orangegirl Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 I was shopping one day, minding my own business. In line waiting to pay for things. Out of the blue, this tall man starts joking with me. At first I want having the conversation. But then something he said intrigued me. We exchanged phone numbers and later that day we were hanging out. It want until after his many flirtatious gestures did I then notice he was married. I don't rely Patti attention to minor details. I then said, omg, you're married!! He then said yes, but seem to not really care. We eventually hooked up and I felt really bad. He left and the next day had called me really early to see me. What does a married man want with a single girl?? Trying to figure out he chose me and if he really cares about his spouse. Link to post Share on other sites
Red Wolverine Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 I was shopping one day, minding my own business. In line waiting to pay for things. Out of the blue, this tall man starts joking with me. At first I want having the conversation. But then something he said intrigued me. We exchanged phone numbers and later that day we were hanging out. It want until after his many flirtatious gestures did I then notice he was married. I don't rely Patti attention to minor details. I then said, omg, you're married!! He then said yes, but seem to not really care. We eventually hooked up and I felt really bad. He left and the next day had called me really early to see me. What does a married man want with a single girl?? Trying to figure out he chose me and if he really cares about his spouse. He wants sex. He might or might not care about his wife but he's married. It's really that simple. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 What does a married man want with a single girl?? Trying to figure out he chose me and if he really cares about his spouse. Ummm... he wanted sex. If he calls you again, it's because he wants more sex. Run. Run like the wind. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 I was shopping one day, minding my own business. In line waiting to pay for things. Out of the blue, this tall man starts joking with me. At first I want having the conversation. But then something he said intrigued me. We exchanged phone numbers and later that day we were hanging out. It want until after his many flirtatious gestures did I then notice he was married. I don't rely Patti attention to minor details. I then said, omg, you're married!! He then said yes, but seem to not really care. We eventually hooked up and I felt really bad. He left and the next day had called me really early to see me. What does a married man want with a single girl?? Trying to figure out he chose me and if he really cares about his spouse. What do you mean by what does he want? What a single man often wants, and what you gave: attention, sex, a good time. Don't read into why he "chose you", I am sure it wasn't some case of you being some "chosen one" in a master plan...but he probably does this often and if he sees someone he fancies who gives him the time of day, he goes in for it. How long ago did this happen? Have you seen him again? Do you plan to? He chose you, maybe subconsciously, as something about you told him you'd hook up with him even though married. I guess on some level we all scope people out and determine if we think they are a good bet for what we want. I'm sure he didn't approach some women as he assumed they wouldn't be impressed or disgusted at him. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangegirl Posted August 14, 2013 Author Share Posted August 14, 2013 He wants sex as everyone else said. And...you gave it too him. And you will again. Why are you producing around with a piece of trash? I didn't realize he was married until after we were laughing and joking. I was sucked in. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 I didn't realize he was married until after we were laughing and joking. I was sucked in. But orange, it's not like he lied to you for days or weeks and you had enough time to really develop an attachment. You laughed and joke for a few hours and were "sucked in" already??? I think something about you gave off the impression that it would be easy to suck you in. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangegirl Posted August 14, 2013 Author Share Posted August 14, 2013 What do you mean by what does he want? What a single man often wants, and what you gave: attention, sex, a good time. Don't read into why he "chose you", I am sure it wasn't some case of you being some "chosen one" in a master plan...but he probably does this often and if he sees someone he fancies who gives him the time of day, he goes in for it. How long ago did this happen? Have you seen him again? Do you plan to? He chose you, maybe subconsciously, as something about you told him you'd hook up with him even though married. I guess on some level we all scope people out and determine if we think they are a good bet for what we want. I'm sure he didn't approach some women as he assumed they wouldn't be impressed or disgusted at him. This happened last week. He's kept sporadically. I don't want to be involved in drama!! I haven't seen him again. And i don't plan to. Just boggled. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 This happened last week. He's kept sporadically. I don't want to be involved in drama!! I haven't seen him again. And i don't plan to. Just boggled. Good! Don't! What are you boggled about by the way? Lots of married men scout out single women for flings and affairs. His approach was even more crude, as some at least try to lie or downplay and pretend because they figure the woman won't engage if she knows the truth, but this fool didn't even respect you enough to do that, and in some ways you didn't respect yourself enough, as he casually said he was married, like it was no biggie, like he just knew you'd not mind, and right he was. But lesson learned! Don't allow jokes and laughs to suck you in to drama. No man is that funny . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted August 14, 2013 Share Posted August 14, 2013 What does a married man want with a single girl?? Trying to figure out he chose me and if he really cares about his spouse. Sometimes a married man see a very irresistible single woman and forgets that he is married. The fact that he risked so much for you is very significant. To haver the courage to cheat on his wife probably means he was truly impressed by you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangegirl Posted August 15, 2013 Author Share Posted August 15, 2013 But orange, it's not like he lied to you for days or weeks and you had enough time to really develop an attachment. You laughed and joke for a few hours and were "sucked in" already??? I think something about you gave off the impression that it would be easy to suck you in. Why do you think i was anan easy target 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangegirl Posted August 15, 2013 Author Share Posted August 15, 2013 Sometimes a married man see a very irresistible single woman and forgets that he is married. The fact that he risked so much for you is very significant. To haver the courage to cheat on his wife probably means he was truly impressed by you. That's what i wanted to hear. Bit is it truth Pierre? Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 Why do you think i was anan easy target I don't know...but you were because you did hook up with him after knowing he was married and only knowing him for a few hours. So someway somehow maybe you gave off that vibe hence he chatted up with you and got what he wanted. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 (edited) That's what i wanted to hear. Bit is it truth Pierre? I think Pierre is being facetious and saying what most OW want it to be. You obviously want to hear that it was some amazing thing, you were impressive, he chose you, but fact is: why does it matter if some sleazy MM chose you to hook up with? It's not a compliment. Why he did it is probably more insulting than anything else, i.e. he saw you as an easy target and gullible and could get in your pants with a few jokes, versus you were so amazing and wonderful and he couldn't help it. I doubt this was the first he's ever done this. Edited August 15, 2013 by MissBee 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Speakingofwhich Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 But lesson learned! Don't allow jokes and laughs to suck you in to drama. No man is that funny . ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ what she wrote! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 (edited) That's what i wanted to hear. Bit is it truth Pierre? Of course you wanted to hear that. The truth: These men hit on several women a day. Statistically one out of 20 fall for the charm of the cheating OM. These women are validated by attracting a taken man. It is bonus points for external validation. I am certain it felt great. Edited August 15, 2013 by Pierre 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author orangegirl Posted August 15, 2013 Author Share Posted August 15, 2013 No its not the truth. Pierre was being sarcastic. This isnt a great love story. Its just a sleezy man who likes to pick up girls on the side, cheat and lie to his wife. A real prince lol. Happens all the time sadly. So I was a target, nothing more? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 So I was a target, nothing more? You are very naive and easy prey to players and cheating married men. Or perhaps your need for validation is so strong that you want to believe you are special to the cheater. A woman with healthy self esteem walks away from these men and do not give them one second of attention. If your self esteem is low and you need validation the words of the cheating man sound wonderful. Usually, these men will try the charm with several women a day until one falls. Yes, you were an easy target and paradoxically you would have been more special if you had walk away. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LimeBlue Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 Wow I just read this thread. Why would you give out your number and other details to some random bloke standing in a queue with you? From the replies it sounds as if you had sex with him? How does anyone have sex with someone they literally just met? If you did have sex, did you use protection? Either way, this is bad bad news for you as this man is nothing but a predator. The man is a creep and you should stay away from him entirely. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Pierre Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 Wow I just read this thread. Why would you give out your number and other details to some random bloke standing in a queue with you? From the replies it sounds as if you had sex with him? How does anyone have sex with someone they literally just met? If you did have sex, did you use protection? Either way, this is bad bad news for you as this man is nothing but a predator. The man is a creep and you should stay away from him entirely. Yes, Healthy woman Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 And you're also in a 5 year r/ship and angry with him for not moving to be with you after you moved, he clearly had more sense. I didn't realize he was married until after we were laughing and joking. I was sucked in. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WrinkledForehead Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 Run. Run. Run. If I've learned anything, its that affairs destroy lives, change people, and not for the better. I'm an other woman and I highly recommend against it. There's a reason cheating is so vehemently frowned upon. Save yourself the heartache and save yourself for someone available. Link to post Share on other sites
mitchell Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 He wanted what you wanted. You both wanted sex, and you both had your desires fulfilled. Was the sex at least good for you? Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 I was shopping one day, minding my own business. In line waiting to pay for things. Out of the blue, this tall man starts joking with me. At first I want having the conversation. But then something he said intrigued me. We exchanged phone numbers and later that day we were hanging out. It want until after his many flirtatious gestures did I then notice he was married. I don't rely Patti attention to minor details. I then said, omg, you're married!! He then said yes, but seem to not really care. We eventually hooked up and I felt really bad. He left and the next day had called me really early to see me. What does a married man want with a single girl?? Trying to figure out he chose me and if he really cares about his spouse. I guess you never got the "talk" from your mother when you were 14 years old?? I cant add anything...The previous posters have covered it all..Accept your part, move forward with your life and make better decisions in the future.. Everyone makes mistakes..Learn from them... I wish you well TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 Why do you think i was anan easy target Because it worked. You WERE an easy target. He talked with you, got your phone number, and got what he wanted from you. How do you think that you weren't an easy target this time? Link to post Share on other sites
shortee Posted September 17, 2013 Share Posted September 17, 2013 (edited) Why do you think i was anan easy target Because you are. You went home with a guy you just met in line at a grocery store and had sex with him. Who does that? That's not normal. The guy figured he could get some easy sex since you made yourself so readily available. You had sex with some strange man you just met and knew he was married. You better get yourself tested for std's. You're very lucky he wasn't some serial killer/rapist. Frankly, I don't understand how you can be so surprised and boggled. It's your behavior that is just as bad as his. What were you thinking? You clearly need some therapy. Edited September 17, 2013 by shortee Link to post Share on other sites
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