Ex-gf of one year texted me this after 4 months of no contact..

[sean101]

My ex and I were together for a year, we broke up, and she texted me this the other day. She said she was so sorry for everything that happened, that she hoped the best for me and saw me the other day. I waited till the next day to text her back, and we had a really good conversation catching up. I definitely still have feelings for her, and I think she does too. It's been three days since i talked to her. Should I text her first of should I wait for her to text me again?

extra info-- we broke up over something stupid.. It was not a long thought out decision, it was just a stupid fight one day, and we were both too prideful to step up first.. i didnt talk to her for about 2 weeks, and she started dating someone else.. but they are now broken up

[FitChick]

Is she in a 12-Step program? They are required to apologize to people they've wronged.

[GB25]

Welcome to LS,

I personally believe that your ex texted you as kind of her way of saying she has moved on with her life, and that there is no bad blood on her end. She is finally in a place to admit that she was wrong to hurt you. However, I would not get your hopes up too much. Afterall, there were reasons you all broke up in the first place, and reasons she monkey branched in to a new relationship within a few weeks of you two breaking up. Keep things friendly and casual with her, but still keep her at an distance. Last thing you need is to start feeling all the old feelings for her, and then she ends up hurting you again. Play it cool, see where things go, but don't invest too much in to pipe dreams.

 

Good luck,

 

Will

 

 

I disagree...if she had moved on with her life whats the point of texting after 4 friggin months to let him know..nah she broke up with her bf and is testing the waters to see if you are possibly still interested...

 

After 4 months to text an ex to tell them you have moved on and your sorry just seems fishy..its like umm ok thanks i havent talked to you in 4 months...thanks for letting me know your over me..

[RogerWallace111]

You're gonna get people responding saying:

 

1. She's giving you "breadcrumbs" or just seeking personal closure and doesn't have any interest in you. They'll add something kind of cold like "She dumped you, man. Do yourself favor and have some dignity, don't make any more contact with her."

 

2. She's lonely after her rebound thing didn't work out, so she's testing the water with you to see if coming back is an option, and whether it's an appealing one. If they're the type who really likes the smell of their own farts they'll say something like "sorry to say it, but you're the backup plan".

 

3. Maybe she does still have feelings for you, you've gotta follow your heart, you'll never know what you might have missed out on if you don't pursue it. Text her. They'll say "You only live once!"

 

 

I'm not gonna read too much into her motivation for being back in touch, but if I had to guess I'd say it's a combination of 2 & 3. And regardless, I'd say plan of action should be the same- text/call her as you like. Don't bother playing any games of showing disinterest in hopes of it bringing her to you. Someone will probably come on here saying "Don't contact her. If she really wants to be with you she'll make it happen." Unfortunately, pride and fear of rejection render that theory worthless, especially after 4 months when the other party may have had a chance to "move on". I say go for what you want. Just play it coolish and don't get too worked up.

Edited August 19, 2013 by RogerWallace111

[xpaperxcutx]

I call BS.

 

It's because she broke up with the rebound guy, and she's looking for someone to feed her ego, and who else to do except the ex she cold hardly broke up with.

 

I had a guy contact me on New Year's Eve after 6 months of NC. He knew I was in a relationship after he harshly broke up with me, but he decided to worm his way into my life trying to disrupt my relationship with my bf. I got rid of him by blocking him and changing my number.