l2hvn Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 hey all! i recently met this guy (just this past weekend, on my bday of all the nites). he is really nice and am just particularly drawn to him. something about him that attracts me. the problem is, he lives about 1500-2000 miles away. we have been exchanging emails/phone calls/texts everyday since we met. and i really really really like him a lot. he'll be coming down here to look for some properties (not to move, but to buy and have it rent out) next month. im excited and scared at the same time. i have not had a steady boyfriend in a long time. i don't have problems dating guys as i am a fairly attractive woman. im just too picky and scared to get hurt again. i've always thought LDR will never work out. but i want to give this one a try. any advice???? i really like him and i know and feel that he feels the same way........... but im just not so sure if this one will ever work.......... help! Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 How old are you first of all? Second I am in one now and its hard but it has its good moments too! Its hard to get into one though not knowing the person before they leave because you can't really build trust and get to know them completely when they are so far. But hey mine is working so far..not perfect..but working so if you like him I say go for it. No sense in regretting it later right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author l2hvn Posted November 4, 2004 Author Share Posted November 4, 2004 i just turned 26. he's 35. why would age matter? yes, i'll have to agree. i don't want to live in regret and the "what-ifs" or the "should'ves." it's good to know yours is working so far. how long have you guys been together?? Link to post Share on other sites
KitCat Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Age doesn't matter. I'm in a 4000 mile LDR and it's been a year that we've been long distancing it... only seeing each other rarely. It works though.. you never know.. he could be your Mr. Right. Like I just wrote in another post... if you think he's the one and it ends up getting serious and meaningful and you really care about him and want to be with him... no distance can stop you. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 I said age because there are like thirteen year olds who have a LDR and wonder why it doesn't work..so i was just asking...but ok.. Yeah I agree..I've been with my bf 8 months now..but we were together for three before he left. I love him and it's really hard...We are younger though and hes away in college so its hard when hes stressed out because of class and I can't be there for him, and the trust thing is hard. I do trust him but it's hard hearing girls in the background or him going to parties all the time..but he's really good. He calls when he says he will, picks up everytime I call, we e-mail, instant message, talk on the phone every night for at least an hour or longer and have made sure to see eachother at least once every 2-3 weeks. But I feel like we have something special and I kind of like the LD becasue it gives a chance to really miss eachother and I take it as the ultimate challenge that if we can get through it then we can get through everything. But it is hard, your sexually frustrated all the time, your lonely a lot, and he can't be there when you really need him sometimes and we miss out on a lot of couple things. Like I have a christmas party comming up and I'm dateless and I can't just go get another guy lol he would flip. But I just hope its worth it in the end. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 This thread should help you as well....LDRS that work!! Link to post Share on other sites
N51 Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 why would age matter? Hey .... im in a ldr for abt 3 months now......its been great so far ..... i just turned 19 in aug and shes 16 ..... age really diesnt matter....u just need to be mature abt it ..... it is hard coz her paernts are kinda strict, but yea we're both pretty mature and realise that we cant talk to each other everyday ..... u just need trust and commitment and yea once again maturity...lol N51 Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts