Author Man-guy Posted September 17, 2013 Author Share Posted September 17, 2013 Ugh... so weird... not feeling like I got a setback, but if anyone has any insight to this, it'd be appreciated... Found out the stbxw got back on facebook, apparently a few days ago... Don't know what it was, but something about seeing her photo pop back up made me feel... disgusted is the only word that comes to mind? Nausea for the Sartre fans... Anyways... it's been 4 days since, but today I can't seem to stop thinking about everything... Not even angry or bitter really... I just have this bizarre and intense unease when I think of this person, disgust is the only word that comes to mind... At the end of the day I do want her to have a decent life and whatnot, I just can't seem to explain what it is that's making me feel like this about things... I have been doing great to, I just can't explain what happened to me that when I now think of her I feel like I need a bucket nearby :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 So my wife has remained in NC with me and some of our closest friends for 3 months now, and I feel like I'm ready to move on. What annoys me though is that she has yet to file for divorce, which is particularly frustrating. I'm still ok with giving her more time for it, but am interested in meeting new people, going out, etc. without this hanging over my head. I would prefer not to file myself, I kind of want this divorce to be all about her, beginning to end, until it becomes necessary (financial changes, serious new relationship I may be in, w/e). Once she establishes contact and the divorce process has officially begun, I would eventually like to work toward some friendship at least, as I believe we both do care about each other, even though it's no longer romantically. My question is, once the wheels start turning again, how would I go about establishing a healthy friendship with her, or is this me just being naive? Thoughts/recommendations? My ex wife dragged her feet. She said the words but there was no action. I finally took all the initiative and got everything done. My advice to you is to take care of the divorce first, then let the friendship happen if it's going to on it's own. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Man-guy Posted September 17, 2013 Author Share Posted September 17, 2013 Feeling tons better today, got out of my funk finally That said... I found out my wife is probably going to a mutual friend's get together this weekend... So far, with any similar event, she has avoided me like the plague and acting, honestly... kind of childish and ridiculous about it (suddenly declining moments after I say I'll attend, etc)... I highly suspect she will attend this one though, as she actively avoided any event I could possibly attend, but I had mentioned meeting up at some point to just catch up about a month ago 1 on 1. She seemed open to it, but did nothing, so now I have no idea what to expect. I've tried to handle my feelings of anxiousness by basically tossing myself to the sharks and just going for it to see what happens (attending parties of mutual friends... first one was ROUGH, going back to our old neighborhood, contacting most of our mutual friends first to break the news, etc). I'm feeling like I gotta go to this one to get to get past this other hurdle and feel like I'm truly freeing myself from this, as well as possibly open the POSSIBILITY of friendship, though I have NO clue how she would react if she actually saw me... So, let me ask, how did your first meet ups w/ ex's go? Any advice for a situation like this with several mutual friends around? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Man-guy Posted September 17, 2013 Author Share Posted September 17, 2013 Well, decided against going Any advice on a situation like that would be appreciated though, as I think whenever we do run into each other it will be in a big group setting like that. Link to post Share on other sites
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