8 Months after break up, never feel better

[Panda87]

Hello guys, happy to be back here. Looking back at my old post, i realize my life was full of emotion before. Heavy at heart everyday, life is so miserable.

 

Oh well, you know what guys? what i learnt from the previous breakup, there is always someone else for you and happiness comes from within. Someone better that will fill in your heart again, dont expect but have faith.

 

Good news, i have found my new sunshine that brighten my day again after living in the dark. I never imagine i could feel this way again, i always think it will never be the same i could never fall in love again.

 

I feel so blessed to have her, i feel complete again. Is the feeling that i cant describe, you just that happy. I can be myself when i'm with her and how great it feels to love someone that love you for who you are? I really want her to be the last place for my heart to stay. Sadly, its LD relationship but you know what this distance never stop me to loving her more and more each day. I hope i can hold her hands soon, hug her tightly and never let go.

 

So guys, dont give up in love. This is just life we need to go through, there is always light in the darkest place. Anybody can vent in my post, i'll listen and advice if i could help. Stay happy!

[Chris715]

9 months post break up for me. Still haven't gotten over her even though she really wants nothing to do with me anymore. I have family and friends but feel completely alone in my life because that one huge piece of it that I had before is gone now. I'm glad you've found happiness again. I'm in a place right now where it feels hopeless. I'll never find someone again who makes me happy, who understands me, who will love me as much as I love them.

 

Anyway, good to see some people climbing out of this.

[Soat]

One line you need to think about. "I feel complete again" is very dysfunctional. If you need a relationship to feel complete you have some thinking to do. This mindset can lead to very bad decisions etc.

[iouaname]

Congratulations!

 

I'm also 8 months post-breakup. Unfortunately, I'm still struggling, but I'm glad to see that it has gotten better for some people. Maybe it will for me, too.

[randomX]

Great that you found someone new that fast

[Panda87]

Hi Soat, thanks for the comment. Regarding on how i feel complete again

I totally understand if some people might not necessary agree on this. I know some people think you must be happy on yourself first. Thats the healthy way i suppose. But for me, myself i know my capacity of feeling complete and happy. For me to have that both i need to love and be loved by someone. It just me, i feel more alive when i know i have someone that i love, loving me back i guess everybody has their own happiness? Hehe hope you find yours too

[mtnbiker3000]

OP - You do realize this mentality is only setting you up to be crushed/devasted again? Especially when you are already feeling this way regarding someone you have never actually met before (LDR)? Be careful. You are asking for another disappointment/heartbreak!!

[Panda87]

OP - You do realize this mentality is only setting you up to be crushed/devasted again? Especially when you are already feeling this way regarding someone you have never actually met before (LDR)? Be careful. You are asking for another disappointment/heartbreak!!

 

Hi mtn, heartbreak is the risk of falling in love. I know that, but i wont give up on love just because i know i might get another heartbreak? You just got to accept it just life, you may not know what will happen. So i just enjoy it enjpy day by day. Also we need to have this mentality of being positive when you see someone happy i met her already, this is why i can confirm i really love her.

 

Bless all of you, stay strong.

[reddragon588]

9 months post break up for me. Still haven't gotten over her even though she really wants nothing to do with me anymore. I have family and friends but feel completely alone in my life because that one huge piece of it that I had before is gone now. I'm glad you've found happiness again. I'm in a place right now where it feels hopeless. I'll never find someone again who makes me happy, who understands me, who will love me as much as I love them.

 

Anyway, good to see some people climbing out of this.

 

I've been in this place before, in previous breakups, and even a bit in this current one.

 

I can tell you one thing that is 100% fact- you will find someone again that makes you happy, understands you and loves you as much as you love them. There are almost 6 billion people in the world- there is at least one person out there like that- maybe more! You just have to be willing to find them!

 

This is my opinion, but I think a lot of people will agree: you won't find that person until you are able to feel complete by yourself. There is a lot of truth to the saying that you can't love someone else until you love yourself. It sounds kinda funny, but once you're able to feel complete by being alone, that's when you'll find that other half.

 

Go out there, start to love yourself- find out more about what you want and what you like. What do you want to do with your life? Where do you want to live? What are you looking for in a relationship (platonic or romantic)? Find the answers to these questions. Define your individual identity. These are the kinds of things that will help you! I'm doing these very things right now. I don't think I love myself and have the kind of self-confidence I need to be able to have a successful relationship- so I'm working on defining myself and finding out who I am and what I want. I have to say, it's hard, it's scary, but it also a ton of fun and I'm starting to actually be happy again after really struggling through the first 2 1/2 months of my BU.