abgilmore Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 Hi everyone, I could really use some advice. A little background first! My sister and I have never really gotten along all that well, we are just to different people with different ideas about life!. So my sister is about 8 months prego!, so I through her a baby shower three weeks ago ( being her only sister and all) I made my 8 years old daughter stay home from her weekend activities to help, and because it's her Aunt. So the shower goes okay, but my sister never even says thank you to me or my daughter. She doesn't even say goodbye to my daughter!!! Needless to say she was very upset and I was just plain old mad. I tried to call and talk to her but never got through and she never returned my calls, so I gave up and emailed her Friday. I told her exactly that I thought and how she made me and my daughter feel. So today I get an email from my brother in law, saying that I am jealous of my sister and always have been and that I am nothing but a bully for saying these things to her in her current state. Then goes on to say that they will no longer come to Christmas this year, because he will not subject his wife to my harressment. It was never my intention to cause a massive fight, I have always kept my mouth shut when she does hurtful things and couldn't do it anymore. What do I do!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 If your sister won't even respond directly to you, well, what can you do? Link to post Share on other sites
lostgirl26 Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 I agree, I know he is her husband and is only doing what he thinks is right, trying to protect her. However the email I assume was addressed to her and its her responsibility to respond. After years of living with dysfuctional families on both sides, mine and my husband's I have come to the conclusion that somewhere along the way of being raised someone skipped a step in advising the person or family member on what is proper conduct or appropriate behavior. Since she does not respond to you directly tells me that she really has no grasp on what the true reality of the problem is and people like this usually never learn. Its aggrivating because they are family but sometimes you have to lie low and not make any contact. Move on and live your life and try not to upset yourself with the situation. She may or may not realize what she has lost in the process. Link to post Share on other sites
kellydontwanttasleep Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 her husband should never have gotten in between you and your sister's relationship. comunicate directly with her and don't let your emotions take over when your talking to her. Link to post Share on other sites
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