miss_jaclynrae Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 I want to talk to someone about it, that someone being my mister, but with him being gone I just don't want him to worry. These past 3 nights in a row I have consumed a whole bottle of wine before bed each night. The reason it scares me is because I know the only reason why I am drinking is because I am lonely, bored, and sad. Not good reasons to be drinking, but it helps. I start around 7 in the afternoon, and by 9 I end up with a bottle gone, a nice little buzz, and the urge to sleep. Being that I have been having a hellbent time falling asleep being separated from him, it has been nice. Then around 1 or so I wake up, and talk to the mister and by then I feel fine. A part of me thinks that it is OK, I mean, I don't plan on drinking like this during school nights, but the other part of me is feeling extremely guilty and scared of getting too attached to the. I already look forward to opening a bottle tomorrow night. I just don't know if I am just being paranoid and letting my guilt [since boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic] get the best of me, or if I am portraying traits of an alcoholic. Forgive me for this post if it seems silly, I just felt like telling someone. I really wanted to tell the boyfriend, but I already know what he will say and I know it will just worry him. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 hey jackie, i am sorry your are missing your mister(how kewt ) not kewt that you are missing him that you call him your mister oh i give up...smilin atcha.... it does sound like you are using alcohol as a crutch to fall asleep, i know this is geeky but try chamomile tea before bedtime, lots better for you and no creeping up addiction like alcohol can do i am sure your mister is missing his miss too :bunny: and if you are looking forward to a bottle of alcohol and opening it the day before you plan too....i think that's when you know that you need watch out for that crutch because its going to bite your hand that pops the cork....best wishes to you and good luck..magic word of the day...chamomile..hugs.......deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted August 17, 2013 Author Share Posted August 17, 2013 hey jackie, i am sorry your are missing your mister(how kewt ) not kewt that you are missing him that you call him your mister oh i give up...smilin atcha.... it does sound like you are using alcohol as a crutch to fall asleep, i know this is geeky but try chamomile tea before bedtime, lots better for you and no creeping up addiction like alcohol can do i am sure your mister is missing his miss too :bunny: and if you are looking forward to a bottle of alcohol and opening it the day before you plan too....i think that's when you know that you need watch out for that crutch because its going to bite your hand that pops the cork....best wishes to you and good luck..magic word of the day...chamomile..hugs.......deb Thanks deb. Yeahhhh... tonight I am going to stay away. Chamomile is a good idea, I haven't thought of that, but I think I will. Thanks for the kind words. I just needed some positive reinforcement. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 I would be concerned. I'm concerned for you. A bottle a night is excessive. If it was a glass, totally fine. 4.5 glasses, alone? Not okay. Try tea or a plain Benadryl to get you to sleep. Get out and exercise HARD and get the natural endorphins going. Take care of yourself, otherwise your R is going to fall apart. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted August 17, 2013 Author Share Posted August 17, 2013 I would be concerned. I'm concerned for you. A bottle a night is excessive. If it was a glass, totally fine. 4.5 glasses, alone? Not okay. Try tea or a plain Benadryl to get you to sleep. Get out and exercise HARD and get the natural endorphins going. Take care of yourself, otherwise your R is going to fall apart. Just wanted to say, signed up for a gym membership just a few minutes ago! Going there tonight Thanks star, im worried about myself too. Hopefully this is the start of me getting out of my funk! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 18, 2013 Share Posted August 18, 2013 ambien......... Link to post Share on other sites
almond Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 Ambien is not a good idea at this point. If you're struggling to sleep - exercise throughout the day is incredibly helpful, so good work signing up to the gym! Keep busy, practice good sleep hygiene, and be active. Chamomile tea is also a good idea. Your alcohol consumption is a cause of concern, and your motivations for drinking make it even more problematic. Steer clear of the alcohol. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mercuryshadow Posted August 21, 2013 Share Posted August 21, 2013 Magnesium + calcium (i.e. tums) about 1/2 an hour before bedtime helps to lull you to sleep. It's a tranquil, pleasant feeling, and not harmful in the least. This is a good alternative. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 22, 2013 Share Posted August 22, 2013 Jaclyn, I know how it feels when the person you love is 1000 miles away, trust me, but you really need to try and handle it in a more constructive manner. I know it's easier said than done, but I feel compelled to say it anyway. What you are feeling is completely normal, you just need to find a way to cope healthily. Talk to a friend, or if there is nobody IRL who understands LDRs, then talk on the LDR forum. Find support and balance. Drinking usually makes stuff worse because it's a natural depressant, so you feel even worse afterwards. A glass is okay, a bottle a night is dangerous. It is also a naturally addictive substance, so if you continue this way for a long time, you'll end up physically dependent on alcohol, which will be a bitch to fix. Get rid of all the alcohol in your place so you won't be tempted. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author miss_jaclynrae Posted August 22, 2013 Author Share Posted August 22, 2013 Wanted to update you all. Firstly, thanks for the kind words, I really was scaring myself. After seeing what a few of you wrote, I literally that night went to the gym. Didn't have any wine at all. Since this post, I only enjoy ONE glass, and it is a small one, not to mention I now am on a workout routine! [my body is dying right now!] Two of the nights I didn't even drink due to being so damn exhausted. I feel better, and am motivated, so thank you all for everything. Sleep is still difficult, but it is getting better. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted August 22, 2013 Share Posted August 22, 2013 Glad to hear it, girl. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted August 22, 2013 Share Posted August 22, 2013 Glad you're feeling better. Link to post Share on other sites
robbysurfs Posted August 31, 2013 Share Posted August 31, 2013 In my experience if booze is taking up space in your mind like the obsession of how much you consume or how much you don't might be worth taking a look at. The reason I say this is because normal people actually drink without the thought or obsess over the drink. It could be some warning signs of early alcoholism plus the fact that your drinking alone is not really considered normal drinking habits but this is just my experience and what i have come to know about alcoholism. Link to post Share on other sites
keepontruckin Posted September 2, 2013 Share Posted September 2, 2013 Jacky, there are no hard and fast rules when dealing with any so called "vice"... The medical community tends to consider things a problem if they negatively affect you in some way, be it health, at work, in relationships, etc... For many, they do have problems that affect them in a negative fashion. And those issues should be addressed, whatever they are. If you want to drink a bottle of wine a day, and if that suits your needs, and doesn't affect the positives in your life, you are doing nothing wrong. If you enjoy it, and no negatives are created, you do what you want. Yes, keep yourself in check, but do what makes you happy, first and foremost... Link to post Share on other sites
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