Lollsabell Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 I've been wondering about this for some time now... just wanted to know what people think: You have a partner, you have done something wrong. Chances are he/she is going to be very unhappy, but may also just as well be blissfully ignorant. I want you to for get ALL the rules here. Think back to personal experience. Do you: a.) Confess all and try to duck as your now not-so better half swings at you with a heavy object? b.) Hoping against hope they won't find out, keep schtum? Now, I know the moral majority will be saying things like; "Behonest!" and "Have respect!" and so on, but think. Think about it. Why are you doing it? Are you telling the truth for hers ' his benefit? your own? You just want to get it off your chest whilst walking round thinking "It's best for the both of us"? Hmmmm....? Link to post Share on other sites
paradissa1 Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 i've been with my husband for ten years . honesty is "always" best . lies seem to usually come back at ya with a big wham. Link to post Share on other sites
StillHurtin Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 I agree, honesty is the best. I kept a secret from my dh and it was tearing me up inside so I told him. He wasn't happy but I think he appreciated me telling him the truth. He got over it pretty fast. I have a lot of guilt when it comes to lying. When dh had an A during our seperation he lied about it the whole time even though I knew he was sleeping w/ the OW. Two months after our children and I moved back to my hometown he called me and told me everything. He wanted to get back w/ me and he said he could no longer lie to me. He said if he wanted our marriage to work he needed to tell me the truth. He said it tore him up inside to keep lying to me. Link to post Share on other sites
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