tsg Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 I need some advice from a females prospective. It all started one Sunday afternoon at a mutual friends house, that's where I met Traci for the first time. I walked in the kitchen and there she was sitting at the table, we began to talk and soon found ourselves in a conversation like we were old friends. It was as if no one else was around. I felt as if there was a light shining on her. Well we didn't see each other for another month. I was working in the music business and she is a school teacher. The Band was playing in town and I called a friend of hers to invite them both to the show. I told her friend that I hadn't stop thinking about her since we met. I knew Traci wasn't seeing anyone so I asked her for her number, and she gave it me. We began to call each other and soon after we started dating. Things couldn't be better. Then we talked about her coming to live with me in the summer. We wanted to spend more time with each other and this was the only way we could. She lived 500 miles away from me. Soon after she moved in we began to argue, I tried to tell her she couldn't go on the road with me all the time, but she replied then I will drive my own car and follow you. My job was stressful enough and this just added to the stress. I didn't want to hurt her so I tried to keep it all inside. As the weeks went on we began to argue more, usually because she had way of making me late. Soon it was time for her to go back to Austin, she's a high school coach and the season was starting. We decided that I would move to Austin in August. I quit my job so that I could move. On August 17th I moved into the house we had rented. I had doubts if I was doing the right thing. I tried to talk to her her before I moved about the problems between us, she assured me that we work things out when we were together. We had only been living together for a week and we had another argument. She told me she didn't think things were going to work out between us. I didn't have a job and felt like I had reached the lowest point in my life. After another six weeks and I still had not found a job she asked her friend from college to move in with us. I knew it was just a matter of time before I would be asked to leave again. Shortly there after Traci called me and asked me to leave. I packed a few clothes got my dog and guitar and was headed home. Since we broke up I've tried to talk to her and see if she thought it was possible to try again. At first she said yes. I kept calling her and I've now pushed her so far away she will not return my calls and seldom replies to my email's. I still have to get the rest of my furniture out of the house. I was not very nice to Traci, I would get mad at her for small things. I've tried to convince her that I'm not like this, I've always been a happy person. My friends would say I was the most laid back person, I never let anything bother me. My question is, Is there any hope to work things out with Traci, I love her so much and would like to try again in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
zara Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 Sorry to say this but it sounds as though you two just weren't meant to be. Sometimes in life we meet people we connect with quite intensely but that does not necessarily mean that they are someone who is right for us romantically. You found out that you just didn't get on when it comes to those things that matter and you need to ask yourself if you really want to put yourself through more painful arguments and breakups, because it sounds as though this is a pattern of behaviour that would repeat without end. Get your life back on track and next time take things a little slower. There is that special girl out there somewhere... Link to post Share on other sites
Author tsg Posted November 8, 2004 Author Share Posted November 8, 2004 Maybe this is just me, But if you both felt the same once isn't possible to have those feelings again. I know right now she needs space. She probably will start dating again and soon. I do know that I was her first serious relationship in the past six years and I was the first guy she has ever taken to meet her entire family. I'm not discounting your advice as not what I want to hear, but I think some people tend to give up to easily. Link to post Share on other sites
RoboRoy Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 Tsg, I was in the same spot as you. i lost a wonderful girlfriend of 5 months because of a few arguements in 1 day. She did not like the fact that I raised my voice and it scared her. Today she will not respond to me.. I no longer want her back in my life.. I had to learn to forgive myself for my part in the fights. The rest is up to her She knows how I feel , it has been 2 months since the breakup. To answer your question the best way to get is NC , Take care of yourself live your life without her. If one day she wants to get you back.. then you can decide what to do on your terms not hers RoboRoy Link to post Share on other sites
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