GreySkyMorning Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 I was thinking about this at work last night. The way that he acted at the end and the things he said about what we really had between us....he didn't even let me keep the good memories. He even took those away. There is nothing good left that I can look back on and smile. From the time I met him 20 yrs ago, and up until now, I never thought I would ever regret loving him. But now I do. When he left that first time all those years ago, I believed that he'd just used me for sex. But somewhere, a small part of me kept hoping that wasn't true. For all those years, I managed to hang onto that little hope. This time, he took that away from me completely. It was nothing but a game for him that went too far. But HE was the one that pushed it that far!! I don't think I'll ever understand it. I wonder if he treats her the same way? He told me after we started getting together that her first marriage ended because her husband cheated on her. What kind if man would have put her through it all over again? Link to post Share on other sites
LimeBlue Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 I wonder if he treats her the same way? He told me after we started getting together that her first marriage ended because her husband cheated on her. What kind if man would have put her through it all over again? Some men do. This good friend of mine, he is 50, and in a LDR. His girlfriend, who is the same age, got divorced because her husband was cheating. And now, this 'friend' of mine (I now say the term loosely) has been engaging in an EA with me for quite some time (it is recently over with) plus he has admitted to me that he cannot stop cheating. His girlfriend has no idea that her new man is doing exactly the same as her xH did. He said he is hesitant to move the long distance to be with her because of his cheating. Perhaps the men can give us some insight? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
IfWishesWereHorses Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 I would venture to guess that the relationship was (to him) whatever it was in whatever moment. It's a chameleon. And he likes it like that because its the only way he can live with himself. He's a cheater, I wouldn't take his definition of your R to much to heart. People who cheat don't have a strong sense if who they are, how could they. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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