a friend broke my heart

[lastman]

This is probably nothing compared to what some of you guys are going through, but it still hurts like hell and i do feel depressed.

 

i met this girl early this year, and we became friends. we had a lot of fun together cause we're so alike, we have the same sense of humor, we're both inmature and a little shy, things like that. so it had to happen, i started to like her, and after a while i started to REALLY like her. we also hang out with the same group of friends and i noticed one of them also liked her, but i never thought much of it cause i honestly didnt think he was her type at all. we hanged out as a group, but most of the time it was just me and her.

 

I really went out of my way to do things for her, and had people tell me you dont get a girl by doing everything they ask you to do. but i still did it. i really tried to let her know i liked her. After a few months, i realized that maybe she just saw me as a friend and that maybe i misunderstood any kind of signal i thought i was getting. I was sure by then she knew how i felt, but i didnt want to make things weird between us so i never said anything, and i convinced myself i could just be her friend.

 

just last week, at a small get together with our little group, she and the other guy got really friendly with each other, and i had to stop things saying it was me just being the "big brother" when i really was just jealous. when she left, me and him had a talk and we agreed to talk to her and come clean. and thats when everything went wrong. he talked to her on sunday and apparently she admited to him that she likes him back. i didnt find out about this until wednesday when i went to have my talk with her. and even though i went there to tell her i had no feelings for her anymore, when she told me what happened it was like someone pierced my heart.

 

I am so confused because i have known for a while that she didnt feel anything for me, so i dont think its rejection thats affecting me. Im thinking maybe im hurt because all the time i was trying so hard to get her to like me, during that same time she was starting to like someone else, because she told me she didnt have any feelings for him at all at the beggining. I dont know why but it hurts a lot more than i think it should be hurting, and i've been miserable for the last couple of days.

I dont think i could stand watching them together, so should i find some new friends and leave them alone? i think i also feel sad cause she has become such a big part in my life and i would miss her, but i dont think i could get over this if i saw her again. am i overreacting?

thanks for reading

[ltomlinson81]

This is a difficult situation. I know how it feels when a friend starts dating someone you liked or have dated. It does feel just like a dagger through your heart. You may have come to terms with the fact that she was not interested in you, but you never prepared yourself for the fact that she may be interested in your friend.

 

While this is a very complicated situation in which your feelings are involved with both of these people, step back and think about whether it would be worth ending friendships over. Since you never dated this girl, you cannot be too attached. However, while it still hurts, maybe you should just avoid hanging out with them while they are together. Level with your friend and tell him it makes you uncomfortable, he will probably understand.

 

Good luck and keep your head up!

[trixie25]

I know how it feels to have a broken heart. I know that doesn't make anyone feel better and I know we all think is sucks.

 

I know exactly how you feel. I had my best friend in the world break my heart. Unfortunately I can't get away from it. We work at the same place.

 

My "friend" and I have been close for over 2 years. We did basically everything together. He knows more about me than anyone else in the world. I loved him more that anything and he supposedly did too (at least that's what he told me). Three weeks ago that all ended out of now where.

 

And just like you, this person had such a big impact on my life that I don't think I can live without him being my friend. But at the same time, I don't know how to trust anything that he (or anyone else for that matter) says to me.