Fuzzymuzzy Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Im in a strange time in my life I broke up with my girlfriend of 18 mo. We have a child together. Even now I'm still having a hard time moving on. I initiated the breakup but feel lost without her. Which really makes no sense because I couldn't trust her. I'm a really good looking guy but I no longer have the confidance I had before. She has moved on (almost immediately ) and says she is totally happy and feels like this new guy is the best thing that ever happened to her. The last few days have been rough again and it feels like I have alot of highs and lows. I'll even dress up go to the bars, have girls checkin me out but have no desire to even strike up conversation. I almost wish I could be back with her because we have a child together and the disrespect was mutual. I have taken the last four monthes and started working out and working through my own issues to prevent a repeat in any circumstance. I know I'm a better person now but I still feel like I'm in a fog. I never let on to her that I'm so bummed as far as she knows I'm dating and have moved on. Do you think she is as happy as she acts or would a woman put on a show like that? I could never get her into sports now she comes over and tells me how much she likes football. stuff like that. The other day she came over with a cut or burn on her face (she said from the curling iron) and her windsheild was busted. I wish I could read her better. Well anyway I would appreciate advice or any words of encouragement. And if you don't mind maybe even throw a prayer out there for me. Thanks for readin your pal muzz Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 It's crazy but even when you've been the one to end a relationship that you felt wasn't good or healthy for you it isn't uncommon to feel a big let down, confusion or to second guess your decision. The two of you share a little person together.. IMHO that makes it even harder to "seperate" yourself from what was.. there isn't any moving away from this girl or the luxury of not seeing her any longer.. again it's hard. You know maybe she is happy and has moved on with someone new.. but you've got to know that there is I'm certain a part of her that wishes for the very same things you wish for as well.. that the two of you could've made things work. Right now this new guy may just be a distraction for her so she doesn't have to go through the pain of loosing "what was" know what I'm saying? It's okay that you don't have a desire to strike up a conversation and move right onto the next.. you're still trying to move past whats happened to your relationship with your babies Mom.. however I do believe you're doing the right things right now in getting out even if you're not meeting new people. Take care of yourself.. spend as much time as you can with your little person and give yourself time. Link to post Share on other sites
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