lack of communication. does she still want to be together ?

[mixwell]

ok heres the deal.. i moved from california to arkansas at the end of september. i left my girlfriend of 8 years out there.. 2 weeks after getting back out there she says she doesnt want a long distance relationship.. so i asked her if i were to come back out there what would happen and she said we could pick up the relationship again.. well not when i talk to her it seems like shes too busy and all.. i know she doesnt want to be with anyone else because she's told me. and now she says that she doesnt want a b/f.. i am moving back out there the end of this month and I know things will be different once were face to face.. she says that shes confused because i left her and that she felt she had to get over me and now that im coming back shes kinda confused.

 

She doesn't really express that shes happy or anything.. every time i mention a relationship though she gets kinda touchy and asks me to not talk about it and just talk to her like a friend.. she also has a lot of money problems and she doesnt like her living condition.. so i said once i get out there id like for the 2 of us to get an apartment..do you think im pushing her too much ? so my question is. do you think once im back out there she will be a different person..? i talked to my dad about the problem and he said it sounds like "shes trying to play games and grab you by the balls over the phone" so do you women think she's acting this way because she wants to wait until i get out there ? or maybe because shes trying to get revenge ? i know shes not interested in dating anyone else or doesnt want a b/f right now because she told me and if she did then she would've told me so im ruling that out. actually before moving back here she was going to come back too but i told her i didnt think it was a good idea....

 

I know some of you who respond are going to say maybe she wants to move on but heres the thing.. she was willing to move out here to be with me and i fuc|<ed it up.. anyways when she broke up with me i asked her this.. i said if i moved out here and you knew 100% that i was coming back would you have still broke up with me and she said no.. basically before i thought i was going to stay back here so she figured theres no way we're going to be together and thats why we broke up.. but now that she knows im coming back i guess its like i expect her to be all happy and want to get back together and tell me she loves me and all that.. i know i messed up big time but i had to see for myself how it was going to be out here..

 

i told her that im kinda glad she didn't come back and quit her job just to find out that we both would want to move back out to cali.. so i dont know.. Do you think i should just wait until i get out there to talk to her about it ?? maybe shes acting like this because she wants to make sure that i am going to come back out there for sure.. i mean she even wrote a letter saying that if i moved out here she would too even if she had to live across the street.. haha i dont know im soo confused and i think about this every day and it bums me out that she doesnt really call me and that when i do talk to her she's always busy.. but hey i know keeping busy keeps your mind off things like this which is why im trying to get a job for the next month im out here before i go back.. this is really tearing me up inside.. anyways im rambling on.. any help thoughts or advice would help alot !!

 

thanks !

MIXWELL

[BigDaddy]

Simon says "YOUR BEING F----K". Sounds like she wants a Sugar Daddy

to help her with the money problems. At the same time, if you still want

to make things work.....Why don't you be the "Sugar Daddy"....Just a thought

[mixwell]

yeah well bigdaddy she hasnt asked to help.. i mean i offered but then again shes not like on my jock about it though. so i dont know if thats the deal.. she's never asked me to help her even in the past.. but you know if we get together i have no problem helping her out i mean we've been together for this long so i know its not abuot $$$... anyways heres another deal.. shes been hanging out with this guy alot now and says there friends and that she doesnt want a relationship.. well im going to have my mom spy on her this sunday, cuz i know shes going to be hanging out with that guy.. she hangs out with him like all the time and claims because none of her other friends wana hang out.. so if she is seeing this guy ill know b/c there going to kiss or whatever if thats the case and i have my mom as my eyes out there.. i just pray to god that they are just friends and that nothin is going on !! however it does seem like its obvious that she is dating him but then again she does have other guy friends and ive been around them and i do know that they are friends so i hope this is the case.. anyways ill post what i find out on sunday ! I cant wait to finally know what the hells going on !!

 

Peace