Bella123 Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 What do you do when... You love a man very much. You've been in a Long distance relationship and have managed and been happy and then you find out years later this man has to go to Iraq b/c of a stupidity on his part of signing up for the army at 17. When I meet him he wasn't in the army 5 years later they’re calling him into active duty involuntarily. You know I keep telling myself well I'll get through it; we'll get through it together. I wonder, I really wonder if I have the willpower to stay completely so low for 2 years. What would you do in my situation? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 Well, while I can understand that you didn't really sign on to be a "Military Wife/Girlfriend" as you and he didn't expect for him to be called to active duty.. does it now change how you feel about him because he has been called to serve his country? Deployments are very hard on everyone involved.. the distance and uncertainty can be maddening not to mention the loneliness of seperation.. however there are millions of people who get through it and remain together prior to, during and long after deployment. My boyfriend is in the USMC and deployments are hard.. we are usually far from where the other is.. unlike your man my bf was active in the Marine Corp when I met him.. I knew getting into the relationship it wouldn't always be easy and there would be times that he simply couldn't be with me.. however it never crossed my mind for a minute to give up or let go of him based on the idea that he had chose a career that would take him places I couldn't go.. I wish the both of you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 If you love him you can wait for him. Do you prefer be far from him for 2 years or do you rather be far from him for the rest of your life? It can be stressing and sad, but it will for sure make your relationship stronger. Link to post Share on other sites
Bella123 Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 Thanks for your replies. I cried right after writing that post. I can't leave my boyfriend b/c I love him to much, I just hope I can be strong enough for him and me while he's away. Link to post Share on other sites
abbasgurl82 Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 my bf left this sat, so i know where you are coming from, hes in active duty and going to be transport when they get there to iraq. i know from experience that you can't tell your heart who to love and if hes who you are suppose to be with, that he will always come back to you. if you love him don't let him go... we will help eachother through this time. Link to post Share on other sites
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