guest#2 Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 ok... i know ill feel real guilty after complainin but i just cant stand it nemore. ok... how shud i start this.. my mom always talks to me like im a child. I know a lot of teens say this but put urself in my position first. Everytime i try to talk to her like an adult about things that are controversial or can be argued like religion. So i start having a mature conversation with her. So we we make our points and everything goes well until i make a really strong point. So she gets stumped and she starts saying things like " ok... ur right... wutever.. i really really really believe you". i know it doesnt seem like much typed but imagine sum1 sayin dat to u with a sarcastic tone for ur whole life. Hell, she even gives me a look of supierority, like she looks down on me. I know she's older and wiser and i do respect her and her wishes, but it seems like she doesnt resepct at all or even ackknowledge my thoughts. oh yea, fyi even my 52 year old dad, who was a college professor, has the same exact comments i have about my mom. But anyway, she's apologized (probly not even sincere) for this once but continues anyway. But besides that one time, she has never admitted she was wrong. She has also said "oooo, im sooo sorry" only millions of times to me and my dad b4 in a sarcastic tone.. so dat doesnt count. So basically she's manipulative, a hypocrite, arrogant, and stubborn. I just cant stand it anymore. Is she normal, and if she is, how should me and my dad change our acts? thx for u time. Link to post Share on other sites
Lollsabell Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 Just a suggestion, but it's more than likely your mum is finding this period of time just as confusing and stressful as yourself! My guess is that now you're older, you're also a little bit wiser too and maybe she can't cope with this new person who's suddenly changing from kid to -arrgh!- person in their own right with opinions. Maybe you need to just have a discussion about this. Try not to use words like "arrogant" -try to keep it positive. You could just tell her that the way she responds is making you feel a little low. Like respect, listening and talking is also a two-way thing, so make sure you both have a turn at speaking and voicing your opinions on the issue. If she is behaving this way towards your father, that may well just be an additional insecurity of hers voicing itself in a negative way to those around her -including both you and her father. Communication is one of the most vital things about family life. Perhaps she will appreciate the mature way in which you are dealing with this, but as a rule, parents are not superhuman and all humans have their flaws. It's up to them as adults to keep them in check once in a while! Good Luck Loll x Link to post Share on other sites
guest#2 Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 yea, ur right. parents do have their flaws but heres the thing, she knows that wut she does make me and my dad feel this way, hence she has apologized for this before. I have tried to have talks about this with her (without using any words that would piss her off) but in the end she'll just either give me the silent treatment or just go back to her sarcastic self. Yea.. its like on good days she'll give me and my dad a sarcastic tone just for a good laugh, and when she's in a bad mood, she'll just ignore us completely. o yea, this cant be all bcuz of my age, i mean.... my dad has been complainin about this for more than 25 years... o yea.. thx for ur help Link to post Share on other sites
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