paranoia

[Dali]

look, I know this sounds insane and I don't even know what kind of advice to expect from this.. but I have this problem.. I went out with this guy for a couple of years and he was a nut. Every time I broke up with him he would stalk me and a couple of times I almost had to put a restraining order on him because he would constantly show up outside my window in the middle of the night. He was very possesive and neurotic, I won't get into all the scary details.. but to be blunt he is a male version of the character of Glenn Close in the Movie "Fatal Attraction"

 

A little over a year ago I finally got him to leave me alone. He stopped talking to me completely and from the last conversation I had with him he seemed totally normal.

 

In fact, I heard that he had a girlfriend and was happy.

 

I didn't so much as catch a glimpse of him in THE PAST YEAR.

 

This was a suprise because for three years he would show up EVERYWHERE.

 

The problem starts here,and I may just be paranoid.. BUT I have a new job at this video store. I have worked there for a month.. Last week "Glenn Close" came into the store.

 

I wasn't there that day, but one of my co workers spotted him (and knew him from previous experience) and told me a few days ago. "Glenn" didn't rent anything, he just walked in and looked around and then walked out. In fact he hasn't even rented from the store in over one year. Normally this wouldn't seem like cause for alarm.. but considering the past I have had with "Glenn" I am now so nervous at work that I am practically having anxiety attacks that he is going to walk in the door. It's probably coincidence, but lately I have been so nervous I can barely think straight.

 

I'm sure it's paranoia. But i dont know.

[Lisa]

I think you may have a serious problem with this person. You should contact your local women's organization or Domestic Violence Clinic, not that he has abused you but they may be able to give you good advice on how to deal with this. Also try the District Attorney's office, they frequently have good advice. And condier gettting another job and not having your current job provide any information as to where you are.

look, I know this sounds insane and I don't even know what kind of advice to expect from this.. but I have this problem.. I went out with this guy for a couple of years and he was a nut. Every time I broke up with him he would stalk me and a couple of times I almost had to put a restraining order on him because he would constantly show up outside my window in the middle of the night. He was very possesive and neurotic, I won't get into all the scary details.. but to be blunt he is a male version of the character of Glenn Close in the Movie "Fatal Attraction" A little over a year ago I finally got him to leave me alone. He stopped talking to me completely and from the last conversation I had with him he seemed totally normal. In fact, I heard that he had a girlfriend and was happy. I didn't so much as catch a glimpse of him in THE PAST YEAR. This was a suprise because for three years he would show up EVERYWHERE. The problem starts here,and I may just be paranoid.. BUT I have a new job at this video store. I have worked there for a month.. Last week "Glenn Close" came into the store.

 

I wasn't there that day, but one of my co workers spotted him (and knew him from previous experience) and told me a few days ago. "Glenn" didn't rent anything, he just walked in and looked around and then walked out. In fact he hasn't even rented from the store in over one year. Normally this wouldn't seem like cause for alarm.. but considering the past I have had with "Glenn" I am now so nervous at work that I am practically having anxiety attacks that he is going to walk in the door. It's probably coincidence, but lately I have been so nervous I can barely think straight.

 

I'm sure it's paranoia. But i dont know.

 

[LoveAngel]

Now now now.. hold on just a second... His behavior in the past was, yes, inappropriate. But you've said that he's stopped that and moved on with his life. Just because he enters a video store and doesn't leave with anything, does *NOT* mean that he's started stalking you again. Don't go jumping to conclusions. For now, just ignore him and live your life realizing that probably going to see him in passing again. And should he choose to rent a video from your store, he has every right to do so, so long as he does not harass you. Wait. If the situation arises again, then take this to someone who can help you, including your local crime/protection agency or one of the organizations Lisa mentioned. Don't let this get the best of you. Right now, most likely than not, you're being paranoid. He's moved on. Now it's your turn.

 

Best wishes,

 

LoveAngel

I think you may have a serious problem with this person. You should contact your local women's organization or Domestic Violence Clinic, not that he has abused you but they may be able to give you good advice on how to deal with this. Also try the District Attorney's office, they frequently have good advice. And condier gettting another job and not having your current job provide any information as to where you are.

[Not to Be Paranoid]

Hello,

 

When you and this guy went out you may have

 

had a really great time from HIS standpoint. He

 

still has many memories to think about.

 

Unless he caused you reason to think he would

 

harm you he may be totally harmless,yet loving.

 

So many women these don't really know it when they

 

meet a quality guy that they bag him and classify him a "NUT". If you see this person you should say " hi" and

 

stop acting like PREY.

 

Good Guy

look, I know this sounds insane and I don't even know what kind of advice to expect from this.. but I have this problem.. I went out with this guy for a couple of years and he was a nut. Every time I broke up with him he would stalk me and a couple of times I almost had to put a restraining order on him because he would constantly show up outside my window in the middle of the night. He was very possesive and neurotic, I won't get into all the scary details.. but to be blunt he is a male version of the character of Glenn Close in the Movie "Fatal Attraction" A little over a year ago I finally got him to leave me alone. He stopped talking to me completely and from the last conversation I had with him he seemed totally normal. In fact, I heard that he had a girlfriend and was happy. I didn't so much as catch a glimpse of him in THE PAST YEAR. This was a suprise because for three years he would show up EVERYWHERE. The problem starts here,and I may just be paranoid.. BUT I have a new job at this video store. I have worked there for a month.. Last week "Glenn Close" came into the store.

 

I wasn't there that day, but one of my co workers spotted him (and knew him from previous experience) and told me a few days ago. "Glenn" didn't rent anything, he just walked in and looked around and then walked out. In fact he hasn't even rented from the store in over one year. Normally this wouldn't seem like cause for alarm.. but considering the past I have had with "Glenn" I am now so nervous at work that I am practically having anxiety attacks that he is going to walk in the door. It's probably coincidence, but lately I have been so nervous I can barely think straight.

 

I'm sure it's paranoia. But i dont know.