imjustagirl Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 My boyfriend and I have been talking for a few months now about "the future" and what it will entail. Which, I'm glad to annouce, it includes ME. There was a time there (shortly before our 2 mth break) that we didn't think we'd last. But, we persivered and survived. He said, in passing a few months ago that he plans on giving me something "big" for Christmas. I of course asked, how big...and was given a ring size box measurement. (that's what I get for falling in love w/ a math freak!)....he even had his sister take me to the mall to get "our ring fingers sized for the fun of it"...i didn't find this out until I was talking to her that is what he was planning. So, I just let it pass enjoying what we have....until last night, we're laying in bed talking, thanking each other for the nice day, when out of no where, he goes, "soo, wanna head to the mall tomorrow so I can see what you're looking for in a RING. I literally started to cry. I had just put it in the back of my head (probably hoping not to get hurt again) and all the sudden, he's all, "i've been saving up some money, well, you know that since we haven't really been 'out' much...but I want to give you an engagement ring for Christmas...I know I'm ruining the moment, but I've been to the stores during my lunch hours for the past 3 weeks and I'm just not sure what to get you...there's a few that I know you WOULD like, but I want you to help decide." I was literally floored....the thing is...I'm not big into jewlery. I want the ring, don't get me wrong, that's every woman's dream....but the only ring I do wear is a black hills gold heart on my middle finger. My mom bought it for me after my sexual assault in college...along w/ the black hills gold leaf I lost on my necklace during the assault. Stating that "material possessions can always be replaced, but I cannot." So I figured I'd go on some websites to see if anything caches my eye...and I noticed something. It's not just the wedding rings that are expensive...but engagement rings also. I don't want him spending over 200 on a ring that I'm only going to wear for a couple years (we decided that if we do get married, it won't be for a couple years to get our financial footings down).....so how do I tell him I don't want an expensive ring...and how do I get a nice looking ring for under that price. He's already said no pawn shops or estate sales (he has a thing about other people's jewlery holding onto the things of people's past)...so it has to come from a jewlery store.......HELP!! Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 What about Ebay? There are some decent jewelers listed there and they aren't used rings. I purchased my engagement ring for cheap and I'm extremely pleased with it. Stick to vendors that have 100% customer satisfaction and a 100% money back guarantee and you should be okay. As an example, I purchased a diamond and emerald ring that was appraised for $2,695 and I purchased it for $1,250. Link to post Share on other sites
krbshappy71 Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 I don't know what the going rates are for rings, I would just surf, as you have been doing, find the style you like, (ignore the prices online) just get an idea of what style you are looking for, let him take care of the rest. Personally I love a small solitare marquise. I had one, once (yah yah gave it back, boo hoo, HA!) and every time I glanced down at it I just loved how petite and simple it was. I don't wear jewlery often, either, in fact I'd say "rarely" is more like it. Find your style and go with it, there aren't any rules on rings. A friend of mine has a sapphire instead of a diamond and its beautiful. Diamonds just aren't her thing. Its the symbolism behind it. Congratulations! Link to post Share on other sites
Leikela Posted November 5, 2004 Share Posted November 5, 2004 Why don't you check out http://www.zales.com They have some nice jewelry for a decent price. They even have an engagement ring section. Just for the record, you won't be wearing your engagement ring for just the time you're engaged. Once you get married, you buy a smaller cheaper wedding band that slips on behind your engagement ring. So you're engagement ring is it for life so better pick something you REALLY like. They also sell sets where the wedding band matches the engagement ring. Of course with the sets, you don't wear the wedding band part until you're actually wed. Originally posted by Pocky I purchased a diamond and emerald ring that was appraised for $2,695 and I purchased it for $1,250. Pocky, just so you know, ring appraisals are always going to be a lot higher then an actual sell price. Appraisals are basically for insurance purposes. My boyfriend had an engagement ring from a previous relationship and he bought it for $2000 but the jewelry store issued an appraisal certificate for around $3000. When he tried to sell it, the place he bought it from would only give him $600 for it to buy it back. He went to every appraiser and jewelry store in our area and only managed to sell it for $800. So beware on what you're buying and don't buy based on appraisal prices. Link to post Share on other sites
Author imjustagirl Posted November 5, 2004 Author Share Posted November 5, 2004 Thanks Everyone! I was told that I'm getting 2 rings...engagement and wedding...no wraps for the engagement rings, because that's what I assumed. But since there's going to be 2 rings, I don't want him to spend a large chunk of money that I know we really don't have (we're moving at the end of January so we need deposit and first months rent in hand). So one ring in December...and one ring in a few years... Oye...since when did life get so complicated.... Link to post Share on other sites
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