The fact is that good-looking people find love more easily

[man_in_the_box]

People in the Horn of Africa are disadvantaged because they have no food, people in Syria haven't got such a bright life expectancy because of getting gibbed by either rebels or regime fighting, gays in russia just got a big **** you to their sexual identity, women in repressed regions of the middle east have their gender identity basically censored, girls in China are still seen fundamentally as less, you do t want to be Christian in Egypt etc. Etc. Everybody is born with advantages and disadvantages, does being not "hot" really mean you have such bad cards dealt, compared to what **** you could've been in?

[PJKino]

Call me crazy and selfish but id like to be loved AND lusted over

 

A good looking person can find both while an unattractive person at most can be tolerated physically by someone who loves them.

[Babolat]

I'm stunning, and still single, so I can't imagine how tough it must be for the ugly folk.

 

 

Finding a compatible mate isn't easy - for anyone.

 

Agreed (you are stunning) and to your compatible comment.

 

I am not stunning, been told enough times I am good looking/handsome/"HAWT" to kind of get it though.

 

I am 47, single, and still have not found Mrs Compatibile! I am not the type to swoop woman up for sex, one night stands, get phone #'s. I spend a lot of time by myself when I know, or am told, I could be hitting the bars picking up chicks. I get approached enough to know it could be easier for me if I wanted it to be.

 

I am single because I am very selective and prefer it that way. Sex is sex, when it's with someone you care for and want to be with, it's amazing!

[Woggle]

No doubt it gets your foot in the door much quicker but it won't help you find lasting love.

[Babolat]

I will add, my ex gf just turned 43, and she is one of the hottest, most attractive women I have ever met. All heads turn when she walks by, even the women! At 43 she looks like she is in her early 30s.

 

She is single, 4 failed engagements, never married. So does she have it easier because of her looks? I dunno, I could probably argue she may have it harder as she gets the wrong kind of attention and/or Mr. Right will not approach her because of her looks.

[TouchedByViolet]

Good looking people have one of the greatest advantages in life. Even better than rich people IMO. Similar to rich people though they have to be careful when looking for love to find someone who likes them for who they are inside and not just money or looks.

[veggirl]

You could be sexy as hell but still have a personality that turns potential romantic partners off. Maybe hot perma singles have crappy personalities or something? Its not just be hot and get a life partner. If you're hot you have more opportunities but if you date and date and still can't find someone then I'd guess either your standards are unrealistic Or people just don't like something about you.

[Maleficent]

I agree that compatible personalities are what ultimately cement a relationship. However, you have a better chance of finding someone with a compatible personality if you're good-looking, because you get around more. I don't sympathize at all with people who are good-looking and complain that they can, with no effort at all, get countless dates and one-night stands with sexually attractive people, but haven't yet found one who seems like long-term relationship material. Yeah, what a terrible problem to have. Wouldn't that be awful to be a tall, handsome (and/or rich) guy who has women swooning over him 24/7, who is just having trouble finding one worth settling down with. 99% of the work of finding a romantic partner is getting them attracted to you in the first place. What really sucks is being a guy and knowing women who are attractive and like hanging around you because of your personality, but won't ever date you because they wouldn't like being seen hitched to you due to you being short or otherwise unattractive.

 

Blah.

 

More attractive people have higher self-esteem and go out more.

 

Fix your self-esteem and you'll go out more - therefore being at the level of the more 'attractive people'

[joystickd]

Good looking is so subjective. One person's average is another damn you look good so essentially everyone has a hard time finding love unless you got a sh**ty personality then you need prayer or whatever thing your religion does to help you

[PlumPrincess]

Why is that nobody wants to admit that getting rejected for your looks is a real obstacle in the dating process, something that a good-looking person may face occasionally as well, but still never to the extent as a less good-looking person?

[MomsSpaghetti]

Why is that nobody wants to admit that getting rejected for your looks is a real obstacle in the dating process, something that a good-looking person may face occasionally as well, but still never to the extent as a less good-looking person?

 

Exactly. My point is that an average looking guy has to try very hard just to find an attractive girl who is also attracted to him. I'm an average looking guy and I've had maybe 3 times in my life when an attractive girl thought I was okay looking. That's 3 times where love was even a possibility. Any tall, handsome guy who is my age has had over 100 times where there was mutual sexual attraction between he and a girl he met. That's 100 possibilities of finding someone who is compatible sexually and relationship-wise.

[ForeverAlone28]

I'm really good looking and like I said, the guys I am interested in pick girls waaayyyy less attractive than me.

[Phoe]

Ditto.

If you get asked out 10 times a week, chances are at least 8/10 of these people won't be a match for you or it won't work out or turn into anything significant.

 

Honestly though, who seriously gets asked out 10 times a week? That is just insanity. Nobody gets the opposite flocking to them and tripping over each other so much that it happens almost twice a day. Ridiculously unrealistic.

[iKING]

I'm really good looking and like I said, the guys I am interested in pick girls waaayyyy less attractive than me.

 

Perhaps you have a slightly inflated sense of self?

 

It seems unlikely that every guy you get interested in ends up with a girl that's waaayyyy less attractive than you are.

 

Dunno. Maybe you just have horrible luck. Or maybe the guys you're interested in actually pay attention to personality.

Edited August 16, 2013 by iKING

[Southern Cal Dude]

Good looking people have more options and opportunities, no question. But that has nothing to do with finding love. And when it comes to attractive people, many are flat out intimidated or believe in the stereotype they're dumb as bricks or have no personality.

[SpiralOut]

Oh great another thread about how being good looking solves all of life's problems.

[Ryan R.]

Good looking is so subjective.

 

I don't know. There's some traits that people consider attractive all across the board. There was some guy from the middle east who got kicked out of his home country for being "too attractive". I think his name was Omar Borkin Al Gala. Women across all ethnicities found him handsome.

 

Oh great another thread about how being good looking solves all of life's problems.

 

I can pretty much guarantee if I was sexually attractive, my happiness would increase tenfold.

Edited August 16, 2013 by Ryan R.

[Southern Cal Dude]

Studies do show that more attractive people are happier and more intelligent overall.

[MomsSpaghetti]

Oh great another thread about how being good looking solves all of life's problems.

 

Well, this is a dating forum. Obviously a lot of people hanging out here are not good looking. Otherwise they wouldn't find the whole dating thing so difficult.

[SpiralOut]

Well, this is a dating forum. Obviously a lot of people hanging out here are not good looking. Otherwise they wouldn't find the whole dating thing so difficult.

 

My point is that this topic has been beaten to death already. Furthermore it is frustrating to hear generalizations being made, especially when it appears that any opinions to the contrary are ignored.

Edited August 17, 2013 by SpiralOut

[PJKino]

On the way to try finding love the attractive men im friends with sleep with tons of beautiful women and have a great time while people like me struggle to get any dates i sure would trade plights with attractive dudes who havent found the one yet

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

Perhaps you have a slightly inflated sense of self?

 

It seems unlikely that every guy you get interested in ends up with a girl that's waaayyyy less attractive than you are.

 

Dunno. Maybe you just have horrible luck. Or maybe the guys you're interested in actually pay attention to personality.

 

Or maybe she's not actually good-looking at all.

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

Studies do show that more attractive people are happier and more intelligent overall.

 

They are happier because people are nicer to attractive people than non-attractive people.

 

They are more intelligent because they are given more opportunities in school due to their looks.

 

This is true for women more than men, which is why it's safe to assume that if a woman is in a good position and attractive, she most likely got there due to her looks, whereas a less attractive woman actually had to be qualified (probably way over-qualified).

[PlumPrincess]

Well, this is a dating forum. Obviously a lot of people hanging out here are not good looking. Otherwise they wouldn't find the whole dating thing so difficult.

You have to differentiate here. Good looks may be an advantage in the dating process, but lack of it should not be an excuse for failing at dating. If you're average, but have very high expectations on your match, then it will take you longer to find someone, but that's your choice. I would say, most guys who are not very good at dating are not particularly ugly, they're average looking, what causes problems is usually their attitude and their demands.

[man_in_the_box]

Exactly. My point is that an average looking guy has to try very hard just to find an attractive girl who is also attracted to him. I'm an average looking guy and I've had maybe 3 times in my life when an attractive girl thought I was okay looking. That's 3 times where love was even a possibility. Any tall, handsome guy who is my age has had over 100 times where there was mutual sexual attraction between he and a girl he met. That's 100 possibilities of finding someone who is compatible sexually and relationship-wise.

 

 

Its exactly the same for women, why are all you whiners so incredibly entitled? Don't you see that for every guy that's having trouble dating because of physical appearance there's also a girl somewhere out there getting passed by for looks? Is that completely irrelevant or something? How come nobody ever realizes that there's a flipside to this personal conviction?