Exordium Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 So things have been getting a little better. I've talked to a few girls every now and then. I even met up with someone that I recently graduated high school with. We visited for a little bit, but I didn't push anything because she was going through some hard stuff with another dude (I'm not going to go into that). But anyways, it seems like everyone JUST wants to be friends. I've been 'friend-zoned' by almost everyone for around 5 years now. My appearance isn't that great, yes, but there has to be a way out of that zone without screwing something up. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Any suggestions? How few is "a few girls every now and then"? It might be that you need to do a more thorough search. Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 My appearance isn't that great, yes, but there has to be a way out of that zone without screwing something up. Any suggestions? You mean, an easy and effortless way? Why are you not working on your appearance? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fireb3nder Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Being friend zoned is not that bad. Pick a girl that u want to be your girl. Earn her trust. Be there for her. In short, court her subtly. Be the guy that she needs. Or wants. Like, if she likes a sweet guy, be that guy. Or if she likes a different kind of guy, and u cant do it, then change her mind. Show her that what it means to be your girl. Be on your best. Best of luck Link to post Share on other sites
Socks At Play Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 The way "out of the zone" is to focus your attention on finding other women. Your advances have been rejected and trying to win them over at this point is nearly impossible. What do you mean that your "appearance isn't that great?" You seem to realize that is one of your problems, and if it's something you can fix (e.g. weight/clothes/hygiene) then you should work on fixing it. I had low self-esteem due to weight issues. After I lost a bunch of weight and bought a wardrobe that fit me, my self-confidence soared. It became easier to approach and talk to women that I didn't know. Also, vastly more women sent indications my way that they'd be interested in talking to me which helped lower my approach anxiety. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 You avoid the FZ by not entering it in the first place. If you're not interested in being her friend, don't be her friend. You're not friends with guys you don't want to be friends with right? Same thing here. If a girl tells you she just wants to be friends, politely decline and say "thanks but I don't do the friends thing." She'll respect you more for it than if you just accept it unwillingly. As far as attracting women, work on the stuff you know you need to work on and then go from there. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 Start sending them dick pictures and they will get the hint 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BeholdtheMan Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 But anyways, it seems like everyone JUST wants to be friends. I've been 'friend-zoned' by almost everyone for around 5 years now. My appearance isn't that great, yes, but there has to be a way out of that zone without screwing something up. Any suggestions? Work on your appearance. You can easily improve in this area with exercise, healthy diet, and dressing well (usually this just means clothes that fit you well). It'll boot your confidence naturally Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I've been 'friend-zoned' by almost everyone for around 5 years now. My appearance isn't that great, yes, but there has to be a way out of that zone without screwing something up. Any suggestions? Try for another girl. Once a girl casts you into the fz, there is no escape. Link to post Share on other sites
scubasteve Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 You gotta be assertive! You tell then you want the relationship. You gotta show your dominant side. Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted August 21, 2013 Share Posted August 21, 2013 Start sending them dick pictures and they will get the hint Lol! That is how my name Joystick came about. I lost my virginity to a married woman that saw my dick picture. Link to post Share on other sites
Beast_117 Posted August 22, 2013 Share Posted August 22, 2013 Me too.It sucks being ugly Link to post Share on other sites
NateC Posted August 24, 2013 Share Posted August 24, 2013 Me too.It sucks being ugly Ugly is subjective. A handful of people don't find you "attractive" doesn't mean much. Link to post Share on other sites
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