bentleychic Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 I am kind of leery about women that use that term "I love bald men". It makes me feel like a woman that has large breasts. I feel like they just like me cuz of that 1 trait . Well, I can guarantee you that I don't date a guy JUST because he is bald. That would be stupid. However, just like some men are attracted to only blondes, only brunettes, etc., bald (shaved completely smooth bald) is what I am attracted to. I've liked a few guys with hair, but bald is what turns my head. Link to post Share on other sites
Content Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 LOL on a date? I cant even get a date. This info has been relayed to me while on a dating site...or through friends of friends, or coworkers of friends. Get off old its a meat market where people are nothing but stats Youll have much better luck in person,just because one or two women out in public said youre too short doesnt mean all or even most would. Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 Go to the height threads on datehookup and pof forums about height and see how ugly it gets for short guys,the height tihng inst just something short men are parnaoid about its real 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 If a guy is 5'8 tall or less, what qualities should he have to cover 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 Before meeting, people screen based on perceived negative traits. But in person, you have an opportunity to impress with your attractive traits. Get out there are charm some ladies, and you'll meet plenty of women who don't care about your height or your hairline, much less the other stuff. aka a man under a certain height is never attractive physically to a women at first glance and has to "make up for it" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 aka a man under a certain height is never attractive physically to a women at first glance and has to "make up for it" His height probably isn't a selling point. So what? He's got plenty of selling points. Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 It's true. There's no hope for you, OP. Which is funny, considering how you used to be married... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 His height probably isn't a selling point. So what? He's got plenty of selling points. Proves my point men have a much more diverse taste in women and what can make a women physically attractive then vice versa. The fact a women couldnt possibly find a 5'8 man attratcive at first glance no matter what shape hes in or what his face looks like proves theyres only a small amount of men women find physically attractive and it starts with height and goes from there Link to post Share on other sites
BradJacobs Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 Many people just think that I'm being pessimistic...and bitching when I bring this topic up....but I think I have a damn good argument. . I think you have a silly argument. Your entire pity post was designed around your flaws and not your strengths so it's no wonder you have limited to no success with online dating. Guys like you (the woe is me / jaded crowd) are a dime a dozen online. How do you separate yourself from the rest of the jaded/I think women have it easy crowd? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrTurk Posted August 9, 2013 Author Share Posted August 9, 2013 It's true. There's no hope for you, OP. Which is funny, considering how you used to be married... She only used me till she got through Nursing school. Her husbadn cheated on her, left her to raise her 3 kids. She was on welfare and ready to drop out of college. As soon as she got her degree and nursing job she stated...."I dont think I'm in love with you anymore" and filed for divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrTurk Posted August 9, 2013 Author Share Posted August 9, 2013 I think you have a silly argument. Your entire pity post was designed around your flaws Notice you label them as flaws. That proves my argument even more. I dont see them as flaws. As I said I have no problem with myself. Its others that have the problem. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 Proves my point men have a much more diverse taste in women and what can make a women physically attractive then vice versa. The fact a women couldnt possibly find a 5'8 man attratcive at first glance no matter what shape hes in or what his face looks like proves theyres only a small amount of men women find physically attractive and it starts with height and goes from there I find many men that height attractive at first glance, but not necessarily because of their height. Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 She only used me till she got through Nursing school. Her husbadn cheated on her, left her to raise her 3 kids. She was on welfare and ready to drop out of college. As soon as she got her degree and nursing job she stated...."I dont think I'm in love with you anymore" and filed for divorce.Well, there you have it, your strength, as a support function. The chicks will flock! Link to post Share on other sites
Divasu Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 I fell in love with a broke, under 6ft. man who drove a Chevy Chase wooden station wagon in my early twenties. Great man he was. Life is full of opportunities. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
iKING Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 I'm 5'9 and haven't run into problems with it. I think the only time it was brought up was when the girl was over 6ft. And not even that stopped her from creeping on me. Strange world we live in. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 (edited) Before meeting, people screen based on perceived negative traits. But in person, you have an opportunity to impress with your attractive traits. Get out there are charm some ladies, and you'll meet plenty of women who don't care about your height or your hairline, much less the other stuff. Agreed. OP, None of the things you've listed are dealbreakers for me... In fact, you probably just described a cute guy I've had my eye on for a couple of summers in our local running club. I'm only 5'6"... he's maybe one inch taller than me. Went to my trail run group last night. Seemed chatty and friendly. Had a really sweet golden retriever he brought along for the run too. Real conversation starter. *shrug* My guess is that HE will pass on ME if it turns out I have more education than him (likely), make more money than him (potentially), or am older than him (not sure about that)... these are things I've been rejected for even when they were attracted to me and my personality. Edited: here's the question though, OP. What are YOU ruling out on women who are attracted to you? Edited August 9, 2013 by RedRobin 3 Link to post Share on other sites
TheGuard13 Posted August 9, 2013 Share Posted August 9, 2013 Since my divorce in 2009, I have tried OLD and tried meeting women in person with little luck. Through my experiences, women have relayed to me traits that I have, that are deal breakers for them. *Not tall enough* I'm 5'8 and it seems here in NE Ohio nobody wants a guy under 6ft *Bald* I've been shaving my head for over 10 years...and even though every idiot follows the cliche, and you keep hearing women saying they think bald is sexy...I have been told over and over by women they dont date bald guys. *No kids* I'm 42 with no kids. And I keep hearing time and time again how women assume 40yr old guys with no kids=weird or something is wrong. OR single moms want nothing to do with me because "I can never understand what they are going through" *No college degree* Heard this one over and over too. For many women, they could care less that I own my home, own 2 cars, am almost debt free, and have had the same job over 10 yrs. For them, a guy without a degree is worthless. *Non-religious* Another huge issue...most women wont even talk to me once they find out I'm non-religious. So there you have it. A bald guy, that is 5'8, no degree, non-religious, with no kids. Now some women may like bald....but no degree is a deal breaker. Or a woman may not have a problem with a lack of a degree....but she wont date a guy thats non-religious. In other words....they way I see it....the chances of me finding a woman that is willing to accept all 5 of those traits is going to be pretty tough. THEN add in that even if a woman does accept them....she still has to find me attractive...AND like my personality. Many people just think that I'm being pessimistic...and bitching when I bring this topic up....but I think I have a damn good argument. Being from Ohio, this doesn't surprise me that much, but where do you live in Northeast, Ohio exactly? What kind of area is it? What kind of women are you shooting for yourself? What do you do for a living? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrTurk Posted August 10, 2013 Author Share Posted August 10, 2013 Agreed. OP, None of the things you've listed are dealbreakers for me... In fact, you probably just described a cute guy I've had my eye on for a couple of summers in our local running club. I'm only 5'6"... he's maybe one inch taller than me. Went to my trail run group last night. Seemed chatty and friendly. Had a really sweet golden retriever he brought along for the run too. Real conversation starter. *shrug* My guess is that HE will pass on ME if it turns out I have more education than him (likely), make more money than him (potentially), or am older than him (not sure about that)... these are things I've been rejected for even when they were attracted to me and my personality. Edited: here's the question though, OP. What are YOU ruling out on women who are attracted to you? As far as I can tell. Nobody is attracted to me....and if they are, they dont show it. How, where, and when am I supposed to know if a woman is attracted to me?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrTurk Posted August 10, 2013 Author Share Posted August 10, 2013 Being from Ohio, this doesn't surprise me that much, but where do you live in Northeast, Ohio exactly? What kind of area is it? What kind of women are you shooting for yourself? What do you do for a living? I'm in a suburb near Youngstown Ohio. I am not too picky as far as looks...just hoping to find a woman that is in decent shape, active outdoors, and near my age, and has brains. Most women in this town that fit that bill are severely stuck up because they know they are few and far between. Link to post Share on other sites
TheGuard13 Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 I just got back from the Youngstown area today, had a case there today. I think you know the problem. The women that are any "good" are stuck up/taken/entitled dreamers, or simply not interested because they have other options. It's that way with a lot of smaller or midsized towns in Ohio. Small town mentality, to an extent. What does "brains" mean, exactly, in context? Link to post Share on other sites
Red Wolverine Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 If you are funny, successful, kind, and honest, there are women who will appreciate what you have to offer. Nothing you mentioned would be a deal breaker for me but the lack of traits I listed would throw you out of contention for me. Hopefully you are confident about who you are. The lack of that is the most unattractive quality I can think of. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 If a guy is 5'8 tall or less, what qualities should he have to cover It's pretty cool how everybody (including women) completely sh*tted on OP. And, to be fair, what OP said wasn't even THAT bad. I've seen women say WAY worse things about short guys both on this forum and on Facebook. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 OP, unfortunately, with that resume, you will never be in the top 20%. You will not date a ton of girls. However, I see no reason why you can't find one girl and settle down with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrTurk Posted August 10, 2013 Author Share Posted August 10, 2013 What does "brains" mean, exactly, in context? A woman that can hold a conversation and exhibit intelligence. Someone that has opinions, and able to argue why they feel that way. A huge turnoff for me is when a woman says she likes or dislikes something....and then when I ask her why, or I question it....she just giggles and says "I dont know". She doesnt have to be super smart...just be able to converse and talk about things besides facebook, her ex boyfriend, or the current popular reality show. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrTurk Posted August 10, 2013 Author Share Posted August 10, 2013 If you are funny, successful, kind, and honest, there are women who will appreciate what you have to offer. . I'm very funny and sarcastic once I get to know you, and learn who you are and what makes you tick. But I'm not one of those funny guys that can just walk up to girls at the bar and crack jokes and get people to laugh. Link to post Share on other sites
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