Why is it that about 80% of the women near my age group seem so super attractive?

[Necris]

This may seem odd and probably just an example of my low standards but most women I see around my age (twenties) seem highly attractive to me only the very few super obese, deformed, etc. women I don't find attractive. Which is odd considering how I notice most guys I know may walk into a room and will only find maybe 10% of the women attractive vs my 80%.

 

Now of course me being me I would never be capable of having a relationship/sex/etc. with these women plus with more and more now starting to get married/engaged/permanent gf of someone and the fact for me at least as time goes on dating actually is getting harder and harder I don't ever expect to be anything but single for the rest of my life, which is okay I guess but it is funny feeling like I'm surrounded by attractive women and can't do anything about it.

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

I have the opposite problem. I find very few girls attractive (especially white girls).

[carhill]

Why is it that about 80% of the women near my age group seem so super attractive?

 

It's nature's way of advising you that you need to mate to continue the species and you apparently haven't so nature is upping the ante.

 

Another analogy could be a muddy, insect-infested pool of water in the desert seems like a crystal clear snow-driven stream to a person who's dying of thirst. Run across a river and it's like nirvana. Once on the river and satiated, one gets more selective.

 

I ran into this same issue during the decades I was a virgin, though perhaps not at the level which you are experiencing it. At the opposite end of the river, having been married and divorced, I note a marked uptick in the 'one gets more selective' aspect. One bonus of that process is that it's easier to avoid the married ones. Life grants small favors. Good luck.

[mesmerized]

haha as a woman I tend to agree with you. I find most women attractive while I find most men unattractive and I'm totally straight. There are more women that turn my head than men. Go figure.

[florence of suburbia]

haha as a woman I tend to agree with you. I find most women attractive while I find most men unattractive and I'm totally straight. There are more women that turn my head than men. Go figure.

 

That's because biologically speaking, woman = flower, man = bee.

[kaylan]

That's because biologically speaking, woman = flower, man = bee.

I think its that not many dudes put enough effort into looking good.

[florence of suburbia]

I think its that not many dudes put enough effort into looking good.

 

I agree with this too.

[man_in_the_box]

80%? Hell no, not even on the campus of university.

[sillyanswer]

80%? because you are horny.

[sweetkiwi]

haha as a woman I tend to agree with you. I find most women attractive while I find most men unattractive and I'm totally straight. There are more women that turn my head than men. Go figure.

 

In Italy it's the complete opposite. Many men are attractive here into their 50's. Whereas the women are only attractive for a very small window in their late teens, mid twenties. After that they still keep their fantastic bodies but something happens to their faces and they just look old, or more masculine. It's hard to tell.

 

I think many women can begin to appear more attractive once they are "done up". Hair, makeup, clothes, shoes, perfume, accessories. We just have a lot we can modify to look better.

 

That's why many guys appreciate a woman who is still beautiful the morning after. If half their face remains on the pillow and is completely different from what is underneath, they get scared. As would I.

[man_in_the_box]

Also the core essence of this thread is 'look at how low my standards are and I still cannot find a girlfriend, pity poor me' am I right?

[crude]

Obviously your standards are different than most men's. Lower. But maybe try to look at women who aren't wearing makeup, no pushup bra, no form shaping underwear or pretty dresses and jewelry, and maybe you won't find them so attractive. You need a dose of reality, then you can go for women with a logical mind.

[will1988]

Admittedly for me I can see something beautiful in most things / people. However, I find that it is about a 50/50 split for me in the DC area... a lot of attractive women of all ages (although lately I've been finding myself mostly attracted to women who are my age and up to 10 years older, so 25 to 35)... however, there are also a lot of less than desireable women (who may have some attractive features but are otherwise not overly attractive, at least physically to me). That partially answers your question. Why do I feel that way, I'm not sure. I guess we all have preferances. I have as of late also been finding super skinny girls to be not attractive, even if I once desired and dated girls in that range. However, at the same time I am not in to BBW. I guess I don't like extremes in terms of weight. For me, generally speaking, the women I am attracted to the most are curvy caucasian women... blondes are preferable, but not a must. We like what we like. Some men love asian women, some love hispanic, others like african american... a lot of guys like tan white girls, I personally like pale... that is just my preferances. I think in your case you are lonely and notice something beautiful in most women. Which is comendable.

[thefooloftheyear]

Just go out to the midwest....Like a petting zoo out there!

 

TFY

[will1988]

Just go out to the midwest....Like a petting zoo out there!

 

TFY

 

in a good way or bad way? are you insinuating that mid western gals are hairy and have horns and chew like goats? or are you saying that they are hot and numerus?

 

I think this way (latter) about Tennessee! Blonde girls in daisy dukes with southern accents.... :love:

[Necris]

Also the core essence of this thread is 'look at how low my standards are and I still cannot find a girlfriend, pity poor me' am I right?

 

Nope. Not sure where you got that idea.

 

Besides im done with looking and getting constant rejection.

 

Im just curious about an observation i made.

[man_in_the_box]

I don't believe any of that. Sorry if I sound harsh but the fact that you still take the effort to come on this website and start threads about this is why I believe that. If you had truly given up you wouldn't bother coming back, pondering about attractive girls, relationships and what-not you mentioned in that first post. In fact I don't believe any of those guys that come here posting about how 'they've given up on women', while still endlessly coming back on here to talk about it. It gives them away instantly. I know the way of thinking and I'm human too and prone to it.

 

On the other hand it does also mean there's some fighting force left in you.

[thefooloftheyear]

in a good way or bad way? are you insinuating that mid western gals are hairy and have horns and chew like goats? or are you saying that they are hot and numerus?

 

I think this way (latter) about Tennessee! Blonde girls in daisy dukes with southern accents.... :love:

 

Nah...I was just kidding..I think...

 

It stems from an experience at a strip club in Columbus Ohio where the "dancers" averaged around 275#......No...I am not kidding...

G strings and all..

 

TFY

[NYC-BigKat]

This may seem odd and probably just an example of my low standards but most women I see around my age (twenties) seem highly attractive to me only the very few super obese, deformed, etc. women I don't find attractive. Which is odd considering how I notice most guys I know may walk into a room and will only find maybe 10% of the women attractive vs my 80%.

 

Now of course me being me I would never be capable of having a relationship/sex/etc. with these women plus with more and more now starting to get married/engaged/permanent gf of someone and the fact for me at least as time goes on dating actually is getting harder and harder I don't ever expect to be anything but single for the rest of my life, which is okay I guess but it is funny feeling like I'm surrounded by attractive women and can't do anything about it.

 

I'm in the same boat as u . Its summer time & lots & lots of really really pretty girls all around me & I cant have any of them no matter what I do.

[Necris]

I don't believe any of that. Sorry if I sound harsh but the fact that you still take the effort to come on this website and start threads about this is why I believe that. If you had truly given up you wouldn't bother coming back, pondering about attractive girls, relationships and what-not you mentioned in that first post. In fact I don't believe any of those guys that come here posting about how 'they've given up on women', while still endlessly coming back on here to talk about it. It gives them away instantly. I know the way of thinking and I'm human too and prone to it.

 

On the other hand it does also mean there's some fighting force left in you.

 

I was just curious if other posters here also find 80 percent of twenty something women attractive.

 

Never said ill give up on women ill just stop trying to ask anybody out, i got better things to do, and i only experience rejection anyway. The single virgin life is not all that bad if you think about it, not many drawbacks but at the sametime few perks.

Edited August 12, 2013 by Necris

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

In Italy it's the complete opposite. Many men are attractive here into their 50's. Whereas the women are only attractive for a very small window in their late teens, mid twenties. After that they still keep their fantastic bodies but something happens to their faces and they just look old, or more masculine. It's hard to tell.

 

I think many women can begin to appear more attractive once they are "done up". Hair, makeup, clothes, shoes, perfume, accessories. We just have a lot we can modify to look better.

 

That's why many guys appreciate a woman who is still beautiful the morning after. If half their face remains on the pillow and is completely different from what is underneath, they get scared. As would I.

 

This is generally how it is in the US too.

 

Take the makeup off and women that are 30+ =

[will1988]

Nah...I was just kidding..I think...

 

It stems from an experience at a strip club in Columbus Ohio where the "dancers" averaged around 275#......No...I am not kidding...

G strings and all..

 

TFY

 

275 lbs? Jesus... I'm a fat man, and don't way much more than that. Do the know how to use the pole?

 

The one I used to go to frequently (like at least once a month) many moons ago in my single years had a whole spread of women. Ironicly, the best looking girls were there during the afternoon and early evening hours. Thankfully, this worked better to my advantage since I worked only a few minutes from there and it was on my way home from work... It was in a really run down area though. meh.

[will1988]

This is generally how it is in the US too.

 

Take the makeup off and women that are 30+ =

 

meh... we all grow old, it is a part of life. I actually find myself at 25, more attracted to girls in my age range up to 35, more so than barely legal girls. They just look so young, and to be honest, now-in-days they all dress like little tarts. Personally, I like women with a little more modesty and class. Then again, many of my contemporaries consider me to be some what old fashioned.

[man_in_the_box]

I was just curious if other posters here also find 80 percent of twenty something women attractive.

 

Never said ill give up on women ill just stop trying to ask anybody out, i got better things to do, and i only experience rejection anyway. The single virgin life is not all that bad if you think about it, not many drawbacks but at the sametime few perks.

 

I still don't understand why that had to be expanded with a paragraph of forever alone rant but ok.

 

Actually, not frantically hunting for girls isn't that bad of a thing to do as long as you make sure you used that energy on something constructive. Unless your goal is get laid ASAP but I doubt that's your driving motivation.

[hppr]

This may seem odd and probably just an example of my low standards but most women I see around my age (twenties) seem highly attractive to me only the very few super obese, deformed, etc. women I don't find attractive. Which is odd considering how I notice most guys I know may walk into a room and will only find maybe 10% of the women attractive vs my 80%.

 

Now of course me being me I would never be capable of having a relationship/sex/etc. with these women plus with more and more now starting to get married/engaged/permanent gf of someone and the fact for me at least as time goes on dating actually is getting harder and harder I don't ever expect to be anything but single for the rest of my life, which is okay I guess but it is funny feeling like I'm surrounded by attractive women and can't do anything about it.

 

I am the same way. Also why are you totally unable to have a relationship with any of them? Is it the area you live in (IE everyone is very cliquey and you just don't fit in) or do you just write yourself off without even trying?