butterflygrl Posted November 3, 2004 Share Posted November 3, 2004 hey all i have a question to ask abut my ss .. why does my ss contuinue to press my buttons.. he has no respect what so ever.. he can't along with his sister and it is really getting on my nerves... he is 14 and acts 2 please help me understand this.. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Maybe you should talk to his father about it. Have him talk to him and figure out what's going on. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Maybe he thinks that you can't touch him or discipline him. Have his Dad tell him right there in front of you that you are allowed to spank his butt and ground him. Then exercise that right. Link to post Share on other sites
tattoomytoe Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 hormones are sure to be a big contributer........how long have you and his father been married? Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Originally posted by Moose Maybe he thinks that you can't touch him or discipline him. Have his Dad tell him right there in front of you that you are allowed to spank his butt and ground him. Then exercise that right. He's already 14, how can she spank him? Plus, she's not the mother. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 You're right, but at least have him say in her presence that she can and will discipline him. As far as not being his mother, she is the one who runs the household. I wouldn't let a fourteen year old walk all over me, ss, friend of the kids, whatever! Link to post Share on other sites
MelodyJ Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 He treats you that way because obviously no one has told him he can't. He is going to test you every which way possible until someone puts a stop to it, and that someone is his father, who should have layed down the law from the very start. What kind of relationship does your hubbie have with the ex? Is she bitter toward him, if so, and the kid sees her also, you don't know what she might be saying in front of him. Kids are going to be loyal to their parents, everyone else is an intruder. Have a good talk with his father, and let him know it is going to stop. And don't settle for "it's just his age, give it time" thats bull. This kid is walking all over you, and if your husband has any respect for you and your marriage, he will put a stop to it. Otherwise, you are in for a miserable few years, and a huge strain on your marraige until the kid grows up and moves out. Link to post Share on other sites
butterflygrl Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 thanks for all the replys .. but it has nothing to do with me washing my husbands clothes.. this has to do with not doing anything for my ss .. this has to do with my ss being 14yrs old and show some kind of responsibilty.. my h says things in front of my ss like you need to respect her and all but when it comes down to it i'm mad out to be the wicked stepmom.. when i say something to ss he runs call his dad and then his dad calls me asking what you do this time...ss needs some type of responsibilty and i wish my h would reconize this !! he thinks cause ss plays sports he needs no responsibilities.. what is going to happen when he gets out in the real world? he should be taking the trash out or mowing or something ... he does nothing in this house except eat and sleep and watch tv !! he only cleans room and bathroom when his father tells him .. he can do something wrong and never get in trouble.. he has never been wiped but once in his whole life.. my daughter is 5 and has gotten more than he.. i have been with him since he 1yr and a half .. hes always listened to me till he got in the teens .. his moma is in the picture when it is convenient for her she is a drunk and a crack head .. im sure she is telling him that he don't have to listen to me.. and h acts like it that i hate him and and always on him .. whatever i am through with trying to talk to ss .. im going to worry bout my daughter and only her .. tired of all the fighting!! Link to post Share on other sites
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