DownNtOut Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 we split up 11 months back,had been together for a year. we met up at least once a month since the break up to go cinema,theatre and for coffees. we chatted about how our work was goin etc. we wud only meet up by ourselves. i poured my heart out to my exgirlfriend last week. I told her i loved her and only wanted to be with her. She began to cry and told me another ex (from 4 years back) was looking to be with her again. She told me she needed time to think as she wasnt ready. i said that was ok that if i didnt hear from her, that i wud know. she apoligised for sleeping with me 3 weeks ago. (It felt to me like it wasnt a '****' it was tender. she stayed in bed with me till lunchtime, holding each other and kissing) It really mixed me up. She text me 2 days after i spilled my guts to her. and said she had gone to dinner with the other ex again and decided to try going out with him for a month to see how it goes. she said she didnt want to leave me hanging on. told me i was brave to drive to her town and put myself out there. she said she loved me but only in a 'friendship' 'companionship' way. i text her back and said, 'id miss her. and to take care of herself.' i unfriended her on fb and deleted her number. were her tears just pity? any comments appreciated i dont understand.. such a mess ughhh Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 You've made the same thread like 7 times already. You may have been a rebound and she has made it clear that she wants to pursue her ex instead of being with you. Not much else can be said. Stop contacting her and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
richard9 Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 Sounds like she doesnt know what she wants. One thing is clear, she only wants you as a friend. You could stay friends with her, and when things dont go her way with the other guy she will likely come to you for support. You may even end up sleeping together again, only for her to leave you once more. She only wants to be friends. Dont put yourself through more pain. Cut contact and start to heal. The alternative is to be used by someone while you have false hopes of getting bsck together. Its done. Link to post Share on other sites
steveT95 Posted August 15, 2013 Share Posted August 15, 2013 Your story is a perfect example of why everyone should initiate No Contact. You know what to do.. Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted August 16, 2013 Share Posted August 16, 2013 7 threads and OP still doesn't get the picture...then there's no hope now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
richard9 Posted August 16, 2013 Share Posted August 16, 2013 Sometimes it feels good to vent more than once. Sometimes it takes the same answers for it to really sink in. Give the guy a break. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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