basically to think constructively.

 

Oh yes...and I look hot if I can say so myself!

[Mycatsnuggles]

"I'm attractive, but i cant compete with an in shape 25 year old. That's the truth."

 

Your right a 25 year old cannot compete with me, she's not got the confidence, intelligence, life experience, and sexiness of me a 45 year old woman. It's the way we carry ourselves and own who we are that men find sexy. I'm not cute - but I am so sexy. (OM's words he's 33)

 

My OM's wife is 27, I am 45 - I don't have to compete.

[Lady2163]

Lil I know you might not believe this, but your looks will fade. Your metabolism will do a shift on you in a few years where you may only eat 800 calories a day and yet you still gain weight. It also gets a whole lot harder to be hungry and be in a good mood.

 

Thats just your body. No amount of exercise will keep breasts from sagging.

 

Of course, you can have surgeries.

 

Wrinkles and lines happen. Hair changes color. You can dye it for a few years, but a 50 year old blonde woman often looks ridiculous.

 

I am the one who initially made the statement that Lil is in a bdsm "little" relationship. I stand by that. I do think her maturity is several years behind what it should be. That doesn't make her a bad person, just when daddy doesn't protect her, she's got a long way to fall.

 

To the original topic, yes I think it can be an ego boost to the MP to have someone younger, especially if they are doing kinkier things than the BS and definitely if they put more into the affair than they mp.

 

I'm over 40, smart, medium confidence, financially stable and moving upward. Where are these decent men who will adore me even though I'm probably only a 5 or 6 appearance wise?

[ComingInHot]

mj, what's a stock photo?

[threelaurels]

It's sick and I know that in the culture I'm from this is common. Men will often have a wife or primary partner which they respect, or at least pretend to, whom they have as the mother of their children, public partner, someone they'd not think of disrespecting openly or talking to their friends about crudely.

 

Even in America, men are taught from an early age that there is the kind of woman you marry and the kind of woman you sleep with. I don't believe it's fair or right that many men think this way, but it's true.

 

Any man I would be interested in wouldn't be interested in a 25 year old woman.

 

Intelligence and beauty can be found at any age, however life experience and wisdom comes with age.

 

Any man who goes after someone significantly younger than themselves doesn't want to be with them for the intellectual conversations. In my experience, older men who date significantly younger women have maturity problems that prevent them from finding a partner in someone their own age.

 

The key word here is significantly. Humans develop according to various life stages that correspond with certain age ranges. A 20 year difference between a 40 and 60 year old doesn't matter as much as the difference between a 20 and 40 year old.

[Red Wolverine]

Any man who goes after someone significantly younger than themselves doesn't want to be with them for the intellectual conversations. In my experience, older men who date significantly younger women have maturity problems that prevent them from finding a partner in someone their own age.

 

The key word here is significantly. Humans develop according to various life stages that correspond with certain age ranges. A 20 year difference between a 40 and 60 year old doesn't matter as much as the difference between a 20 and 40 year old.

 

As you said, it's more about the age than the age difference. Men who deliberately date young women (not so much younger women) are typically looking for something other an an equal. Most of the time, it's fair to assume gifts and/or money changes hands. In these cases, I'm not sure who's more pathetic.

 

My xMM was significantly older than me but I tend to relate more to older men. Old enough to be my father would be too old for me. I make a higher salary than most men so money wasn't an issue.

Edited August 12, 2013 by Red Wolverine

[ladydesigner]

"I'm attractive, but i cant compete with an in shape 25 year old. That's the truth."

 

Your right a 25 year old cannot compete with me, she's not got the confidence, intelligence, life experience, and sexiness of me a 45 year old woman. It's the way we carry ourselves and own who we are that men find sexy. I'm not cute - but I am so sexy. (OM's words he's 33)

 

My OM's wife is 27, I am 45 - I don't have to compete.

 

 

Love this. I just turned 40 and I would not go back to my 20's for anything. I so love who I am right now.

[lolita2012]

Well, I definitely think my youth and looks are a big excitement for my MM. He's so paranoid about being caught though that it's not like he's showing me off. And while he thinks I'm hot, he and I are both concerned about people's reactions if they saw us together. I am only 20 and he is 42, so I'm sure there would be negative reactions.

 

His wife is 46 and just had a baby, like just last week. On one hand it's kind of nice to know that I'm more physically attractive than her and more fit, but on the other hand, she's the woman he plans to spend the rest of his life with. She's the mother of his children. Good looks and youth are good for a fun time, but there's more that they want in a wife.

 

Don't get me wrong. I'm not depressed about it. I feel very good about myself and I don't want anything serious with this guy. I purposely want to see a MM because I don't want to be in a real relationship. Also it is so much fun to sneak around like this. It feels so wrong, but so exciting. That must make me a really selfish person...

 

Sorry. Got a bit off topic there. It's just nice to share.