ndt Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 I sense a lack of communication in the first relationship. The second one won't be any better. Good luck anyways. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 By close, how close do you mean he is to his ex wife? Are they on good terms? Hate each other? She'll always be the in the picture because they've got kids. It's kind of refreshing to see someone actually own up to their cheating. People rarely seem to do that. Usually you get dumped by text (like me) or Facebook or something and then just no answers and NC forever. Why do cheaters have no remorse? Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 *shakes head* I'm glad that he's your ex-BF. At least he is free now. There's nothing wrong with pursuing happiness. There's something wrong with betraying people to seek your own happiness. Next time, instead of cheating and then breaking up...try to break up first before seeing another man However there doesn't seem to be many consequences for betraying people, when you can dump them by text, Facebook and just never contact them ever again. That usually solves that dilemma. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 I am trying to get your feedback on the new guy I met. Do you think this is a good catch? Starting to think there are a ton of bunnies on this thread. Okay, he FILED for divorce, which means that he isn't (and he's probably lying to you about that). So, you're having an affair with a still married man and I speculate his "estranged wife" knows nothing about you. And you cheated on your boyfriend with this douche rocket. Which leads me to believe that the answer to your question is NO he's not a good catch for a couple of reasons. One, if he's willing to cheat with you, the he's fully capable to cheat on you. Two, stats show that LESS THAN 7 PERCENT of relationships that start out from affairs actually make it the long haul. Because the foundation of your relationship was built on the pain of others. Link to post Share on other sites
Knoxpwns Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 So search for your own hapiness, but what was the f**king point of dragging your ex-bf through your mud? If you stopped giving a **** about him, why the hell didnt you just break up with him then and not string him along while you fool around with someone else? Is the new guy a catch? No. For you, nobody is a catch, because you **** on people who you pretended to care about and allowed them to form a meaningful relationship with your broken shell of a kind person. In short, grats to your ex for getting a chance to be with someone who can actually reciprocate emotions, and I hope you enjoy your butterflies while they last. Will be funny when you realize you feel the same damn way you did in the last relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
itto ogami Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 Her ex is very lucky to be free of her... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mws Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 sorry but you are scumm 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 I think you need to stop being in relationships for a while. You clearly have no idea how they work. In fact you have kind of been selfishly using guys for a long time. You date one ,you get what you want , you leave them, and you do it all over again. What a huge waste of time for all those guys . You are no where near close to prepared and ready for dating. You only Care about yourself and your own self interests. So far all I've got is "I cheated on my boyfriend with this guy I work with. Because he comes over and gives me attention ". You sound incapable and undeserving of a healthy monogamous relationship . Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 I am trying to get your feedback on the new guy I met. Do you think this is a good catch? He's a great catch, I think he and his kids should move in with you, your made for each other, if he was just unemployed it would be a match made in heaven. Your boyfriend should be thankful for the bullet he dogged with you. I guess it would be rude to start a poll on which of you will cheat on the other first? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ramza Posted August 14, 2013 Author Share Posted August 14, 2013 By close, how close do you mean he is to his ex wife? Are they on good terms? Hate each other? She'll always be the in the picture because they've got kids. It's kind of refreshing to see someone actually own up to their cheating. People rarely seem to do that. Usually you get dumped by text (like me) or Facebook or something and then just no answers and NC forever. Why do cheaters have no remorse? Well I am sure they do talk and stuff when it is relevant ot their kids. For the 4th of July weekend he went over there to meet with his kids. I was pretty upset when I found a picture of him, his ex wife and 2 kids together. But she is way over in CHicago so it wont bother me much really. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ramza Posted August 14, 2013 Author Share Posted August 14, 2013 Starting to think there are a ton of bunnies on this thread. Okay, he FILED for divorce, which means that he isn't (and he's probably lying to you about that). So, you're having an affair with a still married man and I speculate his "estranged wife" knows nothing about you. And you cheated on your boyfriend with this douche rocket. Which leads me to believe that the answer to your question is NO he's not a good catch for a couple of reasons. One, if he's willing to cheat with you, the he's fully capable to cheat on you. Two, stats show that LESS THAN 7 PERCENT of relationships that start out from affairs actually make it the long haul. Because the foundation of your relationship was built on the pain of others. Chi Town D, his ex-wifes blog said he filed for divorce. I wouldnt think she would lie about that. So no what you say here is not accurate. What makes him a douche rocket? Because he has kids? Because he divorced? If thats the case, every adult man and woman is a douche rocket. He fulfills me, and thats what I wanted. Thats what I was missing from the last relationship, I am sorry I did cheat on him but he probably will be better suited with someone else. He didnt cheat on me and he wont because we are happy together. He doesnt even talk to that girl in Bolivia any more and besides at what point would that work, she is waaay on the other side of the world. What do you mean built on the pain of others? So you're saying because I cheated on my ex, the liklihood of me and the new guy lasting is 7%? Psh.. Then I could be that 7% then. Link to post Share on other sites
Virgil876 Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 It seems as though he puts more into it than I do, and after 7 months with him, my feelings just aren't growing for him anymore Isn't that purely on your part? Without talking to him and try something out first, it is quite inconsiderate. I'm also quite disgusted by the "he completes me" talk, it just sounds like you want something fresh and live through the honeymoon period and once that ends, you'd get bored and leave... Link to post Share on other sites
Virgil876 Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 I know I hurt my ex-bf but he just didn't give me what I wanted. I wasn't happy and my feelings just weren't growing. So what is wrong with finding something that makes you happy?!?! At the expense of someone's misfortune? You actually don't know you hurt your ex-boyfriend if you're still using this reason for your cheating ways. Link to post Share on other sites
Virgil876 Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 I am trying to get your feedback on the new guy I met. Do you think this is a good catch? "Do you think this is a good catch?" Get the **** out of here. Link to post Share on other sites
Misfortune Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 Ramza, I think you'd have a more positive vibe in the infidelity section. You don't bring this to some place were most people have been hurt by/are trying to recover from what you're asking them to help you with. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 Ramza, I think you'd have a more positive vibe in the infidelity section. You don't bring this to some place were most people have been hurt by/are trying to recover from what you're asking them to help you with. EXACTLY what I tried to tell her lol. I'm glad you agree with it Link to post Share on other sites
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