Cat Posted January 1, 2001 Share Posted January 1, 2001 I stumbled across this board today, and thought wow what a wonderful place this seem's to be. I hope it is alright to ask question's about sex. I am 24 years old, female, and I am in a very loving relationship with my boyfriend. I have been sexually active for some time now, but I have never been comfortable with giving a guy oral sex or recieving oral sex myself. I know my boyfriend would really like me too, but he is not going to pressure me into something I don't want to do. Last night I sat down and thought about why I don't want to give him oral sex and I think it has a great deal to do with the fact that I don't know how to do it. So I was wondering if anyone could help me out with some idea's? (I know it is a personal thing and each guy is different and to ask him what he like's..but I would like to have some idea as to what I am doing before hand) Thanks!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 1, 2001 Share Posted January 1, 2001 This is NOT my specialty but I have copied various responses to similar posts in recent months. If you would like to view these posts individually, go all the way to the bottom of this page...double click on "search all messages" and enter "bj", "oral", etc.,. The following is just a compilation of a number of posts I was able to find very quickly using the search feature. Hope this helps: Well depends on what you are looking for. Playing with the tip and alternating taking it all the way in. Hold the base while sucking and give a hand job to help you out if you can't deep throat. Try sucking while you are taking it in but not to hard and not just the tip. To really spice things up you can put a little tooth paste in your mouth and mix it with you saliva. It has the same effect as altoids, but there is no chance of the toothpaste acting as sand paper liek with altoids. (If you opt for altoids, don't chew them). Pop a couple of frozen grapes in your mouth just before... guys usually get a kick out of that. What is your goal? You need to tease him for a little while kiss here and there, lick and so on, but don't only do that the whole time. Just to start things off. lightly tickle his inner thighs and gently fondle his testicles. You can lick and suck them too. Are you aiming to make him cum? or just to start things off? Don't use your teeth. Forgot I used to have a really easy time making a guy cum, but for some reason I found that the more B.Js they have had, the harder it is. If all else fails ask him what would do it for him, maybe he has never cum from it. Your mouth hurst: Probably because you are keeping your jaw locked while it's open. Practice on those stupid popsicles. You know, the long skinny ones. Try to keep your mouth relaxed yet your teeth away. Practice makes perfect. I would suggest teasing him for a while before you jump into it. That way he has enough time to fantasize. Suck on his toe if that does not gross you out, and work your way up. keep your mouth wet. Start of by giving him a hand job for a little bit. What you don't want to do is start him going while you are teasing him because then if you stop it will take even longer. If all else fails and your mouth is really starting to hurt, reach down and tease his butt hole. (That get's them every time, sometimes they won't let you near it, but be persistant. You don't have to stick your finger in there, but all around and swipe your finger right across it works every time). that one, it's important. easy way to get him to cum is to wrap your mouth around him penis apply a bit of pressure at the base with your hand. after your spit has "slicked" him up, bigin to use the hand that was at the base and follow you mouth up and down. hand job/bj you could also try putting that candy in your mouth before time, that kind that explodes in your mouth, sorry forgot what they are called tho, but they are little pieces of candy that explode in your mouth i heard that is quite a turn on! Link to post Share on other sites
Nic Posted January 2, 2001 Share Posted January 2, 2001 i read so many articles when i was with my ex because i had no idea. i read them word for word and thought i had it down pat, but like you said, everyone is different. he liked it that i was doing it to him, but then oneday i just said, "tell me how you like it done". he did and i mastered it according to how he liked it. asking him how he liked it was the best thing i ever did. asking doesn't mean you don't know what you're doing. it just means you want to please them according to how they like getting it. trust me, when you ask and you practice, it can be very rewarding. oh, and don't be afraid to be a bit of a hygiene freak when it comes to oral sex. it is so much more pleasurable when you have both you have powdered your nose (so to speak). frankly, i wouldn't have it any other way. being hygeinic actually makes the situation a lot more comfortable. so just relax, explore each other, and don't be afraid to ask how do they like it done, or to say how you like it done. enjoy! I stumbled across this board today, and thought wow what a wonderful place this seem's to be. I hope it is alright to ask question's about sex. I am 24 years old, female, and I am in a very loving relationship with my boyfriend. I have been sexually active for some time now, but I have never been comfortable with giving a guy oral sex or recieving oral sex myself. I know my boyfriend would really like me too, but he is not going to pressure me into something I don't want to do. Last night I sat down and thought about why I don't want to give him oral sex and I think it has a great deal to do with the fact that I don't know how to do it. So I was wondering if anyone could help me out with some idea's? (I know it is a personal thing and each guy is different and to ask him what he like's..but I would like to have some idea as to what I am doing before hand) Thanks!!! Link to post Share on other sites
rob Posted January 2, 2001 Share Posted January 2, 2001 Maybe you could check out how the pros do it by viewing a blue movie. They are the professionals after all. Link to post Share on other sites
Stargazer Posted January 3, 2001 Share Posted January 3, 2001 Hi and Welcome, Why don't you go check out BJ's post (by Jennifer) on Saturday, 30 December 2000, she asked the same question, Quandry had some good tips! Oh yeah and porn movies are an excellent idea, watch and learn! Link to post Share on other sites
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