maidai Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 (edited) For me I don't think I did. When myself and ex split up he owed and still owes me an amount of money. Even though I had instigated no contact he used his position as a police officer to benefit himself and his wife and had his colleague call me to warn me off contacting them. I stated at the time I had no intention of keeping any contact BUT that an amount of money was outstanding lent in good faith and I would be greatful for the return. Colleague let me know he was aware of the money and that a guarantee had been made to return the money on payday. The money has not been forthcoming. I STILL do not want ANY form of contact with the ex however having abused his position I also did not want him to think he had got away with not returning the money because plain and simply I need it to cover my bills. Today I have emailed the colleague, I have re itterated again that I have no desire to have any contact with ex have kept to that side of my deal and although reassured by both him and the ex that the money would be returned it has not been. Once the money is returned then there is no need for either of us to even think about each other again, this is annoying me as to why he has not returned it it would make things cut and dry. I have specified the money to be returned through a third party. The money amounts to two weeks wages and to be honest I can not afford to not have this money back. This was not about contact with my ex in any way shape or form souly what I am owed and need. It still does not change my feelings towards him if anything it re itterates what a complete git he was not to even make sure I was paid back. Edited August 17, 2013 by maidai Link to post Share on other sites
whatatangledweb Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 I would not call that breaking no contact. I don't think you will get the money back this way. I would take him to small claims court. The cost to file is not very much. He could claim you are harassing him, no matter the reason for the contact. That's why I would sue him for the money. Link to post Share on other sites
Author maidai Posted August 17, 2013 Author Share Posted August 17, 2013 Well fingers crossed it HAS had a successful outcome. Had an email back from co worker to say it has been arranged for the money to be handed to him tomorrow and unless they get called out on an incident it will be returned to me. I am ecstatic. The only thing I stood to lose in those whole mess was financially. He put himself into this position involving a colleague and as I emailed them officially they have had to act. I was not harrasing him he involved the co worker so that is his own undoing and to me a very good example of karma coming into play and how every action can and does often have a consequence. There was no need for me to be warned off I had no intention of having any form of contact with the ass again. TOMORROW signifies my new complete beginning. My new life. There will never ever ever be a need for me to utter that mans name again or to even entertain the fact he was in my life. Tonight I am a very happy and moreso FREE woman. I can not thank everyone here enough for the support I have received over this last two weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
whatatangledweb Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 Congrats!! I am so happy for you that it turned out well. Link to post Share on other sites
waytogo Posted August 17, 2013 Share Posted August 17, 2013 Well fingers crossed it HAS had a successful outcome. Had an email back from co worker to say it has been arranged for the money to be handed to him tomorrow and unless they get called out on an incident it will be returned to me. I am ecstatic. The only thing I stood to lose in those whole mess was financially. He put himself into this position involving a colleague and as I emailed them officially they have had to act. I was not harrasing him he involved the co worker so that is his own undoing and to me a very good example of karma coming into play and how every action can and does often have a consequence. There was no need for me to be warned off I had no intention of having any form of contact with the ass again. TOMORROW signifies my new complete beginning. My new life. There will never ever ever be a need for me to utter that mans name again or to even entertain the fact he was in my life. Tonight I am a very happy and moreso FREE woman. I can not thank everyone here enough for the support I have received over this last two weeks. It does sound good I'll feel best when you post you have the $ in your hand. This guy left an out, unless. MM left outstanding business. He could actually be accused of harassment to use a fellow officer to intimidate you to try to get out of paying his debt. I do hope he simply pays. If not you should take him to small claims. A cop does NOT trump a judge Link to post Share on other sites
Author maidai Posted August 19, 2013 Author Share Posted August 19, 2013 (edited) Result. As promised colleague contacted me last night and HAD been to retrieve the money. When they called to return it to me I was actually out at the pub with my girlfriends so they bought it to me, not sitting at home in my pj's. I can tell that they think I handled it all very well and had a healthy respect for me having only heard what they had been told and asked to warn me off when I had no intention of contact. HE created the embarrasement he has now had to deal with with his colleague who is also his boss having to handle this situation when he would have in no way expected me to take this route. I don't play games. I don't set out to hurt people. I don't set out to be disrespectful and cruel. He did all 3. I really hope now that he has learnt that after our 18mnths together I know him better than he knew himself. He did not know me at all. He mistook my kindness for weakness and did not credit me with being a strong, calm, intelligent woman. I also got the chance to close the door and asked the other officer to make it completely clear that once the marriage compartment breaks again if it does *my* compartment is no longer available and HE is under no uncertain terms to attempt to contact me again in any capicity. I do not play games. He does. I aced him. Today is a beautiful day. The sun is shining. I have lovely friends, a beautiful son and my first Grandchild on the way. Today is a good day. How is he feeling and how will he feel for the rest of his life. Who cares. That really is not my problem anymore its hers. He will in time regret what he lost/what we had. He is going to have to learn to live with that and deal with it. His euphoria I have no doubt is already on the way back down. He took me to rock bottom two weeks ago and instead of clawing my way back up I have held my head up high, kept my dignity and am already well on my way back to the top. Edited August 19, 2013 by maidai 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whatatangledweb Posted August 19, 2013 Share Posted August 19, 2013 Good for you ! Now you can be free of him and he knows to stay away. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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