BeholdtheMan Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 I would like to get emails from my wife's affair partner so that I could know the truth.Maybe you could...I dunno...leave her? Link to post Share on other sites
waterwoman Posted September 10, 2013 Share Posted September 10, 2013 He (xAP's H) does have contact details of both me and my wife. He hasn't tried to contact as yet. I do get hang-up calls at work a fair bit though... Thanks, yes it has put an end to her pursuit. NC stands untarnished to this day. As for the doubters who stick to the 2-5 year rule and anything less is "rug-sweeping" etc... well, maybe that's true in general, but in our case there are several perhaps unusual factors. Wife (actually GF of over 20 years with two adult children out of home) and I were in a very bad place emotionally, she has depression, me less than attentive. This A has shaken our tree so much that we have fallen deeply in love with each other (recall GF had her own EA shortly after my PA) and she has accepted my marriage proposal She has "shaken off" her depression, both of us lost a lot of weight (now healthy weight) and go out clubbing most weekends... having a ball. So we have both experienced both sides of an A as a WS / BS. Being a BS stills like hell, but NC on both sides has been perfect. She still occasionally checks my phone, but I don't mind at all. I trust her completely. The checks are getting rarer and rarer, and only when she is a little bit blue in general. You think this will flare up in the future still and turn bad? thanks for your support. Turns bad? Probably not, but things might become more challenging. Just as long as you are prepared for the possibility and are willing to work through it and be patient you will do OK? Congrats on the engagement. Good luck x Link to post Share on other sites
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