calgary Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I seriously aren't even looking for a relationship in my life right now, Im concentrating on bettering myself. But It really concerns me that I haven't met one girl i'm interested in. The attractive girls know they're attractive and generally sleep around from the amount of them that I've met. And the unattractive ones are really lovely, but im un-attracted to them. I work with people double my age. so that's no use, I never see anybody my own age unless I go out drinking with friends, and the majority of girls I've met in clubs aren't very nice/ my type. i'm really unsure how i'm going to meet a nice girl, I seem to get a lot of compliments on websites such as facebook, but it always gets to a point of meeting up and they always back out at the last moment like they're shy or something.. I seem to get tired of the girls texting me constantly and ignore them.. but at the same time I get ignored by certain girls and want to text them all of the time. anybody relate or am I on my own here ? Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I feel the same way regarding guys. I'm one of those "elusive quality women" that guys often talk about. Unfortunately, I'm rarely attracted to any guy I meet in my life. As in, I've found ONE man attractive in the 14+ months I've been single after my last relationship. And even more unfortunately, guys I do wind up being interested in, generally don't want to be "tied down" and rarely ever look for something serious. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I find that to be the case as well, you just don't "feel right" with what's before you. It's not mutual. Well, it's difficult to find good people to be friends with, let alone good professional relationships with them. Life is complicated, that's all I have to say. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I feel the same way regarding guys. I'm one of those "elusive quality women" that guys often talk about. Unfortunately, I'm rarely attracted to any guy I meet in my life. As in, I've found ONE man attractive in the 14+ months I've been single after my last relationship. And even more unfortunately, guys I do wind up being interested in, generally don't want to be "tied down" and rarely ever look for something serious. LOL HAHAHAHAHAHA...Your posts screams of narcissism due to a lack of self-awareness. I'm sure you're just a normal girl (if you weren't, you'd be dating a top notch guy right now). OP, this is normal. I go through phases like that too. If it concerns you, then just talk to a bunch of new girls. You're bound to find someone you're attracted to. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Pookie5 Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 i know how you feel. Its like the expectations you have are not being filled by anyone you have met so far and the people you want just don't want you back the same way.. or want a different kind of you. as for attractiveness: i feel the same way. the sexy guys are douchebags. or sleep around. The people i work with too are far too old and clubs don't have my kind of people.. but i suggest going to certain conventions that your work line holds, and maybe join the gym and meet people ask friends to refer you or patiently wait for your princess to come.. i'm waiting patiently. Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 (edited) LOL HAHAHAHAHAHA...Your posts screams of narcissism due to a lack of self-awareness. I'm sure you're just a normal girl (if you weren't, you'd be dating a top notch guy right now). OP, this is normal. I go through phases like that too. If it concerns you, then just talk to a bunch of new girls. You're bound to find someone you're attracted to. Narcissism due to lack of awareness? All dude respect kid, but I'm very well of the women that are out there and I'm well aware of the kind of woman I am. Narcissistic? Absolutely not. Confident and proud of who I am as a person? You bet your a.ss I am. I live in NYC. It's not easy to just "date a top notch guy." Guys around here don't want to settle down. There is too much free p.ussy walking around and tons of women willing to throw themselves at any guy in the bar. I'm not this kind of woman. I have tons of guys who want to date me for this reason alone. I know I'm a catch, and guys I know, know this as well. Unfortunately, I'm not interested in ANY of them, the guys I find myself attracted to and drawn to are the casual daters. So, nice try on trying to label me as something, but you're completely off base, and frankly rude. So you can take your condescending "LOL HAHAHAHHAHAHA" and go elsewhere. Edited August 12, 2013 by KatZee 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I feel the same way regarding guys. I'm one of those "elusive quality women" that guys often talk about. Unfortunately, I'm rarely attracted to any guy I meet in my life. As in, I've found ONE man attractive in the 14+ months I've been single after my last relationship. And even more unfortunately, guys I do wind up being interested in, generally don't want to be "tied down" and rarely ever look for something serious. I feel exactly the same way. Rarely attracted to anyone. I have probably been strongly attracted to about 3 men EVER. I am one of those quality women too Link to post Share on other sites
will1988 Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 OP If I were single I would be in your exact boat... I only work with middle aged and elderly people, and go to college at night through a program where, being 25 is considered to be a baby of the group! However, I'm not single... I found that when I was single and in these similar circumstances that letting go of trying to find a girl friend would honestly end up working in my favor and one would land in my lap so to speak. Every single woman I've ever dated has been from a happen chance random encounter that caused sparks and chemistry... so you may want to embrace that aspect of it... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I feel exactly the same way. Rarely attracted to anyone. I have probably been strongly attracted to about 3 men EVER. I am one of those quality women too Me too! I'm on my third guy now. In almost 29 years. I wonder why we're like this. Meanwhile I know other women who find almost everyone attractive, and guys could find any pair of legs attractive! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RogerWallace111 Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I can relate, OP, though I feel it to a lesser degree. I see girls I consider attractive daily, and ones I'd consider "girlfriend material" at least a couple times a week. The physical aspect isn't too elusive. But as far as actually finding myself charmed and enticed by a girls personality on more than a very basic, surface level- I'm just trying to accept that that's a rare thing. It really blows because I remember that feeling of being so enthralled with a girl you just can't keep away. It's awesome. Typically I just feel kind of detached, apathetic and like I'm going through motions. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 Not to sound cliche... But start to focus on intrinsic value..Traits such as intelligence, Strong family values, compassion. etc... Looks fade...dumb is forever... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 Do you get to know any of these women? Spend time with them IRL, not texting? Do you have friends with girlfriends you like? Link to post Share on other sites
RogerWallace111 Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 Not to sound cliche... But start to focus on intrinsic value..Traits such as intelligence, Strong family values, compassion. etc... Looks fade...dumb is forever... TFY Not bad advice by any means, but the OP's not saying he can't find aesthetically pleasing girls or girls with good character-traits. He's saying he can't find the whole package. Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 Might help if you said WHY you aren't attracted to them. Are we talking girls who are 'nice' but zero sexual attraction whatsoever? Or is it that they are decent looking but quiet and unassuming, or boring, while the girls you are attracted to are loud, boisterous, confident... Link to post Share on other sites
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