Betterthanthis13 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 I know I like to talk in abstract theories and analogies and it is probably really annoying to some people who like specific examples and human stories so if that's you, skip over the next few lines. I think it's funny but you may want to strangle me. When is enough enough? Enough is enough when enough is enough. Enough is enough. Therefore, enough is enough. --------------------------------------------------------- Now that that's settled, I thought the people who I have been talking to on LS the past few months might like to know that escape velocity has finally been reached and I kicked out the serial cheater sex addict from my house and asked my girlfriend to come stay with me for a few months. She's in a transition period anyway so will be a good roommate. We've been friends for along time and she knows the whole story. Win win. But its so so so sad and I'm having a pretty rough day today... He's packing up some basic stuff today and I'm going to go hang out at the mall or something. It's too draining to live the way I've been living. He's making progress on himself and that's great, but it's definitely slowing down my progress now that I'm over the initial shock of Dday. Anyway- be happy for me I guess? 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Furious Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 I know I like to talk in abstract theories and analogies and it is probably really annoying to some people who like specific examples and human stories so if that's you, skip over the next few lines. I think it's funny but you may want to strangle me. When is enough enough? Enough is enough when enough is enough. Enough is enough. Therefore, enough is enough. --------------------------------------------------------- Now that that's settled, I thought the people who I have been talking to on LS the past few months might like to know that escape velocity has finally been reached and I kicked out the serial cheater sex addict from my house and asked my girlfriend to come stay with me for a few months. She's in a transition period anyway so will be a good roommate. We've been friends for along time and she knows the whole story. Win win. But its so so so sad and I'm having a pretty rough day today... He's packing up some basic stuff today and I'm going to go hang out at the mall or something. It's too draining to live the way I've been living. He's making progress on himself and that's great, but it's definitely slowing down my progress now that I'm over the initial shock of Dday. Anyway- be happy for me I guess? First off BTT....I think you're a breath of fresh air and highly intelligent and have a good heart. I think you're wise and have empathy which is evident in your posts. I know without a doubt you will be more than ok in the future as you navigate through this difficult time on your life. Enough is enough when you say so. Letting go of a toxic relationship is a sign of reclaiming your core self esteem. For some it may be instantaneous and for others it takes time to reach that pivotal moment when they let go of someone they truly loved but realize that love comes with too steep a price. It's ok to mourn the loss of the relationship that meant a great deal to you. It's ok to wish them the best and recognize the good and bad in them. It's a grieving process you're entering and you can't go around it but through it. Life is beautiful, even a storm had it's own sense of dangerous beauty. Acceptance is the next stage and you will get there. For me the biggest challenge was letting go and in that frightening experience there was also a sense of reclaiming myself. Life is a series of exquisite joy and heartbreaking agony. I've embraced my strengths and also my weaknesses and in the end I have come full circle. That was my point of enough is enough. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Enough is Enough when you have added it up...and its still negative. Enough is enough - when you know the changes you to take a different road.... and see light at the end of the tunnel... even if it is a ways off. I am happy for you if you are removing painful elements and replacing them with peace. Positive wishes for you, I can see you have learned much. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 I know I like to talk in abstract theories and analogies and it is probably really annoying to some people who like specific examples and human stories so if that's you, skip over the next few lines. I think it's funny but you may want to strangle me. When is enough enough? Enough is enough when enough is enough. Enough is enough. Therefore, enough is enough. --------------------------------------------------------- Now that that's settled, I thought the people who I have been talking to on LS the past few months might like to know that escape velocity has finally been reached and I kicked out the serial cheater sex addict from my house and asked my girlfriend to come stay with me for a few months. She's in a transition period anyway so will be a good roommate. We've been friends for along time and she knows the whole story. Win win. But its so so so sad and I'm having a pretty rough day today... He's packing up some basic stuff today and I'm going to go hang out at the mall or something. It's too draining to live the way I've been living. He's making progress on himself and that's great, but it's definitely slowing down my progress now that I'm over the initial shock of Dday. Anyway- be happy for me I guess? Good for you! I'm proud of you and happy for you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Betterthanthis13 Posted August 12, 2013 Author Share Posted August 12, 2013 Thanks everybody! We can collectively write my online dating profile when the time is right. That should be fun. Ha 2 Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I'm proud of you - you go girl! Link to post Share on other sites
compulsivedancer Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 Thanks everybody! We can collectively write my online dating profile when the time is right. That should be fun. Ha Just stay away from Ashley Madison... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
crepesuzette Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 Betterthenthis, You are SO right...your gut is telling you the truth...it sounds to me as if he is not being honest with you...you are right. You have BTDT...you know the signs and at least you are strong enough to see the signs and do something about it. Good luck and stay strong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Betterthanthis13 Posted August 21, 2013 Author Share Posted August 21, 2013 Wow I only posted this 10 days ago? It feels like its been longer since I got that guy out of my house. Longer in a good way. I am getting my life back. I'm really enjoying that... I told him I wanted NC when he left, which he of course did not respect. I ignored all his attempts to contact me except once, the other day I made the mistake of texting him back and our initially pleasant "hope you are doing well" conversation turned into a text war within minutes. I lost my temper and sent a few (ok more than a few) really nasty insulting texts to him. I think I may have called him stuff like a delusional mama's boy big baby lying manipulating motherf**ing Ass*%#* sh*%thead d*%kface cheating fu*#tard loser. I also may or may not have threatened to do some very very bad very illegal things to him if he contact me again. Yikes I can't remember exactly because I was so embarrassd and disgusted and mad at myself for interacting with him that I swiped the whole text convo and deleted it Yeah.... good job BTT.... having a weak moment and getting sucked in to breaking NC was a bad idea. So I am changing my phone number at the end of the month. Kind of a pain in the butt because I use the phone for work and I have hundreds of work contacts that need to be informed but that's what I get for being a dope. Link to post Share on other sites
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