californiagirlxo Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I met this gentleman online a few months ago. We texted everyday for 2 months before we met. We had this great connection where we seemed to care about each others lives and would talk about all the things we were going to do together once we met. I really was excited to finally meet him...I developed a crush on him. We were FB friends, instagram and snapchat friends so I knew he was the real deal. When we met, he was the same guy, just a bit nervous which I completely understand. We met twice, but I soon realized he was all talk. At each meeting he would plan all these elaborate things we were going to do, and never followed through. Just like the texts--extremely planned events that were never going to happen. I began to realize something about this guy--he would constantly become friends on FB with girls hours and hours and miles and miles away, like almost every single day. Also, his friends always joked around how he had an obsession with Tinder (quick easy way to meet girls/guys). His top snapchat buddies would change every week, so he pretty much rotates women. I feel like I was sucked into this mans fantasy world where he likes to keep women in this internet realm and once it's real life, he isn't interested. I find this to be really strange since he is drop dead gorgeous, successful, and has a sweet personality. I'm really sad that he kind of just 'dropped' me, but then I think about his strange internet addiction and maybe it wasn't me--it was his online fantasy becoming reality and he couldn't handle it. What do you think?
Balzac Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 What I think is why are you still thinking or wondering about him?
Author californiagirlxo Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 Because my feelings are still hurt and I'm just puzzled by all this.
Balzac Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 How many hours did you spend with him IN PERSON ???
Author californiagirlxo Posted August 17, 2013 Author Posted August 17, 2013 Why all the bolds and caps? Jeeze, only a few hours in person. My feelings are hurt about the situation which just **officially** ended yesterday.
whichwayisup Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 Be glad this has happened because this guy is addicted to meeting/flirting and playing with women online. He's more than likely married too! He has created an "online fantasy" world for himself to escape to and get ego feeds. We were FB friends, instagram and snapchat friends so I knew he was the real deal. No, this isn't/wasn't the real deal. If you had said "We met, he took me out to lunch, had a fantastic time and we're seeing one another tomorrow night for a dinner and a movie" then I'd tell you, possibly yes he could be the real deal. Even then, nobody is a real deal until enough time passes and you get to know them better. You don't know this guy at all, only what you see of online and what he wants you to know. Forget him and focus on meeting guys who have much more to offer than adding you on their social networks online. 1
scorpiogirl Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I've found this type of behaviour to be common in online dating. Shoot my ex boyfriend, whom I met online, was like this. They collect women, and even better if these women are far away because then they can have their egos stroked and make promises that will never materialise, without ever having to give anything real to the relationship. The ex had a folder on his computer with all the pictures he'd collected from hundreds of women. I did some investigating of his online life and found women in so many US states and other countries who thought he was coming for them. It gets them high fives from their equally immature friends. Most men I've encountered are interested in being text buddies who they can shoot off a message to when they're bored. Sorry but I don't text and certainly not for two months. Any man that will not pick up a phone to call me and make a date to see me, can shove his texts where the sun don't shine. And if more women required more of them, I wouldn't be seen as being so "high maintenance" because I don't want to communicate via text or FB or whatever other app they want to use. Don't have your feelings hurt over this. Nothing that happened between you was real. That's not meant to be an insult, it's merely a fact. I've been there. I agree with whichwayisup, My first thought too was that he was probably married.
StanMusial Posted August 17, 2013 Posted August 17, 2013 I met this gentleman online a few months ago. We texted everyday for 2 months before we met. We had this great connection where we seemed to care about each others lives and would talk about all the things we were going to do together once we met. I really was excited to finally meet him...I developed a crush on him. We were FB friends, instagram and snapchat friends so I knew he was the real deal. When we met, he was the same guy, just a bit nervous which I completely understand. We met twice, but I soon realized he was all talk. At each meeting he would plan all these elaborate things we were going to do, and never followed through. Just like the texts--extremely planned events that were never going to happen. I began to realize something about this guy--he would constantly become friends on FB with girls hours and hours and miles and miles away, like almost every single day. Also, his friends always joked around how he had an obsession with Tinder (quick easy way to meet girls/guys). His top snapchat buddies would change every week, so he pretty much rotates women. I feel like I was sucked into this mans fantasy world where he likes to keep women in this internet realm and once it's real life, he isn't interested. I find this to be really strange since he is drop dead gorgeous, successful, and has a sweet personality. I'm really sad that he kind of just 'dropped' me, but then I think about his strange internet addiction and maybe it wasn't me--it was his online fantasy becoming reality and he couldn't handle it. What do you think? I think you should call that guy from the show Catfish. What did you think was going to happen? Prince Charming would show up and make all your dreams come true? I think there is more than HIS online fantasy at play here.
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