littlelaxer Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 ok so ive been doing no contact with the ex for about a month and today would actually have been a month since i have last heard his voice. Anyways i was working last night. And becasue of my strange schedual my work allows me to work once a month. I always work the first friday of the month. Well i was just doin my job and in comes the ex. With his roomate. DOESNT EVEN SAY HI. nothing. im like jeez what did i do. And its at the mall so its not like ur not allowed to talk to people. So he walks around the store of course close to me, but i was on regisiter, but i suppose making sure i saw him. and walks out and while passing the window my friend said he was justa looking my way. But i didnt look cause i didnt know they left. Last night i actually had like my first date since him and i broke up, so while out around 1:20 ish AM i see i have a missed call from 1:05am and its my ex. im like whoa! it didnt ring though i dont knwo what happend maybe he called and hung up real fast i dont know. So when i was going home i called him back and i asked if he had called and he was like "ummmmmmmm noooo i dont think so, maybe my phone did cause its in my pocket and maybe it actidently called u". Now im trying not to read into this but his phone used to do that back when we were dating cause i would be the last person he would call but he hasnt called me in weeks, so im thinking well did ur phone go into ur phonebook and search for my name and then dial and hang up real fast??? So i was like ohh ok to him. then he said i saw u at ur work today. and i sadi yea i dont know why u didnt say hi. He said well when i was away back home(he went home for 2 weeks) i called and textd u and u didnt f-ing respond so i was like whatever. I was like yeah ok. and i did respond once but he didnt say anyting (further information check out last threds of mine) and he was like well ill let u go alright bye. And i just hung up. i really dont know what his deal is. I heard from a friend that he said he was kinda talking to someone new and she has all the same qualities that i do but she can go out and party. So am i left to start no contact all over again???? or do i call him and try and talk things out. I really dont want to do that but i dont know what to do........can someone give me an idea about this whoel situation. Yes i want him back deep down but this is all so confusing..... thanks Link to post Share on other sites
lostNconfusedx10 Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 if the phone was in his pocket and called you by mistake than it prolly would have rung for a while. not real quick and then hung up. He most likly was gonna call you and chickened out and either hung up real fast or put the phone back in his pocket with you being the last call and THEN it accidentally called you. so im not sure. and i think thats kinda weird that he would come by your work and not even say hi. I wonder if he was looking fo you to say something to him when you went in there. Does he know that you work on that one day a month and he just happened to come in at that time? If he wanted to avoid you then he would have not come in that day. But if he wanted to see you then he definetly would come in that day. He sounds like he's confused and looking for a little attention from you. If you broke up with him then the balls in your court Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlelaxer Posted November 6, 2004 Author Share Posted November 6, 2004 he knows where i work and even if it was a coincidence that he came in the same day i was working, u think he would of atleast said hi because he broke up with alittle over a month ago. He said "he didnt know what he wanted, and wasnt ready for a long term relationship" this of course after dating for a year. i just dont understand what his intentions are......the phone call really messed me up. Im a big believer in signs and that day on my break i was gonna send him a text saying something along the lines of "so you cant say hi" but it wouldnt let me send so i never did and here i am gettin a missed call. if his phone did call it would of rang more to the point where my voice mail would of picked up and io would of gotten a message of just like noises in the backgroud cause it used to do that back in the day. and he hasnt called me recenlty so thats why im saying its very odd the phone would do that....... i guess im just all confused now cuase i was doing just fine and then all of this happens..... Link to post Share on other sites
lostNconfusedx10 Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 it does sound like he's getting a little curious towards you. Just sit back and see what he does. He will most likely try some form of contact with you soon. Until then, try not to let it get to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 7, 2004 Share Posted November 7, 2004 so the phone called you and then hung up super quick....right. What a lame thing to say and if I were in your position I'd feel as though he insulted my intelligence by thinking I would believe that. Guy is curious about you but is too pussy to come out and say it Link to post Share on other sites
gobain Posted November 7, 2004 Share Posted November 7, 2004 Weird is right - he's curious but being p**sy about it. There is NO WAY the call was accidental. Trust me, I was the dumper and have done the same thing and blamed it on the "accidental dial". It's plausible so therefore the perfect excuse. Don't call him. Or text or email or anything for a bit. He knows that he got to you by coming in and not saying anything and "the call". He got you to respond without taking responsibility for inititating contact - that's what he wanted. Let him stew for a bit before you contact him again or, better yet, don't contact him at all until he makes the first move to contact you outright, with no games or excuses. He dumped you and now he's having second thoughts about it, I think. Don't make it too easy for him and he'll be more and more drawn to you. Lord knows it worked with me. My ex keeps the contact minimal and he's in my head more than ever. If that's what you want then listen to lostNconfusedx10 - sit back and see what he does. Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted November 7, 2004 Share Posted November 7, 2004 He was trying to communicate but he is too scared to approach you. His coming to your work place is a positive sign which he considers enough from his side for you to start. You should have given him some sign of encouragement to communicate. Sure he is missing you just like you are mising him. Just be honest with each other and try to find a way to work things out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlelaxer Posted November 7, 2004 Author Share Posted November 7, 2004 Thanks to all of you! i really am trying not to read to much into this whole situation but i cant help it. I just think the whole thing is weird. i guess im just gonna have to see what he does next. If he really is intrested he will try to do soemthing more later. I dont know how long that will take. I dont want to call him because it will seem like i am still wanting him back soooo bad, and i dont want to come off that way. I want him to worry about me for once instead of me always worrying about him. My friends say he is tryin to mess with my head, but i dont understand why????? and it can drive me crazy wondering why. I was doing just fine i hadnt seen him in over a month nor hardly spoken to him but once in over a month and he does all this. i do hope that he is havin second thoughts on the whole break up thing.....................do u think if i just hang low that he will do something again??? Try and contact some how??? Link to post Share on other sites
sami Posted November 7, 2004 Share Posted November 7, 2004 You'll only build more blocks and barriers against positive and healthy communication. You both need to express your concerns in an adult responsible fashion. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author littlelaxer Posted November 7, 2004 Author Share Posted November 7, 2004 i really think he should be the one to contact me. He let me go and now hes doing stupid little things that i just dont understand. I dont want to call him and him have nothing to say about it. So im leaving it to him to bring it all up because the last time we had a talk about "us" was over a month ago, and i told him that if he wanted to talk he should call me and that i wasnt going to call him. I let him go or i sure am tryin but i dont get these stupid games and junk............ Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 yeah he is doing stupid stuff and if you dont want to play his little games then don't. I have some messed up stupid **** going on with my ex whom I communicate with. What I have learned from this is that people who used to be normal and everything suddenly become crazy and different people. It is like the break-up causes humans to go retarded when talking with their ex. Man she (my ex) is sure fugged up now. WTF. Link to post Share on other sites
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