DAYANDNIGHT Posted November 3, 2004 Share Posted November 3, 2004 ok i have a sister that is very beautiful but she puts up with her bf crap... ok the story is that they were together long ago and he was married but she didnt know that at the time , well time went by and they came across eachother and started seeing eachother once again, well he tells her that hes married but hes getting his own place cus he is leaving his wife, well he does all that and lives alone now and they see eachother a whole lot now that he lives alone wht bothers me is that his wife still calls him as if they were still together and then on his days off he is MIA and no where to be found, then when my sister asks him about it like where have u been and all that drama he gets mad and tells her God i dont need to answer to u ur just my gf , i mean come on what an ass.... well then he has this other girl that he use to sleep with still calling him , he says that he dont answer her calls but why would someone keep calling unless they knew whats up well she dont like that either but she still sticks with him but the other night they got into a huge fight and he told her not to call him no more and hung up on her and my sis is here crying and putting herself down while hes out there doing God know what and then a week later he calls her and tells her hes sorry and they go out to eat dinner well they have making up sex and the next day she dont hear from him nor the day after or the day after that one either... until the weekend then he tells her he wants to see her...hhhmmm aint that a booty calll? well she caves in and takes off with him again, the story repeats its self...no calls...i tell her that he dont have good intentions and that she should let him go cus hes a dog...but she wont listen..she says he loves her... cant u all read my story and tell me what u all think ...i hope that with enough ppl telling her that he aint no good she will realize what kind of person he is and will let him go well thanks and please help.....is it a booty call or what ? or is this the way "relationships " are now days? Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted November 3, 2004 Share Posted November 3, 2004 Sounds just like my old college room mate, ( REST HIS SOUL )! This guy sounds like a player to me. I don't know if you sister has low self esteem, but she sure is showing classic signs. She doesn't believe enough in herself that she can do better.....ALOT BETTER! And this guy knows it. His feeding off of her insecurities. She can do better, there are tons of guys out there, especially in Northern Texas that would love to have a woman that cares about him. She needs to either get rid of the guy, or put her foot down and tell this guy that she isn't the fool he takes her for. Trust me when I say that she can do better! Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted November 3, 2004 Share Posted November 3, 2004 ...i hope that with enough ppl telling her that he aint no good she will realize what kind of person he is and will let him go well thanks and please help.....is it a booty call or what ? or is this the way "relationships " are now days? Sady some relationships have been that way through the ages. Your sister is an adult & she's been here before so she knows all about making mistakes & is free to continue making them. If she knows how you feel then you're just going to have to drop it as a subject with her. You don't have to lose your sister just because she's seeing a jerk, you're just going to have to manage your relationship with her a bit differently. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DAYANDNIGHT Posted November 3, 2004 Author Share Posted November 3, 2004 im totally here for my sister and i know that she does care about this guy but i dont like seeing her cry all the time it hurts me... i just want her to be happy and this guy dont do anything else but hurt her thats what i want her to see... ill stand by my sis and her choices thats all i can do.. thanks ...but hes still a dog... Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted November 3, 2004 Share Posted November 3, 2004 im totally here for my sister and i know that she does care about this guy but i dont like seeing her cry all the time it hurts me... This is what I mean about managing your relationship differently. If it hurts you to see her cry then tell her that. I think it's fair enough to say that you think this guy is bad news & if she cries to you when he's done something wrong then you're never going to change your mind about him, so ask her to stop bringing you bad news about him and start seeing & speaking to your sister only on her "good" days. I don't think that means you love her any less - friends can step back for a bit & still be there to pick up the pieces when things really go bad. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DAYANDNIGHT Posted November 5, 2004 Author Share Posted November 5, 2004 well my sister went over to his house on Monday and then stayed with him and had not heard from him until tonight. He called her and said that he missed her and that he wanted to spend time with her. She questioned him on where he had been on tuesday and wednesday and he said that he was with his kids . Well my sister called his wife's work and they said that she was off on wednesday which led to believe that he was with her that day. Anyways , my sister said that she did not care and that she was going to see him until something ELSE better came along. Well she asked me to watch her lil girl so she can go with him and stay the night but i hate the idea of him using her , should i say no and tell her i wont watch her lil girl or should i say yes and let her be used by this dog once again? help me out i hate thinking that this guy can have his cake and eat it too, thanks loveshack .........help me out Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 Is there anyone else, RELIABLE, who can watch your neice? I would've told your Sis that no, you don't want any part of this anymore. You're not going to help this guy use her. You also need to go to a book store and get her a book on Co-Dependancy. If she sits down and reads this book, she will be blown AWAY by how much it'll describe her and her behavior. Link to post Share on other sites
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