ThisGal Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 Lol, you don't think thats too strong???? Maybe I just think thats cuz I'm a shy guy lol... We've already talked about going out when she comes back. We were talking the other night, and I said I was at some restaurant and that we have to go there when she gets back. She was like, promise?? and I was like, yeah! So, idk, I think she likes me, but I'm not sure. No, it's not too strong. It would not scare me off and I've been approached by a lot of men, even the shyest ones somehow got over their fear of rejection and approached me. At least you already know her so you have a good start. You're her friend, letting her know you're interested isn't going to turn her off, I'm sure she already knows, she's just waiting for you to confirm it; she needs the assurance. She's not clueless, I'm sure you act a certain way around her that has already hinted to you liking her. I'd rather the guy tell me than keep it a secret. Life's too short, go for it, man I don't know you but I wouldn't steer you wrong. You'll be fine. I'm expecting an update in a few days letting us know how it went lol. Be confident. You got this!
Author MightyHeracross Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 No, it's not too strong. It would not scare me off and I've been approached by a lot of men, even the shyest ones somehow got over their fear of rejection and approached me. At least you already know her so you have a good start. You're her friend, letting her know you're interested isn't going to turn her off, I'm sure she already knows, she's just waiting for you to confirm it; she needs the assurance. She's not clueless, I'm sure you act a certain way around her that has already hinted to you liking her. I'd rather the guy tell me than keep it a secret. Life's too short, go for it, man I don't know you but I wouldn't steer you wrong. You'll be fine. I'm expecting an update in a few days letting us know how it went lol. Be confident. You got this! Lol, I'm sure she does know I like her. Its not like she's a idiot, the way I act tells her I like her. Ill try to bring it up when we text, and get back to you. Thank you very much.
Author MightyHeracross Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 Ah OK, well she mentioned itso I guess she was at some point flattered that you asked her out. Then what? Then you continue the same way as you have. As long as you let her know there is an interest then you're off to a good start, but not saying anything is just pointless, she's not a mind-reader. How do you expect her to ever know that you like her? No, you're not a couple lol. Not until you both have established that you both want to take it to the next level and have made it official by you asking her to be your girlfriend and making it an exclusive relationship. BUT focus on the now...take baby steps...start with letting her know you're interested first. The rest will follow-suit. And I guess you're right, if I tell her I like her, and she says the same, were not a couple. Just because we went to the concert together, it doesn't make us a couple, right? But, what exactly is the point of saying it to her? If she says she likes me, we can't do anything about it for about 8 months. It would change nothing.
ThisGal Posted August 31, 2013 Posted August 31, 2013 (edited) And I guess you're right, if I tell her I like her, and she says the same, were not a couple. Just because we went to the concert together, it doesn't make us a couple, right? But, what exactly is the point of saying it to her? If she says she likes me, we can't do anything about it for about 8 months. It would change nothing. Um you're almost 20 years old, about to leave your teenage years, stop acting oblivious. Going to the concert of course does not make you two a couple We've already established that in the above post. It would change something! She would KNOW for sure how you feel. And it would open the doors for more communication and would bring you two closer (if she likes you also). And there are people who are in LDR who do not get to see their significant other for 8 months or more, so does that mean there is no point of them communicating? No. It still needs to be ongoing. Just let her know there is an interest and let me know how that goes. That's all you need to tell her...that scenario I posted above. Adios! Edited August 31, 2013 by ThisGal
Author MightyHeracross Posted August 31, 2013 Author Posted August 31, 2013 Um you're almost 20 years old, about to leave your teenage years, stop acting oblivious. Going to the concert of course does not make you two a couple We've already established that in the above post. It would change something! She would KNOW for sure how you feel. And it would open the doors for more communication and would bring you two closer (if she likes you also). And there are people who are in LDR who do not get to see their significant other for 8 months or more, so does that mean there is no point of them communicating? No. It still needs to be ongoing. Just let her know there is an interest and let me know how that goes. That's all you need to tell her...that scenario I posted above. Adios! Ill try to bring it up the next time I talk to her. Its tough to keep a convo going due to the time difference, but Ive been waking up early and going to bed late to talk to her, so Ill try. Anyways, as for the people in a long distance relationship, they are already in the relationship, we aren't. We are just friends right now. Also, in the scenario that you posted, when I ask about the boys there, what if she does say that she is getting with one of them? Just hooking up, not going out. Does that mean that she doesn't like me? I mean, we aren't in a relationship right now, so I wouldn't expect her to just abandon her romantic life for 8 months. And if she does ay that she's getting with one of them, what do I say? Wouldn't that make it awkward to tell her I like her? Lol, sorry, I like to have my doubts answered before I do pretty much anything.
Author MightyHeracross Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 no comment. no comment???? Whats that supposed to mean???
ThisGal Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 no comment???? Whats that supposed to mean??? LOL because I know if I comment on your last post you will have a boatload of other unimportant questions to deter you. You're just looking for a way to back out of letting her know you're interested
Author MightyHeracross Posted September 1, 2013 Author Posted September 1, 2013 LOL because I know if I comment on your last post you will have a boatload of other unimportant questions to deter you. You're just looking for a way to back out of letting her know you're interested lol, thats Probably true, but what if she is getting with another guy? What do I say then?
ThisGal Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 lol, thats Probably true, but what if she is getting with another guy? What do I say then? Lol then just move on to another topic. No need to question her about it unless you want to.
Author MightyHeracross Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 Lol then just move on to another topic. No need to question her about it unless you want to. BUt won't that just look awkward? Like, "hey, seeing any guys?" "yeah" "oh, well hows school going?" Like I think thats just pathetic, but something I would do
ThisGal Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 BUt won't that just look awkward? Like, "hey, seeing any guys?" "yeah" "oh, well hows school going?" Like I think thats just pathetic, but something I would do "Yes, I'm seeing some guys" "Oh you are, is it anything serious?" ...................... Let her know you're interested already! lol
Author MightyHeracross Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 "Yes, I'm seeing some guys" "Oh you are, is it anything serious?" ...................... Let her know you're interested already! lol Trust me... I would!! Its tough... We only have like 2 minute texting convos because of the time change, and I can't just start a convo by saying that I'm interested lol. When she texts me when she wakes up, we text for about 5 minutes then she's at school, so if I get a couple texts before like 1230am (my time, 1230pm her time), I'm lucky. Then at night (for her, morning for me) she's usually doing homework or getting ready for bed. So well usually text a bit then, but its just tough. IM sure you understand that. Theres gotta be the right mood/flow in the convo for me to say it. lol, Iwill, but I'm just being patient waiting for my chance so I don't weird her out
ThisGal Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Well you know when the time feels right, go at your own pace
Author MightyHeracross Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Well you know when the time feels right, go at your own pace Okay, I plan to haha. Thank you. Id like to try to tell her this week. Well see what happens, but that is my tentative plan. If she says she is seeing someone, or getting with someone, will that friendzone me? If she is getting with someone, do I still tell her how I feel?
ThisGal Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Okay, I plan to haha. Thank you. Id like to try to tell her this week. Well see what happens, but that is my tentative plan. If she says she is seeing someone, or getting with someone, will that friendzone me? If she is getting with someone, do I still tell her how I feel? Yay! Sounds good. I'll make sure to sign in to see any updates from you No, does not mean you are friend-zoned just because she's seeing someone, depends on their dating situation. Yes, you should still tell her.
Author MightyHeracross Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Yay! Sounds good. I'll make sure to sign in to see any updates from you No, does not mean you are friend-zoned just because she's seeing someone, depends on their dating situation. Yes, you should still tell her. But If I ask about her, and say like "is it anything serious?" doesn't that kinda mean that I'm interested as a friend and Im happy for her? I just don't want to say something and regret it later... its happened before and I don't want to go back down that road with her:confused:
ThisGal Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 But If I ask about her, and say like "is it anything serious?" doesn't that kinda mean that I'm interested as a friend and Im happy for her? I just don't want to say something and regret it later... its happened before and I don't want to go back down that road with her:confused: Oyyyyy It means the complete opposite, that's why you're inquiring if she's in a relationship or not because you're interested and hoping she's not already taken.
Author MightyHeracross Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 Oyyyyy It means the complete opposite, that's why you're inquiring if she's in a relationship or not because you're interested and hoping she's not already taken. Hey, sorry, I've been pretty busy this past week. Haven't even been online in a while. Just started back up with classes. Anyways, so if she says that she is in a relationship, does saying "is it serious?" basically tell her I like her? Or do I still have to say that separately?
ThisGal Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 Hey, sorry, I've been pretty busy this past week. Haven't even been online in a while. Just started back up with classes. Anyways, so if she says that she is in a relationship, does saying "is it serious?" basically tell her I like her? Or do I still have to say that separately? Ugh more questions on the same damn topic!?! Lol. Do this girl a favor and don't pursue her. You're not capable of having a girlfriend. GL with your classes.
Author MightyHeracross Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 Ugh more questions on the same damn topic!?! Lol. Do this girl a favor and don't pursue her. You're not capable of having a girlfriend. GL with your classes. lol, I think Im very capable. Why don't you think I am? I just really care about her and don't want to screw it up. And thanks... about the classes lol
Author MightyHeracross Posted September 9, 2013 Author Posted September 9, 2013 lol, I think Im very capable. Why don't you think I am? I just really care about her and don't want to screw it up. And thanks... about the classes lol Bump??? ThisGal where are you when I need you? lol
Author MightyHeracross Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 Did you pop the question? did I pop what question?
Author MightyHeracross Posted September 11, 2013 Author Posted September 11, 2013 Ugh more questions on the same damn topic!?! Lol. Do this girl a favor and don't pursue her. You're not capable of having a girlfriend. GL with your classes. ThisGal?? Where have you been? I can't PM you, or I would've. I hope you haven't forgotten about me. Im curious why you don't think I'm capable...
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