My ex-gf cheated on her new bf with me, should I tell him?

[happydate]

She's been dating this guy for a month. We've hooked up several times, and we both have feelings for each other, though neither of us want to be with each other again. She cut me off a week ago, after she told him about how she's been cheating with me.

 

Knowing her, however, I know she didn't tell him the whole truth, and definitely understated the level of cheating, while probably making me seem like a sex abuser or something. And she also said that she is denying to him that she has feelings for me still, even though she's told me multiple times how she still likes me.

 

I want to email him with the whole truth. Everyone tells me not to. But I am so angry and upset over this. She just cut me off and acts like I don't exist. And she said some really terrible and hurtful things to me before we stopped talking, just because she felt guilty about all that we've done.

 

I am aware that I will push her away if I do this. But it doesn't matter since she doesn't want me back no matter what anyway. And I don't think I want her either.

 

As painful as the breakup was, it is 10x more painful to see her with another man. So I figure if I can break them up, I will at least not have to see her with someone else. And it's not like I'll be making stuff up to end them, I will be telling only the truth of what happened, and how she feels towards me, which she is clearly lying to him about. I am so hurt/angry over the way she treated me, so I want this revenge so bad.

 

And worse, I'll feel like a dud if I don't do it. And my indecisiveness is driving me crazy. So I figure that if I just do it, I can at least stop torturing myself.

 

Any advice is appreciated. To people who have done this before, how does it feel? Thanks for all help.

 

There's no point. She'll do it to this new BF and then the next, then the next. The only person who will suffer is herself. When she gets to her 40s and 50s, those nasty manipulative stuff she does will catch up to her.

 

Leave and walk away. Revenge and other stuff is for immature and loosers. I hope you're not. But you have the right to be angry, but then get used to it because this won't be the last gal who do you. Why are you attracting dominating and manipulative girls like her? Think about that.

[flitzanu]

i dont get the point. you knew she had a bf when tou were banging her. now that she stopped you act like this is brand new information.

[lovesucks76]

This is messed up and if it was me I would run as far away from her as I could. That's another "deal breaker" for me. She cheated on her BF with her ex and then dumps her ex again and goes back to the cheated BF. That's horrible! Sorry to say this, but who the F@ck cares now whether he knows or not about her cheating with you? Not your problem anymore. This alone would make it easier for me to move on with my life and focus on getting healthy again.

[Sparkle304]

Be the better person and just walk away. It is much HARDER to walk, but ultimately you'll be stronger for it. In a few months, you can look back on this situation and smile realizing that you disentangled yourself from this mess. If you confront her new BF, the only that will be accomplished is more drama for yourself. And more drama means more headaches and heartache for you........and that takes your focus away from finding the person who you really want. I understand that she hurt you, but returning the favour will not get you the results you want. Learn from Ghandi: "An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind".

[barky2]

I can advise you on what to do...but then it'd be contradicting to what I did.

 

I , yes told her bf at the time..even sent a video....spiteful and immature I know.

 

In the end she resented me for it.

 

And delayed her return to me because of it.

 

 

 

 

Barky