We love each other, but can't be together

[NadarCyn]

I an unsettle guy who still live at his parent house. I've 22yrs

 

I am stuck. I've fallen madly in love with a girl and who says she loves me too. However she is married. (She said that she loves her husband too. But she said that her husband doesn't treat her like any husband should treat there wife.)

 

We known each other since 1 year and before we were just good friends and at that time she was cheating her husband with another guys (which i managed to make him go) as he was just a jerk the other one.

 

After one year we had started to have deep feeling towards each other and I admit we even slept together just 4 times.

 

Then recently her husband catch us together and told his wife that she has to choose between him or me.

And without any surprise she choose her husband but she tried to commit suicide because she can't stop loving me. she told me that she don't wanna choose and prefer to go away rather than choosing.

 

Then I told her that I've to go abroad to finish my education. Then she told me go finish my education then when i come back and i'll be settle with a good job all that a settle guy needs. That I come to kidnap her.

 

So I was asking myself is it right to kidnap her when i come back, will she follow me when i come back.

To be clear I just don't know what to do I love that girl madly I just can't live without her. However I just don't to wreck there home. I'm ready to go away even if I know that I will suffer a lot just to not break there home but she don't want me to go. when I told her that we should stop being in contact she don't understand.

 

I really don't know what to do. I'm completely lost.

Please help, any advice would be good

Please judge me the way you want there is no problem as I just want to know what to do.

Weather kidnap her after i've been settle or just let her think that i'll do it. And when I came back after those years she is good relation with her husband. Please help me

[fanine]

I an unsettle guy who still live at his parent house. I've 22yrs

 

I am stuck. I've fallen madly in love with a girl and who says she loves me too. However she is married. (She said that she loves her husband too. But she said that her husband doesn't treat her like any husband should treat there wife.)

 

We known each other since 1 year and before we were just good friends and at that time she was cheating her husband with another guys (which i managed to make him go) as he was just a jerk the other one.

 

After one year we had started to have deep feeling towards each other and I admit we even slept together just 4 times.

 

Then recently her husband catch us together and told his wife that she has to choose between him or me.

And without any surprise she choose her husband but she tried to commit suicide because she can't stop loving me. she told me that she don't wanna choose and prefer to go away rather than choosing.

 

Then I told her that I've to go abroad to finish my education. Then she told me go finish my education then when i come back and i'll be settle with a good job all that a settle guy needs. That I come to kidnap her.

 

So I was asking myself is it right to kidnap her when i come back, will she follow me when i come back.

To be clear I just don't know what to do I love that girl madly I just can't live without her. However I just don't to wreck there home. I'm ready to go away even if I know that I will suffer a lot just to not break there home but she don't want me to go. when I told her that we should stop being in contact she don't understand.

 

I really don't know what to do. I'm completely lost.

Please help, any advice would be good

Please judge me the way you want there is no problem as I just want to know what to do.

Weather kidnap her after i've been settle or just let her think that i'll do it. And when I came back after those years she is good relation with her husband. Please help me

 

Kidnap? That seems an odd word to use. To kidnap someone is to take them against their will. Either she goes of her own free will or not. It is up to her to sort that out.

[NadarCyn]

Yes i Know that but she never told me that she is ready to come with me directly

she just told when i come back take her thats all

[scatterd]

She was given a choice to choose you and she did not. If I was you I would concentrate on your schooling and let her figure out what she needs to do. Later if she decides to leave you can be with her. You have a whole live ahead of you. I know this is painful for you both but

as long as she stays married you will both be unhappy. Maybe when you come back she will be divorced. I wish you happiness good luck.

[NadarCyn]

Thanks for the advice. That what I'll do complete my study and settle my life and then if she want to come with i'll take her....

[waytogo]

Nader, this is no way a mean observation I make. I get the sense English is not your first language. The reason I state this is to point out how many great things are in your life. If I'm correct you've already experienced at least 2 cultures and have the ability to function in them.

 

You have the opportunity to study abroad EXCITING! This is possibly the chance to learn a 3rd if not more, culture?

 

You are 22. That is for sure an age of a man but still a very young one. I just may find an article of clothing 22 yrs old that I can still wear

 

You have such an exciting time to look forward to. Before I'd ever spend $1 on a lottery ticket, I'd bet $ you will be accomplishing yourself and find someone available to your interest well before this MW has finished thing about you.

 

You have so much to look forward to. I encourage you to go enjoy every bit of it